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xssve -> RE: Uh oh, low. Sex drive? (7/15/2012 7:27:32 AM)
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Female sex drive tend to peak in the 30's, and womens sex drive in general is more closely tied to their reproductive drives, that my theory anyway, i.e., some part of you associates sex with pregnancy - which means, if you don't want to get pregnant, some you're suppressing your own sex drive - some studies indicate women become more sexual during their fertile period, others suggest that other women avoid sex during this period, cross their legs more, wear restrictive clothing, etc. - kinda depends on culture and personal feelings, i.e., whether getting knocked up is a good thing for you or no, and the risk of pregnancy if it's no.
So first, get that sorted out, if you're ok with oral or anal, you can go that route - semen contains anti-depressants, sex and orgasm release anti-depressant hormones, oxytocin, etc., and other than a route to reproduction, regular sex regulates the endocrine system and relieves stress - the externalities of that, the possibility of pregnancy and/or std's or even social censure can of course increase stress, leaving you hanging between a rock and a hard place, but you gotta break the cycle somewhere.
Figure out what does turn you on, it may be that gritting your teeth and submitting to sex might result in relieving your depression and you'll end up liking it more, contingent on mitigating any other risk factors that might be causing you to hold back, which could include body issues, etc. Your body, your mind, you'll have to figure that out.
It's not an uncommon problem with women unfortunately, and women seem to tolerate periods of celibacy better than men, who literally need to physically ejaculate every three days or so to maintain optimal prostate health, just way we evolved, we have no reason to hold back, there is no risk of pregnancy associated with it, our reproductive costs are negligible, whereas the simple act of coitus is often a life altering act for women.
You can always get good at handjobs, the scent alone, the pheromones released during sexual activity appear to have beneficial health benefits for women, and even mutual masturbation, making out, etc., is healthier for youe immune and endocrine system than abstinence - nature has no use for benchwarmers, and those muscles, mental or physical, that are not used, atrophy eventually.
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