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SpankableMick -> Changing (7/27/2012 11:46:44 AM)
Is it common practice for Master to want to change submissives into slaves? I keep running into this problem, or am i giving off a vibe like that.

wittynamehere -> RE: Changing (7/27/2012 11:48:46 AM)
Not sure what your definition of 'common' is, but I've seen that around. Some call it 'pushing limits'. Myself I don't care for the labels anyway. I am what I am, and potential partners are what they are. Either we're compatible or we aren't. I don't bother assigning labels to myself and others, and then expecting us to match up based on those labels. Silliness.

OsideGirl -> RE: Changing (7/27/2012 12:19:03 PM)
I find that when people get that hung up on labels, it's because of their ego.

myotherself -> RE: Changing (7/27/2012 12:25:35 PM)
This is a bigger problem than posting about illegal activities in your profile? I don't think so.

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Changing (7/27/2012 12:41:31 PM)
It's commonly agreed that the differences between sub and slave are minimal and very dependent on the user. However, that bestiality is against the law and against the TOS of the cite is not in question. Reported.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Changing (7/27/2012 12:57:47 PM)
I reported her profile a bit ago. Thanks for adding, folks. :)

JeffBC -> RE: Changing (7/27/2012 1:56:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SpankableMick Is it common practice for Master to want to change submissives into slaves? I keep running into this problem, or am i giving off a vibe like that. What do you mean by this? Do you mean your a bedroom sub (bottom) and someone is trying to get you to obey non-bedroom commands?

kalikshama -> RE: Changing (Detroit) (7/27/2012 2:51:50 PM)
quote: Is it common practice for Master to want to change submissives into slaves? I keep running into this problem, or am i giving off a vibe like that. I read your journal entry about one of these guys. Sounds like he has bad boundaries and you are better off without him. It's a red flag when someone keeps pushing stated limits in the getting to know each other stage. As to why you keep meeting them - are you responding to Masters and guys looking for TPE or 24/7 when you yourself only want sessions? I tell these guys I'm not interested. I'm sure Detroit has an active kink scene that includes play parties where you'd have no problem finding someone to give you a session. Fetlife.com is great for finding local events. As to your comment "I have suffered with depression because I do not get the sexual and physical release that I need" - my goodness woman! Take some personal responsibility - get yourself a vibrator and a gym membership.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Changing (Detroit) (7/27/2012 3:42:32 PM)
Detroit has an extremely active kink scene. There is a munch pretty much every week, and three excellent party events, often more.

lizi -> RE: Changing (7/27/2012 3:45:50 PM)
You might not be running into quality men because of the way you're presenting yourself. Lose the ass picture. Lose the bestiality reference. Lose the desperate quality of complaining that you need sex and are suffering without it. The written part of your profile is all about sex and kink...is that all you are? It's all you're giving out to the public. In your journals you write about wanting a well endowed man and having some bad experiences. In short, you're not giving out the impression here that you are worthy of a confident, quality, guy. It seems as though you are setting yourself up to attract a lesser quality man. To me, if someone insisted on changing me to his idea of what he wanted that would indicate he was a fantasist and not too self-assured. Someone like that might be attracted to your profile as it stands. It's up to you to present yourself in the best light possible. I have never had the problem of having a Dominant/Master want to change me into a slave. They've all seemed to like me as I am.

Kaiel -> RE: Changing (7/27/2012 4:38:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lizi You might not be running into quality men because of the way you're presenting yourself. Lose the ass picture. Lose the bestiality reference. Lose the desperate quality of complaining that you need sex and are suffering without it. The written part of your profile is all about sex and kink...is that all you are? It's all you're giving out to the public. In your journals you write about wanting a well endowed man and having some bad experiences. In short, you're not giving out the impression here that you are worthy of a confident, quality, guy. It seems as though you are setting yourself up to attract a lesser quality man. ^^^this is perfect^^^ couldn't have said it better

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