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slavejane13 -> lost ... (7/29/2012 2:42:25 AM)

hello all, i am slavejane13 i feel the need to scream or talk or i dont no what, this girl lost her Master Partner lover and best friend last july2011, we had six wonderful yrs together, till He was taken suddenly from me. there are men Doms, everywhere and i know i cant be alone and need to serve someone, take care of someone, but i keep comparing and as much as i try not too, i still do,

is there anyone here that is the same, i get close to some men, but hold back ...i want to love i want to be needed and loved back the way i was before, i k now its only time and things will get better but at the moment, im not copeing very well at all...
thanks for listening
sj



ARIES83 -> RE: lost ... (7/29/2012 2:46:52 AM)

I'm sorry to hear that, I hope you find what
your looking for.

-ARIES



DarkSteven -> RE: lost ... (7/29/2012 2:49:10 AM)

Good luck in your search, jane.

PS. Your profile isn't visible.



kalikshama -> RE: lost ... (7/29/2012 3:28:26 AM)

Perhaps you need more time to grieve. Don't push yourself to date.



slavejane13 -> RE: lost ... (7/29/2012 3:35:08 AM)

thankyou ..



slavejane13 -> RE: lost ... (7/29/2012 3:36:59 AM)

thankyou , oh..how do i make it visable?



Master56RoyJ -> RE: lost ... (7/29/2012 4:01:47 AM)

SlaveJane13 I can understand where you are at presently in ur life. Part of ur reluctance is that you are afraid that you give the love and then you are again left without the love of ur life. I have been there and returned more times then I can count but I did return. It is scary to love someone and they not love you back but it is worse when they love you back just as much and are removed for this earth. I will leave you with this " It is far better to have loved and lost that one then never to have tried. As we are human and can not guarantee we will wake and see tomorrow. We should and must live each day as if it were to be our last there may still be no tomorrow for any of us".



kalikshama -> RE: lost ... (7/29/2012 4:07:51 AM)

In the Edit Profile menu, click on Unhide:



kalikshama -> RE: lost ... (7/29/2012 4:08:51 AM)

Trying again

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OohAahMrs -> RE: lost ... (7/30/2012 3:42:30 AM)

Well jane, i love your legs, if they are your legs? You see it's easy to love a pair of legs that are total strangers, but when they are attached to someone, well that's not as easy, no matter, welcome to CM



Shininglight23 -> RE: lost ... (7/30/2012 5:04:49 AM)

Hi Jane,

First of all... welcome.

Second of all... I agree with Kalikshama... you may need more time to grieve. Just because you want to date and want to love doesn't mean you're ready. In my experience it isn't best to jump when you aren't ready...the fall is much harder.

Allie



SlipSlidingAway -> RE: lost ... (7/30/2012 5:20:39 AM)

Welcome.  I have a fairly good idea of what you are feeling, I have been at a similar place.  I can't tell you what to do to make it better.  I can, however, offer advice on what not to do.  While you miss your master terribly, and the miss being with someone, do not rush into a relationship just to fill the emptiness.  Take time to heal, to grieve, to do whatever it is that can give you some solace and peace.  You will be better off in the long run and so will any future partners.  Your master can not be replaced.  When the time is right, you can find love, companionship, even ownership again- and it can be just as amazing a relationship in it's own right as the one you had.  However, in your current frame of mind, you might not be ready to make such an important decision.  You don't want to fill that void just to alleviate the pain it's caused.  You need to deal with the pain, the loss, before you can move on.  Decisions you make now could be based more on desperation and loneliness than anything else and those are seldom great building stones for a lasting relationship.



Master56RoyJ -> RE: lost ... (7/30/2012 5:51:52 AM)

Jane I do love it that u wear 4" stiletto heels, and either thigh-his as in the picture or garter belt n hose both are preferred by me for women to wear. Oh yes ur legs r super good to savor.



BurntKitty -> RE: lost ... (7/30/2012 8:09:07 AM)

Welcome to CM, Jane. My condolences on the loss of your husband. I agree you may need to grieve more before starting to date again.

And your profile is still not available.



TNDommeK -> RE: lost ... (7/30/2012 11:16:11 AM)

Hello and welcome.



slavejane13 -> RE: lost ... (12/14/2012 11:24:11 PM)

hello Master56Roy

i am so sorry i have only just seen your post, thankyou so very much and you are of course completly correct, still doesnt make it hurt any less though

again so sorry

slavejane



DarkSteven -> RE: lost ... (12/15/2012 1:59:33 AM)

Well, welcome back, slavejane. Your profile's visible now.



ChatteParfaitt -> RE: lost ... (12/15/2012 3:15:32 AM)

My most sincere condolences on your loss, jane.

I believe you may be stuck in the grieving process, which is probably one of the worst places in the world to be.

Grief counseling may help, or perhaps a support group. Please remember time is the ultimate healer.

You are not ready for another relationship until you can put your previous relationship into perspective. Every relationship is a learning process and a chance to grow. When you can look back with celebration for the good times you'll know you are ready to try again.

Best, CP



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