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goddessGisele -> Domme help (8/5/2012 11:50:42 PM)
I have always been intrigued by bdsm particularly in being a domme . I recently started to develop a relationship with a man who is looking to be submissive and have someone take complete control him. He has had experience with cuckolding, beatings, humiliation, chastity, etc.. I have no experience with any of these things and I'd like to learn but have no clue where to start. How did you guys get into being a mistress/dom and does anyone have any advice?

AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Domme help (8/6/2012 1:12:17 AM)
I'm not a domme so I can't offer much personal advice beyond talk, talk, talk. Communicate constantly about what's working and what isn't. Keep adapting until you find what gives you both the warm fuzzies. This site is written by a member here and is full of sensible advice: http://www.akashaweb.com/goodgirl.html

LadyConstanze -> RE: Domme help (8/6/2012 3:15:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: goddessGisele I have always been intrigued by bdsm particularly in being a domme . I recently started to develop a relationship with a man who is looking to be submissive and have someone take complete control him. He has had experience with cuckolding, beatings, humiliation, chastity, etc.. I have no experience with any of these things and I'd like to learn but have no clue where to start. How did you guys get into being a mistress/dom and does anyone have any advice? Not to put you off, but a guy saying he is looking for somebody to take control of him and actually giving up control are 2 different things, depends also which experience he has had in the past, a lot of things that seem great in fantasy aren't actually all that great in reality. Basically start with your own interests and explore those, it's not about you servicing him, it's something you should enjoy too, so you best find common ground and go from there, don't run before you walk.

AAkasha -> RE: Domme help (8/6/2012 10:40:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders I'm not a domme so I can't offer much personal advice beyond talk, talk, talk. Communicate constantly about what's working and what isn't. Keep adapting until you find what gives you both the warm fuzzies. This site is written by a member here and is full of sensible advice: http://www.akashaweb.com/goodgirl.html Thank you! I actually put the whole guide up and in a much easier to read format: http://www.akashaweb.com/updates/GoodGirlsFreePreview.html Akasha

goddessGisele -> RE: Domme help (8/6/2012 4:57:22 PM)
Akasha your good girls guide was extremely helpful! Thanks

BambiBoi -> RE: Domme help (8/6/2012 11:47:32 PM)
Solid guide, I've bookmarked it too. I would emphasize the importance to doing what YOU want as a domme. You can fake it and do what you think he likes for a while. If you worry only about your partner's pleasure eventually you'll crack and become Bambi. That's called being a service top. He wants to enjoy your enjoyment. But he can't do that if all you're doing is trying to please him. Fight the sensation that you're being selfish. He wants you to be selfish.

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