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CuckoldSameh -> Is being in love important in D/s relationship ? (7/16/2012 8:05:21 PM)
Can I ask a question ? In a Mistress/ slave relationship is it necessary that a slave and a Mistress be in love ?

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Is being in love important in D/s relationship ? (7/16/2012 8:18:35 PM)
Of course not. They can have whatever relationship works for them, romantic or otherwise.

Kaiel -> RE: Is being in love important in D/s relationship ? (7/16/2012 8:33:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CuckoldSameh Can I ask a question ? In a Mistress/ slave relationship is it necessary that a slave and a Mistress be in love ? No, but I prefer it when My slaves love Me... it gives Me warm fuzzies ;)

Tantriqu -> RE: Is being in love important in D/s relationship ? (7/16/2012 8:54:28 PM)
Love? No. But it's grand when it happens. However, I absolutely have to lust for and really like the men I do things to.

LadyPact -> RE: Is being in love important in D/s relationship ? (7/16/2012 10:07:46 PM)
In love? No. It's nice when affection occurs, but it's not necessary.

CougarRick -> RE: Is being in love important in D/s relationship ? (7/18/2012 12:01:33 AM)
I don't know. On one hand the idea of a sort of one sided love where a sub adores his dom yet has to bust his ass for any signs of affection in return can sound exciting. On the other, it might get depressing if after a few months, the dom never showed any sign of feelings. I guess from my opinion, I would want feelings back, but at the same time I would want to have to earn them. Sort of like a schoolboy crush, where the dom finds the guy faintly amusing, could potentially have feelings for him if he wasn't sort of annoying and in need of a slap once in awhile. She often slaps him down, but every once in awhile softens and shows some tenderness, particularly if he has pleased her.

pyschosubmission -> RE: Is being in love important in D/s relationship ? (7/18/2012 5:23:09 AM)
As with anything in life, whatever you find works for you :) Personally though any relationship I get into, there has to be some form of love involved. Just the way I'm wired

xLaChienne -> RE: Is being in love important in D/s relationship ? (7/18/2012 5:32:05 AM)
No, it's not necessary for all. For some, it is.

MsGypsey -> RE: Is being in love important in D/s relationship ? (7/18/2012 10:00:46 AM)
Like Amy said: "Love is a losing game". Although my one caveat would be: "sometimes". Sometimes it is part of a relationship and sometimes it isn't. You simply don't have that level of control over it.

MistressAlishaG -> RE: Is being in love important in D/s relationship ? (7/18/2012 12:19:01 PM)
Is love important in a D/s relationship? Yes. Is love necessary in a D/s relationship? No. I prefer my relationships be built on a loving emotional foundation. Those always seem to work the best for me.

RumpusParable -> RE: Is being in love important in D/s relationship ? (7/18/2012 12:54:20 PM)
As others have said: No, not inherently. For some partnerships it is, for others not. It just depends. On a personal note: Not for me, no. Can it be a nice factor? Sure, but it's not needed and isn't particularly desired.

MsSylverdawn -> RE: Is being in love important in D/s relationship ? (7/19/2012 5:11:52 AM)
Love in the sense that you must have a connection and care about and for your submissive yes..their physical, emotional and mental wellbeing... yes... IN love no...

LillyoftheVally -> RE: Is being in love important in D/s relationship ? (7/19/2012 5:14:07 AM)
The way you define love is important. I have submitted to many people that I am not in love with in the romantic sense but I think of love as being more complex and in that sense I have never submitted to someone I don't love.

LaTigresse -> RE: Is being in love important in D/s relationship ? (7/19/2012 10:59:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CuckoldSameh Can I ask a question ? In a Mistress/ slave relationship is it necessary that a slave and a Mistress be in love ? In all honesty I don't give fuckall about being IN love. To ME, IN love is fleeting and mostly hormone based. And it tends to be far too conditional for my liking.

Char2688 -> RE: Is being in love important in D/s relationship ? (7/19/2012 1:11:44 PM)
nope, you dont have to trust them either, not necessary, but it helps a lot

SaharahEve -> RE: Is being in love important in D/s relationship ? (7/20/2012 1:31:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CuckoldSameh Can I ask a question ? In a Mistress/ slave relationship is it necessary that a slave and a Mistress be in love ? No. That doesn't mean a mistress can't love her slave on some level, however. But be "in love" with her slave? I suppose some will say they can be, but it's a difficult thing to accomplish, being real with "slavery" and being head over heals in love with someone on all fronts at the same time.

seekingOwnertoo -> RE: Is being in love important in D/s relationship ? (7/20/2012 6:11:33 PM)
Your question is very multi-dimensional. And that multi-dimensional word means a LOT of different things! LOL If you are asking me, can I become the slave of a Lady? The answer is, yes, if I fall in love (or infatuation) for a Lady who strikes my fancy. Then I would be willing to go to the ends of the earth for Her. In my own life, this point was proven to me by a Lady a bit north and east of me! [:)] So I know it can be done. What is required though, is a unique mental and emotional connection! And that is rare. Then again, going to the ends of the earth for Her …. could only mean submission, not slave, too! ROFL So the flip side of the question is, can I be a usable submissive, without love? Again, the answer is multi-dimensional! But the bottom line is that if She satisfies my … Vanilla and non-Vanilla needs and desires; then it could be a LTR. Because no love is required to satisfy mutual need and desire! And those are only two of the multiple dimensions … The bottom line is that a variety of different relationships can exist through out your life; for a wide variety of different reasons. It is what it is … so work to satisfy Yourself! [:)]

DiurnalVampire -> RE: Is being in love important in D/s relationship ? (7/20/2012 8:45:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CuckoldSameh Can I ask a question ? In a Mistress/ slave relationship is it necessary that a slave and a Mistress be in love ? I havent checked the rulebook yet, but I dont think there is a rule for this one. Some will say yes, some will say no. However, what works for an anonymous internet someone might not mean a thing for you and yours. For my personal relationships, it has not been necessary for the slave to be in love with me. Fox is, and he is my husband. Angel never was in love with me, even though he was mine for several years. It all depends on how things work with the specific person, not a general one kink fits all answer.

Faythless -> RE: Is being in love important in D/s relationship ? (7/21/2012 12:45:15 AM)
Being in love is not important or necessary although I'm sure a liking at least should be involved although not in a sexual way, unless that is what you're wanting.

Soyokaze -> RE: Is being in love important in D/s relationship ? (7/21/2012 8:24:27 AM)
For me, it's necessary in a long term relationship. If it's just a friendship, that occasionally involves play then it's not. As others have said, there's not going to be one sound rule for everyone; it has varying degrees of importance and even different meanings.

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