RE: What does Edge Play mean to you?

Collarspace Discussion Forums

Home Login Search

RE: What does Edge Play mean to you?

View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: What does Edge Play mean to you?

Page: << < prev 1 2 [3] 4 next > >>

Login

Message

<< Older Topic Newer Topic >>

RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? - 7/21/2012 9:14:39 PM

KnightofMists

Posts: 7149
Joined: 7/29/2005
Status: offline

Edge play for me is anything that takes a person outside their comfort zone. Its not the activity that makes it edge play but the headspace!

_____________________________

Knight of Mists

An Optimal relationship is achieved when the individuals do what is best for themselves and their relationship.

(in reply to sheisreeds)

Post #: 41

RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? - 7/21/2012 10:24:36 PM

Kana

Posts: 6676
Joined: 10/24/2006
Status: offline

quote:

In my youth I thought that perhaps highly illegal and extremely hallucinatory substances would go well with night-time downhill skiing. I also wasn't very clear on what all those black diamonds meant on the signs. It's a great story but I'm not keen on repeating that particular bit of edge play *laughs*

Hooooo man. When I was a kid I did ski patrol at one of the bigger Colorado resorts. Some of the best moments in my life involved hiking up to the top of the mountain as the sun rose, then setting off the avalanche guns before skiing down on fresh tracks, all the while blown out of our minds on purple microdots.
Those were fun days.

I'm gonna edit this to add that in no way am I condoning setting off mortars while tripping...just saying we hadda lotta fun doing it :-)

< Message edited by Kana -- 7/21/2012 10:26:39 PM >

_____________________________

"One of God's own prototypes. A high-powered mutant of some kind never even considered for mass production. Too weird to live, and too rare to die. "
HST

(in reply to KnightofMists)

Post #: 42

RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? - 7/21/2012 10:30:03 PM

Ishtarr

Posts: 1130
Joined: 4/30/2008
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: JeffBC

In my youth I thought that perhaps highly illegal and extremely hallucinatory substances would go well with night-time downhill skiing. I also wasn't very clear on what all those black diamonds meant on the signs. It's a great story but I'm not keen on repeating that particular bit of edge play *laughs*

WHAAAAT?

You're the last person on Earth I would have expected that from!

_____________________________

Du blutest für mein Seelenheil
Ein kleiner Schnitt und du wirst geil
Egal, erlaubt ist, was gefällt

Ich tu' dir weh.
Tut mir nicht Leid!
Das tut dir gut.
Hör wie es schreit!

(in reply to JeffBC)

Post #: 43

RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? - 7/21/2012 10:35:10 PM

Ishtarr

Posts: 1130
Joined: 4/30/2008
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana

Hooooo man. When I was a kid I did ski patrol at one of the bigger Colorado resorts. Some of the best moments in my life involved hiking up to the top of the mountain as the sun rose, then setting off the avalanche guns before skiing down on fresh tracks, all the while blown out of our minds on purple microdots.

So wait... am I the only person left on this tread who hasn't going skiing while tripping?
It seems awesome though. The closest I've gotten where roller coasters, and based on that experience, skiing would be the best.

On that note Kana, we're only about an hour away from Tellurite and a bunch of other CO ski resorts. My husband and I prefer snowblades over long skis or boards, but if you are ever in our neck of the woods to give littlewonder her skiing lessons, we'd love to meet you guys on the slopes.
Hell, you guys are more than welcome to crash here too if you'd like.

< Message edited by Ishtarr -- 7/21/2012 10:36:45 PM >

_____________________________

Du blutest für mein Seelenheil
Ein kleiner Schnitt und du wirst geil
Egal, erlaubt ist, was gefällt

Ich tu' dir weh.
Tut mir nicht Leid!
Das tut dir gut.
Hör wie es schreit!

(in reply to Kana)

Post #: 44

RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? - 7/21/2012 10:39:28 PM

littlewonder

Posts: 15659
Status: offline

EEeeerrr....I think I'd be terrified to crash there with you two in the same house!

