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AAkasha -> RE: I have one more question please. (7/14/2012 3:59:54 PM)
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ORIGINAL: DesiresFury
What does it mean when your guy says, "I want to be your bitch?" I could never figure that one out.
It means he wants to be objectified more. Maybe you have been trying at "dominating" him but he feels you are doing it for him. He wants to feel more used. Use harsher language. Make him feel like he's property. Be rougher on him.
With men who obviously "want" something but pussyfoot around really spelling it out, if I want to figure out his hot buttons (so I can decide if/how I want to integrate them into my own playstyle on my own terms) I may wait until the heat of the moment, and drill him with questions. For example, he's face down, naked, your straddling him, doing whatever do him, he's obviously hot and bothered and you have him where you want him, you are getting him worked up, because you have used hot button number one:
"You are such a little BITCH, aren't you?"
(he says, getting obviously hot, "yes, I am a bitch!")
You say. "No. You are MY bitch. Understand that, bitch? Say it. Tell me you are MY bitch")
He says, "I am your bitch" (you can tell he is more excited."
You say, "Now tell me. What do nasty bitches like you do?"
What you do here is you keep control but you pull information out of him. He may give the shitty answer, "whatever you want!" or he may confess some wacky fantasy which you can adapt or discard. He may blurt something out you find absurd and wonderful. He may, under duress, confess something you find FANTASTIC, or something you find totally inconsequential but obviously blows his mind, like, stammering, he says, "uhh.....nasty bitches....lick the bottom of shoes..."
And you may think -- well, that's lame, but ok - it obviously gets him worked up, I can use that. You can USE that to get him to do other things, react in other ways, or you can discard it and move on to something else. The thing is, you use your control, and his state of mind, to drill down for information.
When you are sick of him spewing his fantasies, and trust me, he probably won't shut up about them, you gag him with your panties and sit on his face and say, "Ok, enough about you. Let's talk about ME."
And then you really start to have fun. You use some small percentage of what he gets off on to fuel the thing, but you base it around what makes you hot. He just needs the minor carrot; the major carrot, trust me, is you getting off. Everything else (his exact fantasies being met) is gravy.
Akasha
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