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dtydom -> opinion (8/5/2012 4:14:03 AM)

yes I'm married/involved etc. but I know some people could care less about that and plenty of married people are fooling around.

but is it fair to say this site, for involved or non--really doesn't do much aside from informational purposes and hopefully finding munches?

(and its not the website's fault, its more than people are way too on edge to do anything)

just an opinion




ARIES83 -> RE: opinion (8/5/2012 4:25:00 AM)

The purpose of this side IS for information
and maybe to help people find munches...

I've got no experience of the other side but from
what I've heard, it's takes a longer time for guys
to find someone than girls and on top of that a
married guy looking for a girl on the side is
probably considerably harder.

At least your up front, so good luck.

-ARIES



DarkSteven -> RE: opinion (8/5/2012 4:27:36 AM)

1. Your profile states that your wife knows and approves, and then the rest of your profile shows clearly that she does NOT know and approve. Nice try, bud.

2. You cannot just say "this site". This is two sites - collarme.com, which is the social network; and collarchat.com, which is the forums.

Collarchat.com exists for informational purposes, debate, and banter.

Collarme.com is for meeting up.

3. It's not easy to meet people on collarme, com. That said, I've done it several times, but I'm pretty good at it and was very actively using the site. And I was single at the time, not married and cheating.

My advice is to either repair your marriage or end it. Or just resign yourself to it and quit chasing.



Whenready -> RE: opinion (8/5/2012 4:47:27 AM)

yes I'm married/involved etc. but I know some people could care less about that and plenty of married people are fooling around.

This is true: some people care very much. Others don't.

but is it fair to say this site, for involved or non--really doesn't do much aside from informational purposes and hopefully finding munches?

Nope. That's not fair. There's also, as DarkSteven said, debate and banter, as well as a good deal of questioning and opinion sharing. Sometimes there's even humour....

(and its not the website's fault, its more than people are way too on edge to do anything)

Shoemakers. A geriatic consignment thereof.

just an opinion

We all have 'em. I reserve the right for mine to be wrong.



Salinedion -> RE: opinion (8/5/2012 5:01:13 AM)

A married guy looking to have kinky sex in a hotel room with no blow back and without paying $1,000 has (sadly) very few cards to play at all.

Honestly, you're lucky to even have this board to try your luck on. What's the heavy sigh about exactly?

Sucks to be you. Good luck with your romance plans.

Why won't your wife let you spank her ass? Or would you not even spank that ass on a dare?



ChatteParfaitt -> RE: opinion (8/5/2012 5:31:22 AM)

Just an opinion?

Okay, well here's mine.

All lil boys think getting their dick wet is special, then they are supposed to grow and realize, although it is very fun, it's not the only thing important in life.

If all you want to do is fuck around, why bother getting married?

It's not the fucking around the pisses me off, I've done my fair share of that, it's the sheer hypocrisy. Like you are somehow better or more kinky, since you don't have any personal integrity.

Because as usual, DS nailed it, your wife doesn't have a clue, she probably trusts you. Or is she as fickle as you? When she gets pregnant, is not knowing who the father is going to be okay with you? Or is that people being too up tight as well?

I guess I don't have enough ways to say: grow the fuck up.



Kaliko -> RE: opinion (8/5/2012 6:29:12 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: dtydom

yes I'm married/involved etc. but I know some people could care less about that and plenty of married people are fooling around.

but is it fair to say this site, for involved or non--really doesn't do much aside from informational purposes and hopefully finding munches?

(and its not the website's fault, its more than people are way too on edge to do anything)

just an opinion





I would imagine you'd have to be some sort of special to find a woman on any type of site like this that will choose to be with a married man over the many others that are probably in her inbox.




kalikshama -> RE: opinion (married guy whine) (8/5/2012 7:11:34 AM)

Last month I had a scene with a man in an open marriage that I met on the collarme.com side of the site, but his profile is WAY more attractive than yours. In fact, yours pretty much guarantees failure.



sunshinemiss -> RE: opinion (8/5/2012 7:13:45 AM)

There are chicks into that. Generally they aren't on Collarchat. Just the culture of the place, dude. You want hook ups? AFF or CL. Good luck.



dtydom -> RE: opinion (8/5/2012 9:08:12 AM)

sunshinemiss,

I have to agree though the alternative is not through AFF or CL. Much easier going to munches or just elsewhere.



dtydom -> RE: opinion (8/5/2012 9:11:31 AM)

Thanks for clarifying that there are two different unassociated? websites, here, one the board the other collarme



OsideGirl -> RE: opinion (8/5/2012 9:55:52 AM)

Considering he's changed his profile to being a 5'5" 900lb lesbian....