_____________________________

Nothing has changed
Everything has changed

(in reply to Ishtarr)

Post #: 45

RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? - 7/21/2012 10:46:04 PM

Ishtarr

Posts: 1130
Joined: 4/30/2008
Status: offline

My husband commented to that that you'd be perfectly safe.
He said he'd be too busy distracting Kana by asking him to help torture me for you to have anything at all to worry about.

So yeah... maybe you both should stay somewhere else.

_____________________________

Du blutest für mein Seelenheil
Ein kleiner Schnitt und du wirst geil
Egal, erlaubt ist, was gefällt

Ich tu' dir weh.
Tut mir nicht Leid!
Das tut dir gut.
Hör wie es schreit!

(in reply to littlewonder)

Post #: 46

RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? - 7/21/2012 10:50:10 PM

littlewonder

Posts: 15659
Status: offline

oh well in that case, I'm ok with staying there. I'm ok with it.

_____________________________

Nothing has changed
Everything has changed

(in reply to Ishtarr)

Post #: 47

RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? - 7/21/2012 11:17:55 PM

Kana

Posts: 6676
Joined: 10/24/2006
Status: offline

Mmmmm, Telluride is schwing.
I'm actually lining up the winter trip now, trying to decide between Colo and Jackson.
I gotta admit though, I was leaning more toward Crested Butte than Telluride, that slip side of the mountain looks absurd :-)

Course, Ishy screams, that's a nice tourist attraction, a helluva incentive :-)

_____________________________

"One of God's own prototypes. A high-powered mutant of some kind never even considered for mass production. Too weird to live, and too rare to die. "
HST

(in reply to littlewonder)

Post #: 48

RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? - 7/22/2012 12:21:27 AM

Ishtarr

Posts: 1130
Joined: 4/30/2008
Status: offline

Crested Butte is about 2 hours from here, but I've never been there. We both just got back on the slopes this year for the first time in a decade, so you'd have to do the absurd stuff by yourself. I turned out to be too rusty this last season to even think about blacks.

As far as me screaming goes... only if you bring needles with. My husband can't see blood without feeling faint, so if imma have to endure YOU it better be something I'd usually not get the chance to do.

_____________________________

Du blutest für mein Seelenheil
Ein kleiner Schnitt und du wirst geil
Egal, erlaubt ist, was gefällt

Ich tu' dir weh.
Tut mir nicht Leid!
Das tut dir gut.
Hör wie es schreit!

(in reply to Kana)

Post #: 49

RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? - 7/22/2012 6:41:35 AM

sheisreeds

Posts: 578
Joined: 7/8/2008
Status: offline

quote:

As far as me screaming goes... only if you bring needles with. My husband can't see blood without feeling faint, so if imma have to endure YOU it better be something I'd usually not get the chance to do.

Oh expect blood, what about bringing along some fishing line? That and needles is just divine, you string it through the needles, then pull the line as far in as you can once the needles are in the skin ;)

A little tenderizing beforehand and during also brings up more blood.

I wish I could tolerate needles, the guess is that it's due to all the scar tissue. Now I wanna try again. *looks at the needle box*

I've never gone skiing or been into extreme sports, just was never my thing. Loved roof tops and under ground tunnels in college. I love the adrenalin rush of being places I shouldn't be. Also loved getting myself far from home at 1am with no car and figuring when and how I was getting back. This kinda trouble I gave up when I got my degree (an arrest for 4th degree burglary is not worth my license). A few years before started fire spinning, which I love but didn't really do "it" for me.

Happy to have my current partner who has the same need for crazy as I do. Whether it's kinky or not we always find some mischief somewhere. A few weeks ago he dismantled a bar game show, and another time I was a very persistent zombie getting into everybody's shit. Yes, we love being assholes, but always the majority are entertained, so we figure it's ok.

_____________________________

~ s.

Oh my darling, give me reason
give me something to believe in

You need a spankin' baby!

