Doms & Dommes, Do you publicly discipline?

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I would never publicly, verbally or physically discipline.

26% (6)

I may verbally show my displeasure, discipline is for home.

52% (12)

I may show displeasure, verbally and with discreet discipline.

17% (4)

I may verbally scold, but keep the physical side low key.

0% (0)

I will verbally and physically discipline without regard.

4% (1)

I strike without warning like a ninja!

0% (0)

Total Votes : 23

(last vote on : 1/1/2013 6:46:51 PM)
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ARIES83 -> Doms & Dommes, Do you publicly discipline? (8/3/2012 5:34:02 AM)
I'd be interested in seeing what everyones preference is for the time and place they discipline their subs... Mainly, if a sub steps out of line in public, how would you react? If it warranted a smack at home would it get a smack at the shops? I have a policy of "all scores get settled when returned home", I used to public face slap on occasion, but curtailed that in favour of a quite life. And also having your girl cry in public isn't fun, now I will just clearly say what behaviour I am unhappy with, then maybe a quick discussion. If I'm still not happy I'll say that "I'll sort it out when we get home". I used to have a big problem with communicating when I was annoyed, and I'm still working on it I guess. But anyway... I voted number 2. -ARIES By public I mean, shopping mall, non-bdsm get together ect... Normal everyday situations

Lucifyre -> RE: Doms & Dommes, Do you publicly discipline? (8/3/2012 5:40:33 AM)
hmm...for me to answer, I need you to better define "public" Do you mean at the local dungeon? Or in the grocery store kind of public? Or does "anywhere we may happen to be at the time of said fuck up" apply? Lucifyre

kalikshama -> RE: Doms & Dommes, Do you publicly discipline? (8/3/2012 5:41:05 AM)
quote: I used to public face slap on occasion /speechless/

SpaceSpank -> RE: Doms & Dommes, Do you public discipline? (8/3/2012 5:44:37 AM)
I have a policy of "nothing that has a good chance of getting us into trouble" rule with any sub/slave. Depending upon the exact transgression I may verbally voice my displeasure with her, especially if a disapproving look fails to get her to stop (which is all it should take honestly). The physical, or even more stinging verbal, punishments are strictly for private. I want to be able to fully voice my displeasure with her behavior, and I want to discuss exactly why she is getting punished, and I want it to be meaningful. Half assing it (or worse) in public is not likely to accomplish what I want.

MissAsylum -> RE: Doms & Dommes, Do you publicly discipline? (8/3/2012 5:44:41 AM)
I do what my mother did- a look that could kill and a firm hand squeeze. hasn't failed yet. i don't do public anything, because you make the public part of it.

kitkat105 -> RE: Doms & Dommes, Do you publicly discipline? (8/3/2012 10:34:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kalikshama quote: I used to public face slap on occasion /speechless/ Yup. If I saw that, you know who I'd call? THE POLICE. BDSM or not, that is royally fucked up. Please explain to me how in public this could not be viewed as domestic violence. ETA: Odeen only has to give me the look. I know exactly when I've pushed a boundary.

DesFIP -> RE: Doms & Dommes, Do you publicly discipline? (8/3/2012 11:28:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ARIES83 I used to public face slap on occasion, but curtailed that in favour of a quite life. So you had no compunction of hitting her in front of your mother? If only in front of someone else's mother, but not your own, then you're a coward. Own it or don't. But if you propose to upset someone's elderly parent or grandparent, do it to yours, not mine. If you propose to scare small children, make sure they're your relatives, not mine.

littlewonder -> RE: Doms & Dommes, Do you publicly discipline? (8/3/2012 11:43:23 AM)
Never in public. He will usually give me a look and say "you'll pay for that at home". If it's something that really bothered him, he'll do those things and will usually be a little cold towards me and neither one of us is having anymore fun in public. Now he does do little funny things in public, like pinching me and I can't make any noise because it will draw attention lol. Ever try to hold back a YYEEOOWWW? LOL

ARIES83 -> RE: Doms & Dommes, Do you publicly discipline? (8/3/2012 3:04:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kitkat105 quote: ORIGINAL: kalikshama quote: I used to public face slap on occasion /speechless/ Yup. If I saw that, you know who I'd call? THE POLICE. BDSM or not, that is royally fucked up. Please explain to me how in public this could not be viewed as domestic violence. ETA: Odeen only has to give me the look. I know exactly when I've pushed a boundary. A lot of the things I do could be seen as domestic violence, I'm not sure what to tell you, face slapping has been part of some of my relationships in the past. the fact I've done it and discontinued it, is just experience evolving my Dom-ness, there is a process of personal growth that everyone goes through to be who they are now... Or would you girls prefer I told you I was born with Mastery in my bones. People become who they are by trial and error/ trial and success. Temper personal growth Learning from experience -ARIES had to put this up! Sean connery the boss haha

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Doms & Dommes, Do you publicly discipline? (8/3/2012 3:08:08 PM)
I am a ninja with the look, but get into it with a partner in public, d/s or not = hell no.

