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LadyHibiscus -> RE: What gets a dommes attention? (8/15/2012 11:17:34 AM)

We're a whimsical lot, you'll find. And BACON is what gets a dom's attention, evidently. Me, it's fairy cakes, but I do like bacon. Soft bacon, so the fat is all juicy like. Yes.



GreedyTop -> RE: What gets a dommes attention? (8/15/2012 11:23:28 AM)


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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

We're a whimsical lot, you'll find. And BACON is what gets a dom's attention, evidently. Me, it's fairy cakes, but I do like bacon. Soft bacon, so the fat is all juicy like. Yes.



YES!! the bacon MUST be chewy!!!!



MistressDarkArt -> RE: What gets a dommes attention? (8/15/2012 12:18:38 PM)

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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop


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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

We're a whimsical lot, you'll find. And BACON is what gets a dom's attention, evidently. Me, it's fairy cakes, but I do like bacon. Soft bacon, so the fat is all juicy like. Yes.


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YES!! the bacon MUST be chewy!!!!


No, NO, NOOOOO!!! Baked completely dry and crispy...mmmm, salty, smoky and crunchy!

Welcome OP. Here's an easy motto to remember: woman first, domme second. And don't trot out your kink list until she asks for it (obvious giveaway when a guy is posing as a female...they get right down to wank material without bothering to find out who you are as a person.)

Good luck!



LadyHibiscus -> RE: What gets a dommes attention? (8/15/2012 12:20:09 PM)

There is enough bacon for ALL OF US, MDA!! I am an excellent cooker of the bacons!



mistressbri60501 -> RE: What gets a dommes attention? (8/15/2012 1:47:36 PM)

Like TNDommeK said reading her whole profile and commenting on something not in the top line does wonders it shows that you are serious and want to know her. Yes we are crabby,picky and tiered of being lied to. Lying to us it the worst thing. We always do find out the truth. And if you are caught we will not every forgive.
Mistress Bri



TNDommeK -> RE: What gets a dommes attention? (8/15/2012 8:05:46 PM)

I think it is safe to say that PS has to constantly wear the kilt, unless it is being cleaned of course, other than that...KILT!

Bacon *swoooons* Yes I swoon for bacon, what of it?!



TimidDL -> RE: What gets a dommes attention? (8/16/2012 7:23:34 AM)

Ok. Thanks! I'll remember that.



MarcEsadrian -> RE: What gets a dommes attention? (8/16/2012 10:31:23 PM)


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ORIGINAL: TimidDL

I am an untrained and unowned sub who is very new to this lifestyle. I was wondering what sort of things grab the attention of dommes. What are common turn-ons and turn-offs? I appreciate the help [:)]


Instead of polishing that little trap, look within yourself and listen to your conscience on the matter. Chances are you probably already know full well what women find worthy of consideration and what they don't.

I will help you out with the first clue, however: authenticity. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Just that alone, if applied in earnest, would stop 90% of the idiocy and cognitive dissonance running rampant among so-called submissive men. If you want to stand out, keep the bullshit to a minimum. Have you started out already in this spirit? Things to ponder, maybe.



TimidDL -> RE: What gets a dommes attention? (8/17/2012 6:58:49 AM)


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ORIGINAL: MarcEsadrian

Instead of polishing that little trap, look within yourself and listen to your conscience on the matter. Chances are you probably already know full well what women find worthy of consideration and what they don't.

I will help you out with the first clue, however: authenticity. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Just that alone, if applied in earnest, would stop 90% of the idiocy and cognitive dissonance running rampant among so-called submissive men. If you want to stand out, keep the bullshit to a minimum. Have you started out already in this spirit? Things to ponder, maybe.


I understand now that it was foolish of me to post this in the first place. I am authentic. I really do mean what I say. I'm not spouting out random topics just to get attention. Thank you for taking concern (with a good vocabulary, might I add).