(in reply to Ishtarr)

Post #: 50

RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? - 7/22/2012 7:21:11 AM

JhonP

Posts: 83
Joined: 7/5/2012
Status: offline

quote:

Edge play for me is anything that takes a person outside their comfort zone. Its not the activity that makes it edge play but the headspace!

The head space indeed.
Less than a month ago in Palermo two males were doing a hanging scene with two females. The slip knots had been tried many times using weights heaver then the ladies involved but when the trap door sprung open the slip knots failed and the two ladies suffered brokern necks and were dead. Now these men had done this type of edge many times in the past but like gun play (and there is thrill playing without loaded guns) it’s over in a split second.

Until its life threatening it’s not edge play.

< Message edited by JhonP -- 7/22/2012 7:26:58 AM >

(in reply to KnightofMists)

Post #: 51

RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? - 7/22/2012 7:41:29 AM

ChatteParfaitt

Posts: 6562
Joined: 3/22/2011
From: The t'aint of the Midwest -- Indiana
Status: offline

I like this definition:

quote:

ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

Edge play for me is anything that takes a person outside their comfort zone. Its not the activity that makes it edge play but the headspace!

Personally I am far more into internal edge play than external, whatever side of the kneel I happen to be on.

I also understand edge play to mean knives and any sharp pointy objects. Thus certain kinds of edge play could be called edge play. Just saying.

_____________________________

(in reply to KnightofMists)

Post #: 52

RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? - 7/22/2012 12:29:36 PM

NuevaVida

Posts: 6707
Joined: 8/5/2008
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: sheisreeds

quote:

ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

Yeah, it's been my personal experience that the internal edgy stuff is far deeper reaching and more difficult than the external for me. However, it took an external physical (but not physically painful) influence to cause my internal self to nearly crack - go figure. Then again, I think one of the results of "extreme" external play is what it creates internally.

Maybe that's why I still have such strong negative reactions to the internal stuff these days. Ha, no maybe about it.

To me this is because internal edges hit on my ego integrity, it is not a risk to my body, but it is a risk to my sense of self.

Playing with shame and fear is pretty intense and can severely threaten who we are as people.

Bingo. For me it's because so much damage to my sense of self was done in the past - so much so that I wanted to check out. And I've put so much rewarding effort into bringing my life to a polar opposite place from where I was, I have no desire to even play with going back to what was once very real for me. I think it would be like engaging in alcohol play with a recovering alcoholic.

_____________________________

Live Simply. Love Generously. Care Deeply. Speak Kindly.

(in reply to sheisreeds)

Post #: 53

RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? - 7/22/2012 1:30:44 PM

Moonlightmaddnes

Posts: 958
Joined: 6/4/2012
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder

EEeeerrr....I think I'd be terrified to crash there with you two in the same house!

LOL I know the feeling. My husband has a best friend that when they are both feeling onry I am ready to retreat.

_____________________________

Submission is a gift that must be earned. It can be given, but never taken

(in reply to littlewonder)

Post #: 54

RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? - 7/22/2012 1:33:30 PM

JeffBC

Posts: 5799
Joined: 2/12/2012
From: Canada
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: KnightofMists
Edge play for me is anything that takes a person outside their comfort zone. Its not the activity that makes it edge play but the headspace!

This. But I'll add on a second definition:

Edge play is something which squicks other people out.

In that version I'm thinking of the various things that Carol and I get up to that shock other people... some of which seem edgy to us and others do not.

_____________________________

I'm a lover of "what is", not because I'm a spiritual person, but because it hurts when I argue with reality. -- Bryon Katie
"You're humbly arrogant" -- sunshinemiss
officially a member of the K Crowd

(in reply to KnightofMists)

Post #: 55

RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? - 7/22/2012 5:59:36 PM

sheisreeds

Posts: 578
Joined: 7/8/2008
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: JeffBC

Edge play is something which squicks other people out.

Age play back in the day used to be consider edge play, now it's clearly not. I guess the question is things like knife play and needle play are becoming much more popular and accepted in large portions of the scene, but will always be "edgy" (and forget for a moment they are pointy objects). There will always be a level of skill and understanding of the tool and the human body for these to ever be anything approaching safe.

