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Flaky Subs - 8/6/2012 12:56:04 PM   
GoddessNicky


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Status: offline 		Can any of you explain to me why so many "subs" flake out on us Domme's?
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RE: Flaky Subs - 8/6/2012 1:03:45 PM   
searching4mysir


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Status: offline 		It's the Internet, cupcake. And it happens to everyone, dom(me)/sub alike.

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RE: Flaky Subs - 8/6/2012 1:22:02 PM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		It happens to everyone regardless of gender, sexual orientation, or D/s designation. It's just part of the being on the internet and its probably always going to happen.

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RE: Flaky Subs - 8/6/2012 1:31:43 PM   
Winterapple


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Status: offline 		People get cold feet sometimes. It takes courage to take a chance. When it comes
down to it, it's just easier for some to hold
on to the fantasy.
And it's the Internet the home away from
home for flakes and a assortment of other dipshits.

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RE: Flaky Subs - 8/6/2012 1:55:00 PM   
MsLadySue


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Status: offline 		Maybe it has to do with your lack of experience (I looked at your profile) while holding a fist full of money and giving people the finger.

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RE: Flaky Subs - 8/6/2012 1:58:59 PM   
kneelingandbound


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Status: offline 		i think a lot of people can play out scenes online, but when it comes down to it, they just can't actually see it through! maybe they're just curious! x

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RE: Flaky Subs - 8/6/2012 2:10:43 PM   
GoddessNicky


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Status: offline 		Sometimes, I feel like it's a "rush" for some subs to say they are going to submit and then just disappear.

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RE: Flaky Subs - 8/6/2012 2:11:06 PM   
GreedyTop


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsLadySue

Maybe it has to do with your lack of experience (I looked at your profile) while holding a fist full of money and giving people the finger.



this would be my guess.

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RE: Flaky Subs - 8/6/2012 2:17:00 PM   
MsLadySue


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Status: offline 		I forgot to add that most subs will agree to anything to get some action online, few want to spend their hard earned money to get it.

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RE: Flaky Subs - 8/6/2012 2:59:34 PM   
OsideGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsLadySue

Maybe it has to do with your lack of experience (I looked at your profile) while holding a fist full of money and giving people the finger.


Ding, ding, ding! We have a winner.

They jerked off online, had an orgasm, and decided that all of the above wasn't someplace they were going.


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RE: Flaky Subs - 8/6/2012 3:15:02 PM   
littlewonder


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quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


quote:

ORIGINAL: MsLadySue

Maybe it has to do with your lack of experience (I looked at your profile) while holding a fist full of money and giving people the finger.


Ding, ding, ding! We have a winner.

They jerked off online, had an orgasm, and decided that all of the above wasn't someplace they were going.




another agreement here as well.


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RE: Flaky Subs - 8/6/2012 4:36:35 PM   
seekingreality


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quote:

ORIGINAL: GoddessNicky

Can any of you explain to me why so many "subs" flake out on us Domme's?



Basically, people will only be as flaky as you allow them to be. And you reduce flakiness by being real and straightforward, because that bores the flakes and they leave quickly.

I saw your profile and you don't present yourself as someone who anyone needs to take seriously, so many people simply use you as a vehicle to get a little online entertainment and then they move on.

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RE: Flaky Subs - 8/6/2012 4:43:26 PM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		I think it is because you said you like knife play and going to flea markets in the same paragraph.

You don't sound like a twue Domme.

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RE: Flaky Subs - 8/6/2012 4:47:41 PM   
MissImmortalPain


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Status: offline 		It doesn't always have to do with a lack of anything. A lot men like to play online. Some of them think that paying someone or even just talking to someone means they are in a "realationship" Some people are just fantasy players. If you are looking for something real then weed through them. If you are looking to get paid (and no there is nothing wrong with that) then you have to learn to deal with a lot of flakes. It is just how the game is played. Good luck.

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RE: Flaky Subs - 8/6/2012 5:12:36 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		From your profile: "any submissive who is TRULY submissive can contact me if you care to be owned. I require an application and a slavery contract. Keep in mind, that I owe you NOTHING in return, you will be OWNED by me and be grateful for being my property. "

You are filtering out all genuine subs with that.

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RE: Flaky Subs - 8/6/2012 6:56:27 PM   
Kaiel


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

From your profile: "any submissive who is TRULY submissive can contact me if you care to be owned. I require an application and a slavery contract. Keep in mind, that I owe you NOTHING in return, you will be OWNED by me and be grateful for being my property. "




^^^this sounds as if it came straight out of book... ummm, Me thinks there's another Shades of Grey fan, deciding to Domme^^^


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RE: Flaky Subs - 8/6/2012 7:22:57 PM   
DomMeinCT


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Status: offline 		They remember their rent is due and decide to prioritize accordingly.

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RE: Flaky Subs - 8/6/2012 7:29:53 PM   
graceadieu


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

From your profile: "any submissive who is TRULY submissive can contact me if you care to be owned. I require an application and a slavery contract. Keep in mind, that I owe you NOTHING in return, you will be OWNED by me and be grateful for being my property. "

You are filtering out all genuine subs with that.


Agreed. That sounds very fantasy-based. Some guy looking for a play session now and then could be inspired by that, but it's just not a realistic basis for a relationship. If I was looking and saw that, I'd pass her right over.

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RE: Flaky Subs - 8/6/2012 7:33:24 PM   
MistressDarkArt


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quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder


quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


quote:

ORIGINAL: MsLadySue

Maybe it has to do with your lack of experience (I looked at your profile) while holding a fist full of money and giving people the finger.


Ding, ding, ding! We have a winner.

They jerked off online, had an orgasm, and decided that all of the above wasn't someplace they were going.




another agreement here as well.



+1.


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RE: Flaky Subs - 8/6/2012 7:34:30 PM   
MistressDarkArt


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DomMeinCT

They remember their rent is due and decide to prioritize accordingly.


Have I told you lately I love you?

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