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ORIGINAL: CRYPTICLXVI

Be yourself, what do you do when you meet anyone? Also, what are you looking for? Play partner, then yes, sexual limits, likes will be part of the conversation. Relationship, then probably not... in my own personal experience, you start out to get to know the other person, are there enough common interests, beliefs, etc... to build a relationship?

It honestly depends on what you are seeking.

Also, I am not certain how to tell you this, but just because you are submissive or they are dominant doesn't mean shit in the initial meeting, I know there are certain interactions which may be more "protocol" based but for the most part, a lot of what you "owe" anyone in any initial meeting is fantasy.

I only tell people what I am willing for them to know, if I am getting to know someone that I am interested in, I will tell them more... but just because someone is submissive, that doesn't mean they would be someone I would want to be involved with. Just like they may be submissive or a masochist but that doesn't mean I will mean shit to them.

Relax, get to know who you are and try not to feel overwhelmed.

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ORIGINAL: chemeli

Hello, i'm not sure if i should put this question here or on the Dom forum, but here it goes.

I'm never sure exactly about the ways to sell myself to a potential Dominate. Should i answer to *all* of his questions (that would show that i'm willing to cooperate)? I'm always afraid that if i dont tell enough about me, or if i'm too afraid to tell or maybe shy to tell, that would show for the other that maybe i'm not serious enough. Sure, confidence has to be built, and that depends on both parties, but what is the limit? For instance, Is telling what we like sexually too much for a first conversation or is it a solid base to begin to know our affinities?

thanks!