I think taboo does play into it, the question is, should some things stay on the edge of our acceptance?

quote:

ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

Bingo. For me it's because so much damage to my sense of self was done in the past - so much so that I wanted to check out. And I've put so much rewarding effort into bringing my life to a polar opposite place from where I was, I have no desire to even play with going back to what was once very real for me. I think it would be like engaging in alcohol play with a recovering alcoholic.

I also shy away from deep mental play, sometimes all on it's own it gets there with my partner, and thankfully when it is not doing positive things he stops. I'd rather be laughing, screaming and cursing while being savagely beaten, then people getting into my mind at this point. It does have a mind twisting sort of addiction though.

Edge play overall can be kinda of vortex, seeking higher highs, lower lows, greater pains, always trying to get deeper and deeper. It's why I don't mind, and actually think it is a good idea that we go through cycles with it.

_____________________________

~ s.

Oh my darling, give me reason
give me something to believe in

You need a spankin' baby!

(in reply to JeffBC)

Post #: 56

RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? - 7/22/2012 6:25:19 PM

OokieWithaC

Posts: 11
Joined: 8/23/2009
Status: offline

I thought edge play was when you get someone near orgasm and make them stop just before. I learned something new. :D

(in reply to sheisreeds)

Post #: 57

RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? - 7/22/2012 7:11:41 PM

everhope

Posts: 2179
Joined: 8/19/2007
Status: offline

fast reply

edge play to me is looking him in the eyes as he is choking me, my life literally in his hands and having only one thought... i would die for you, Master, if that is your pleasure.
i have had the good fortune to chose wisely and be kept around for another day of laundry and dishes.

_____________________________

may we all find our bliss

Resident VWB

We all die.
The goal isn't to live forever.
The goal is to create something that will.

(in reply to Moonlightmaddnes)

Post #: 58

RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? - 7/22/2012 9:11:01 PM

littlewonder

Posts: 15659
Status: offline

quote:

ORIGINAL: everhope

fast reply

edge play to me is looking him in the eyes as he is choking me, my life literally in his hands and having only one thought... i would die for you, Master, if that is your pleasure.
i have had the good fortune to chose wisely and be kept around for another day of laundry and dishes.

works for me

_____________________________

Nothing has changed
Everything has changed

(in reply to everhope)

Post #: 59

RE: What does Edge Play mean to you? - 7/23/2012 12:56:47 AM

Thaz

Posts: 617
Joined: 4/28/2012
Status: offline

Anything thats really on the edge of what is safe and in the comfort zone.

I used to do this a LOT.

I climbed in far of dangerous places nobody had been to before where if something went wrong it was self rescue or death, I free climbed routes I couldnt climb with rope and gear 'cos those slow you down, I fought full contact matches in Western martial arts with blunted steel weapons till blood was leaking out of the joints of my armour and on my medical records there might be a reference to a finger tip being chopped off with a sword blow (they sewed it back on, Yay!).

Then a pretty cautious friend of mine died in a climbing accident and I toned that down, recently my old Boss who taught me the safety drills died in an avalanche. Then another friend of mine caught a sword in his eye, penetrating back into his brain (he lived but will never fight or be quite the same aqain). Recently the housemate of a couple I know died in during breath-play (solo as I understand it although I havent read the coroners report). As I get older I get a lot more cautious and respectfull of life and limb. Funny that!

Consider the risk and make sure you're taking calculated ones.

Thaz

(in reply to littlewonder)

Post #: 60

Page: << < prev 1 2 [3] 4 next > >>

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion >> RE: What does Edge Play mean to you?

Page: << < prev 1 2 [3] 4 next > >>

Jump to:

New Messages	No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages	Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages	Locked w/o New Messages

Post New Thread

Reply to Message

Post New Poll

Submit Vote

Delete My Own Post

Delete My Own Thread

Rate Posts

Collarchat.com © 2025

Terms of Service

0.109