LanaDeVille -> RE: Doms & Dommes, Do you publicly discipline? (8/3/2012 3:19:41 PM)
I consider slapping someone in public violating the boundaries of others. What if someone who'd been domestically abused saw someone slap their significant other? How would that person feel watching that display? Big no thank you. In fact, if I saw it, I wouldn't even think "BDSM", because I like to think most BDSM-ers have more sense than that. I'd call the police. BDSM would be the last thing on my mind. This reminds me of the idiot couple who decided to stage a kidnapping where everyone could see it. Police resources had to be used, other people, who didn't know it was a game, had to suffer through watching it. The couple got charged too. And rightly so. I'm only 19 and by no means some 'Dom-ly Dom expert" of all things "Dom-ly", but I feel like this is common sense no matter what one's experience level is.

RemoteUser -> RE: Doms & Dommes, Do you publicly discipline? (8/3/2012 3:30:50 PM)
Public displays of affection, sure, but displeasure? Hmm, not likely for me. I'd talk with her about it when it was appropriate, and that would be only for her and I.

TNDommeK -> RE: Doms & Dommes, Do you publicly discipline? (8/3/2012 3:36:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ARIES83 quote: ORIGINAL: kitkat105 quote: ORIGINAL: kalikshama quote: I used to public face slap on occasion /speechless/ Yup. If I saw that, you know who I'd call? THE POLICE. BDSM or not, that is royally fucked up. Please explain to me how in public this could not be viewed as domestic violence. ETA: Odeen only has to give me the look. I know exactly when I've pushed a boundary. A lot of the things I do could be seen as domestic violence, I'm not sure what to tell you, face slapping has been part of some of my relationships in the past. the fact I've done it and discontinued it, is just experience evolving my Dom-ness, there is a process of personal growth that everyone goes through to be who they are now... Or would you girls prefer I told you I was born with Mastery in my bones. People become who they are by trial and error/ trial and success. Temper personal growth Learning from experience -ARIES had to put this up! Sean connery the boss haha This, because he is right, no one knows everything upfront. I find it admirable that he can at least see his mistakes and correct them. So kudos for you Aries. As far as your question, I have found the "look" works wonders. And as LW said I occasionally use the "you'll pay for that when we get home" line as well.

Shininglight23 -> RE: Doms & Dommes, Do you publicly discipline? (8/3/2012 3:37:38 PM)
I had one experience when I was 18 where the person I was with felt it necessary to reprimand me in public. He slapped me in my face... in front of children... and their parents... etc. I was totally mortified. I left him right then and there. I will never forget the look on the child's face. It is permanently etched in my brain, and all I can think is... if that was my nephew...what would I do? How do you explain domestic abuse to a child? There's a time and place for whatever it is everyone partakes in... IMHO.. anything behind a look or hand squeeze is inappropriate for public situations. -Allie

CRYPTICLXVI -> RE: Doms & Dommes, Do you publicly discipline? (8/3/2012 3:41:30 PM)
Look, hell just a tone of voice... 'nuff said.

kitkat105 -> RE: Doms & Dommes, Do you publicly discipline? (8/3/2012 3:58:04 PM)
Trial by error? Really? In my honest opinion, slapping someone's face in public as an act of "domination" is not anything to do with BDSM. It is only a lose of temper and a serious character flaw. I don't expect anyone to act like they are a "twue Dom" but even in a world where common sense isn't common I don't see how that level of public humiliation and abuse of power within a relationship could EVER be construed as personal growth. That's no different to housewives thinking Christian Grey is a fucking Dom.

ARIES83 -> RE: Doms & Dommes, Do you publicly discipline? (8/3/2012 4:18:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TNDommeK This, because he is right, no one knows everything upfront. I find it admirable that he can at least see his mistakes and correct them. So kudos for you Aries. Thanks K, I appreciate it. I think the whole point in being the one steering the boat is, if your on a bad course, you can decide to change it. ShiningLight23, That does sound mortifying, I think it's very bad form to make displays like that in public. If it's not to personal, what happened to bring on the slapping? -ARIES

Shininglight23 -> RE: Doms & Dommes, Do you publicly discipline? (8/3/2012 4:28:03 PM)
Aries, I am..umm.. for lack of a better term.. tactless? My honesty can get me in trouble sometimes.. even now. Not to say that I haven't gotten better! We're all a work in progress, right? It was completely unwarranted... I simply said something that he didn't want to hear. We were meeting at a store to pick something up for a family party (my family) prior to going together. I mentioned something about going back to his apartment so he could... "dress more appropriately to meet my family". He felt like I embarrassed him in public (even though no one could hear) and he wanted to do the same to me. Instead, I put the items down... apologized to the family, and the clerk. I then left and never spoke to him again. Some people are just ass-hats. -Allie

ARIES83 -> RE: Doms & Dommes, Do you publicly discipline? (8/3/2012 4:42:55 PM)
Allie, sounds like you handled it quite well, I admit, I'm one of those guys who could wear rags in public and not care, comes with being a tradesman, but the women in my life do a excellent job of trying to make me presentable. Keep up the good work. -ARIES

LanaDeVille -> RE: Doms & Dommes, Do you publicly discipline? (8/3/2012 5:34:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kitkat105 Trial by error? Really? In my honest opinion, slapping someone's face in public as an act of "domination" is not anything to do with BDSM. It is only a lose of temper and a serious character flaw. I don't expect anyone to act like they are a "twue Dom" but even in a world where common sense isn't common I don't see how that level of public humiliation and abuse of power within a relationship could EVER be construed as personal growth. That's no different to housewives thinking Christian Grey is a fucking Dom. Thank you KitKat.

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