Tantriqu -> RE: What gets a dommes attention? (8/17/2012 7:10:37 AM)

what gets our attention?
See FAQ's above, plus:
An intelligent, heavily vanilla profile, bonus point from me for a sense of humour and a way with words.
An interesting, vanilla profile pic.
Someone who reads, listens, and learns.

And bacon.
Plenty o' bacon.
Like the Beggin'Strips ;-) ad: BACONBACONBACONBACON.
Not too soft, not too burnt. Juuuust right.
Berkshire for preference.
Piping hot.
With banana pancakes for brekkie, in toasted cheese sammiches for lunch, in soup for supper, and with a touch of strawberry jam or caramel for the world's best/worst midnight snack.
Mmm, bacon . . . [8D]

Sigh, off for psyllium high-fibre bran cereal and 1% milk. [:@]



TimidDL -> RE: What gets a dommes attention? (8/17/2012 7:27:18 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Tantriqu

what gets our attention?
See FAQ's above, plus:
An intelligent, heavily vanilla profile, bonus point from me for a sense of humour and a way with words.
An interesting, vanilla profile pic.
Someone who reads, listens, and learns.

And bacon.
Plenty o' bacon.
Like the Beggin'Strips ;-) ad: BACONBACONBACONBACON.
Not too soft, not too burnt. Juuuust right.
Berkshire for preference.
Piping hot.
With banana pancakes for brekkie, in toasted cheese sammiches for lunch, in soup for supper, and with a touch of strawberry jam or caramel for the world's best/worst midnight snack.
Mmm, bacon . . . [8D]

Sigh, off for psyllium high-fibre bran cereal and 1% milk. [:@]


Thank you! That's what I was looking for. I am unfamiliar with the etiquette of sites like these. I wasn't sure if people wanted more vanilla-like profiles or not.



RedMagic1 -> RE: What gets a dommes attention? (8/17/2012 7:33:34 AM)

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ORIGINAL: TimidDL
with the etiquette of sites like these. I wasn't sure if people wanted more vanilla-like profiles or not.

Eh. Profile is almost irrelevant. What matters is quality of email (and then other types of) conversation. I've found it best to send the initial email about something in her journal, as opposed to the profile. Very high response rate. Not long ago, an online domme said to me, "Hey, do you want anything from Amazon? I've got a ton of gift cards I'm not using." Women really value friendship and decency, and it's hard to find on the kinky internet. And, bonus, being a gentleman and actually caring about them as a person gets them wet.



TimidDL -> RE: What gets a dommes attention? (8/17/2012 7:38:39 AM)


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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

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ORIGINAL: TimidDL
with the etiquette of sites like these. I wasn't sure if people wanted more vanilla-like profiles or not.

Eh. Profile is almost irrelevant. What matters is quality of email (and then other types of) conversation. I've found it best to send the initial email about something in her journal, as opposed to the profile. Very high response rate. Not long ago, an online domme said to me, "Hey, do you want anything from Amazon? I've got a ton of gift cards I'm not using." Women really value friendship and decency, and it's hard to find on the kinky internet. And, bonus, being a gentleman and actually caring about them as a person gets them wet.

lol I love how you managed to put "Being a gentleman" and "gets them wet" in the same sentence. And I try to do that in conversations. It seems like most of the dommes I've talked to through messages don't care about my friendship :/



Goddesstwoall -> RE: What gets a dommes attention? (8/17/2012 8:45:43 AM)

Well what normally works for me is taking out the guess work. right off the bat you need to greet each mistress with respect and gratitude for reading your emial. Then tell her about your self and find out if she can use you in anyway. maybe request to prove yourself and serve temporarily to see if the match is right.



kalikshama -> RE: What gets a dommes attention? (8/17/2012 8:53:40 AM)

OP - note that the poster above me is looking for people who consider themselves worthless and pathetic. So take her advice if you are in that category.