ClassAct2006 -> RE: opinion (8/5/2012 10:18:40 AM)

I've met really nice dominant boyfriends on BDSM sites. It can work. You need to be sensible and honest about it however and unless you're very rich and generous with it or incredibly good looking I am not sure most women (and even then not many) who are single tend to want someone who is attached.



lizi -> RE: opinion (8/5/2012 11:27:05 AM)

I'm not sure it's going to be an easy thing to get what you seek when the men to women ratio on adult sites heavily favor the women, and they don't have to settle for a married man. It also seems funny that you think people are 'way too on edge to do anything' and that is what is getting in your way. Kinky women aren't necessarily easy lays, and they aren't necessarily looking for sex. If you don't have much to offer someone that they can't get elsewhere, then you'll have to agree that you're somewhat destined for failure since the single guys can offer more.

Honestly? Why would i care as a woman on this site that a stranger wants to get laid? Getting laid is about as easy for me as crossing the street. I can call at least 10 people right now and have them here within the hour, and I'm an old bat. If I had to resort to looking on the CM site, I'm about sure if my first contact with a random dude in the area didn't have him jumping at the chance, then the second one would. It's not that hard. Since you are a guy, and are married, it's a different ball game for you dear. Sorry. Up your game, offer something else besides sex that a woman is interested in, or get interested in your wife.

I've met quite a few people from here, the site works well in my opinion.



NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: opinion (8/5/2012 12:57:05 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: dtydom
yes I'm married/involved etc. but I know some people could care less about that and plenty of married people are fooling around.

Yeah there are plenty of married cheaters. I'm not one who doesn't care. I despise them.

quote:

ORIGINAL: dtydom
but is it fair to say this site, for involved or non--really doesn't do much aside from informational purposes and hopefully finding munches?

(and its not the website's fault, its more than people are way too on edge to do anything)

just an opinion

Nope, it's not. I've found multiple partners right here on CM. As a matter of fact, I found my present submissive right here on CM. But as for finding munches, Fetlife is much better for finding events than CM is.

I'm not sure what you're meaning by people being "way too on edge." Sure, there are some whack jobs and weirdos out there, but there are also a good number of fine individuals that I know through CM as well.

Might you just be whining because you can't find anyone who will hook up with a married cheater who is lying to his wife just so he can get his dick wet? How would you feel if your own Mrs was out getting screwed by strange cock? If you really need to get your dick wet that bad by someone other than her, you'll have to find someone with no more integrity than yourself. Good luck with that.

NBMG



gungadin09 -> RE: opinion (8/5/2012 1:22:35 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: dtydom
...this site... really doesn't do much aside from informational purposes and hopefully finding munches?


Plenty of people from collarme have offered to meet me in real life.

Pam










seekingreality -> RE: opinion (8/5/2012 10:28:59 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: dtydom

yes I'm married/involved etc. but I know some people could care less about that and plenty of married people are fooling around.

but is it fair to say this site, for involved or non--really doesn't do much aside from informational purposes and hopefully finding munches?

(and its not the website's fault, its more than people are way too on edge to do anything)

just an opinion





1. Many people here want to meet others in real life.
2. I have let a lot of women online who I connected with in real life.
3. However, some men are online for years without success so there isn't s a formula.
4. Accept that if you try to meet women online it can be a long and frustrating experience.
5. Here's the tough part: It comes down to you -- how you look, how you present yourself in your profile, how you interact with others online. Don't blame the web site. The question is whether you have skills.



xLaChienne -> RE: opinion (8/5/2012 10:54:57 PM)

Too on edge?

I've never gotten information on a munch through here.

Why not join a site specifically for those looking to cheat on their partner?



hereyesruponyou -> RE: opinion (8/6/2012 7:44:14 PM)

Met several playmates, some amazing friends and my husband on cm.... also have joined some great discussions and both given and received great advice and interaction with others on these boards. My personal experience in and out of kink is that the people who are complaining the most about finding someone generally need to look to themselves for the answer as to why...



MistressDarkArt -> RE: opinion (8/6/2012 10:02:39 PM)

I've had good luck connecting with folks from CM.

Somewhere, there's an exception to the general disdain for married guys seeking extracurricular wick-dipping but dang if I know where they are on this board.

Mostly, women won't settle for making you their priority when they are merely an option to you. The men/women ratio in Kinksville heavily favors women. Add to that the married thing and you've got one tough row to hoe.

Now, if your wife is on board and willing to sit down with the outsider to lay out the ground rules, your odds will slightly improve. Then again, if your wife was on board perhaps you wouldn't be sniffing around outside your partnership.

Well, good luck with that thingy. And PS, I took a look at your profile; your butthurt is showing.



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