Focus50
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ORIGINAL: littlewonder
I would say 95% of the time he is the active self starter but about 5% of the time he wants me to seduce him (which I suck at imo). But having to do that all the time just to get him in the mood would not fly with me. I'd get extremely bored and resentful.
But it also doesn't sound like their relationship is anything more than in the bedroom and if that's the case I don't think it matters who is active.
Well no, most relationships are a matter of feeding off each other's individual energy. Subs don't just have the art seduction to initiate, or of simply asking.... I often say the girl takes her cues from me; often in subtle ways like the "look" or my tone of voice etc. But it's just as likely that look or tone came about from something she did - and the lines of proactive and/or reactive become blurred.
But ok, that tends to work better in D/s relationships that have set rules for the sub to follow and, as you say, the OP seems to be asking more about the physical intimacy of D/s (in the bedroom) rather than a greater control dynamic. And if it's this hard to get him moving physically, he sure isn't gonna be formulating and enforcing relationship rules....
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