Tantriqu -> RE: What gets a dommes attention? (8/17/2012 9:05:16 AM)

The comic Elayne Boosler said we can only achieve peace and harmony once men realise that it's not kinky underwear that makes women wet, but taking out the garbage without being reminded and replacing the bin liner without being asked.

And as a Domme, for me, add 'just because poetry', a perfectly ripe mango and sexual receptiveness in a good man, and you'll need a mop and bucket for a clean-up in Aisle 3.

And I love watching my man, or any man, being a gentleman, holding elevator doors for old men, getting things off top shelves for little old ladies, pretending to let little kids win footraces: drool!



PrincessDonna11 -> RE: What gets a dommes attention? (8/17/2012 9:19:31 AM)

I think when someone dares to "court" me and think of lil surprises that will please me that maybe no one else has thought of. Now THAT gets my attention, n ot hearing about fantasys or past experience.



LadyConstanze -> RE: What gets a dommes attention? (8/17/2012 9:31:23 AM)


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ORIGINAL: TimidDL


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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

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ORIGINAL: TimidDL
with the etiquette of sites like these. I wasn't sure if people wanted more vanilla-like profiles or not.

Eh. Profile is almost irrelevant. What matters is quality of email (and then other types of) conversation. I've found it best to send the initial email about something in her journal, as opposed to the profile. Very high response rate. Not long ago, an online domme said to me, "Hey, do you want anything from Amazon? I've got a ton of gift cards I'm not using." Women really value friendship and decency, and it's hard to find on the kinky internet. And, bonus, being a gentleman and actually caring about them as a person gets them wet.

lol I love how you managed to put "Being a gentleman" and "gets them wet" in the same sentence. And I try to do that in conversations. It seems like most of the dommes I've talked to through messages don't care about my friendship :/


Bear in mind that they are getting lots and lots of messages, even with some that seem to be polite, after the 2md or 3rd mail you often get the "And what do you want to do to me?" comment that automatically puts a damper on things, it's the CM equivalent of asking a girl you met in a pub after 2 or 3 platitudes if she liked oral sex...



RedMagic1 -> RE: What gets a dommes attention? (8/17/2012 9:33:08 AM)

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ORIGINAL: kalikshama
OP - note that the poster above me is looking for people who consider themselves worthless and pathetic.

I haven't read her profile, and I've never spoken to her, but I'd like to point out that femdoms are often looking for much more than that, even if their profile only talks about loserslaves. I've had plenty of conversations where women either acknowledge that's marketing, or say some version of, "Oh thank God you want to relate to me as a real person, not just that. It seems as though every man who writes me wants to be a loser or humiliated, and I checked out other profiles of dominant women in my age category, and I saw they were all doing this, so I figured that was what you were supposed to do."

Also, a lot of women either leave CM for good, or decide, "Fine, tribute me too, bitches," after having their time royally wasted one time too many.

Moral of the story: journals are more revealing than profiles, and direct conversation is more revealing than a journal entry.

So many things one can learn if one is attracted to hot young women with fiery attitudes! [;)]



LadyPact -> RE: What gets a dommes attention? (8/17/2012 11:33:23 AM)

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ORIGINAL: TimidDL
with the etiquette of sites like these. I wasn't sure if people wanted more vanilla-like profiles or not.

The majority of women here who are looking for life partners will say go with the vanilla. There are others like Me (in the minority) who really are here just for the kink and honestly don't care what kind of movies you like.

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ORIGINAL: TimidDLlol I love how you managed to put "Being a gentleman" and "gets them wet" in the same sentence. And I try to do that in conversations. It seems like most of the dommes I've talked to through messages don't care about my friendship :/
Did you happen to notice what I had written on your other thread over in general discussion? You do have a kink that is going to make you incompatible with a lot of people and it is obvious what that kink is by your screen name. Your batting average is going to suck unless you specifically look for those who state up front that have that kink in common.

That's over and above what Lady C was saying. While many of the forum folks here are very friendly, we are rather leery of males who write emails out of the blue, looking for friends. Too many people see this place as a hook up site for that to go well.






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