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pushing boundaries - 6/9/2006 8:53:08 AM   
prettykittie


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Status: offline 		I have been with my daddy for a year now,I love our play time and I love him! This is going to be a lifetime of fun and happiness.What i am wondering though is,how I can approach him in a respectful and tactful way to let him know that I would like to try new things.Dont get me wrong,I am not bored,I just think my limits may be softer than his?I would like more extreme play and more 24/7 power exchange.We do the same thing all the time.I still am pretty shy when it comes to talking about sex,in that,I want to do all kinds of naughty things but dont know how to verbalize.He has definately brought me out of my "shell" so to speak,as I have embraced my naughtiness and love it!
I dont want to sound like a whiny,little,subgirl at all.!
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RE: pushing boundaries - 6/9/2006 9:11:26 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Next dinner together:  Hey I have had some ideas lately that I would love to try out with you, what do you think?

This should start the ball rolling along well.

But make sure he understands AND agrees to your ideas before getting hopes up.  As well, don't expect change overnight.  Explain your feelings behind them, make sure you ask how HE feels about certain things.  And then hey, set up an actual play date to try something new, make the time, location and everything special!  It works for vanillas when they want to jazz up their relationship by "dating" again, so go for it!

But don't go overboard.  A first try out is not the time to book a cottage in the Swiss Alps, keep expectations low and then build on things together.

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RE: pushing boundaries - 6/9/2006 9:15:30 AM   
prettykittie


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Status: offline 		Thankies to you! I will try that,he is always open to me and quite frankly ,,he loves it when i blush!!!lol...

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RE: pushing boundaries - 6/9/2006 9:17:41 AM   
Sab


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Status: offline 		As you have access to the internet and don't want him to be told by you what you want - do as my sub does to show me what she is interested in - the internet! Open up google, use that to find pages about what may be of interest to him - and show him the pages by saying that you have been looking around and leave him to view them, he will get the picture. :) 

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RE: pushing boundaries - 6/9/2006 10:15:41 AM   
Aileen68


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Status: offline 		I'm required to write daily for him.  I'm allowed to write about anything I choose.
It's here that I discuss my fears, curiosities, concerns, etc.  He reads what I write
and then we discuss it.  For me it's a great way to approach things that interest me
as well as things that frighten me.

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RE: pushing boundaries - 6/9/2006 6:46:27 PM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		Like Aileen, I am required to write daily.  It can be about anything, sometimes it's about specific things.  He always reads them, sometimes they are discussed, sometimes it's just a vehicle for me to vent/process about things in general or about relationship things.  I have found blogging to be a godsend.  I appreciate having the outlet and knowing that someone is listening to what's on my mind.

When discussing sensitive relationship issues, I would pick a neutral time and place, as free from distraction and stress as possible.  Like LA said, over dinner, that's a good plan.


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RE: pushing boundaries - 6/9/2006 7:33:08 PM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		I'll keep that in mind.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen68

"You know, I think I'd like you to piss on me"

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RE: pushing boundaries - 6/9/2006 7:54:15 PM   
theRose4U


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

I'll keep that in mind.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aileen68

"You know, I think I'd like you to piss on me"



But which is harder being pissed off or pissed on?

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RE: pushing boundaries - 6/10/2006 6:50:05 AM   
Aileen68


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Status: offline 		Hey...what happened to my piss post?
It's gone.
Ah. That's right.  I quoted slowlane who got deleted for some reason.
Bad slowlane.

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RE: pushing boundaries - 6/10/2006 6:55:12 AM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		Bad piss girl!




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RE: pushing boundaries - 6/10/2006 6:57:13 AM   
Aileen68


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Status: offline 		Yeah well...submission is a gift.

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RE: pushing boundaries - 6/10/2006 7:22:56 AM   
ligar59


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Status: offline 		As I am sure  it will be mentioned, writing some sort of note to him or if you two do the journals, is a good way to express your thoughts and desires

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RE: pushing boundaries - 8/18/2006 10:10:53 PM   
prettykittie


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Status: offline 		yeah i know...communication...(stomps her foot and turns around) Damn it all to hell....lol

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RE: pushing boundaries - 8/18/2006 11:42:42 PM   
Arpig


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Status: offline 		You know, if you really are to shy to actually say it, then start a diary, but don't tell him you are doing so. Make some innocuous entries and some where you detail some of the things you'd like to try, and leave it out for him to see.

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RE: pushing boundaries - 8/19/2006 1:24:21 AM   
masterhyyde


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Status: offline 		Write it

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RE: pushing boundaries - 8/19/2006 2:52:21 AM   
Focus50


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Status: offline 		Yep, I agree with other suggestions (and your own acknowledgement) that communication is the key.  And while you're discussing it, some communication about a respectful way for his sub/slave to broach difficult questions or topics in general would definitely be helpful. 
 
I'm one who actually spells that out to any new girl in my life from the very beginning.  I usually know when she has something on her mind but I still suck at mind reading....  It's easy for me to just pull her up and ask what's up but I'd still like to think she has the confidence to ask in her own right - because I want her to!
 
Focus.

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