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ORIGINAL: KaleidoKenlyn

So, as of late, I've been noticing a lot of hate for skinny women. All over my Facebook, I've been seeing a lot of pictures of larger women and they're always captioned with "REAL women have curves" or "Curves are beautiful." It's not the pictures/captions that I have a big problem with (at least.. not for the most part). It's the comments that I see posted to those pics. And I see a lot of the same on this site as well. People have taken to calling slender women "disgusting" or "gross" or "a bag of bones." Anorexia and the evils of society will usually crop up in the discussion as well.
Let me clarify something here. I'm not saying extremely underweight women are gorgeous. But I don't think extremely overweight women are either, though they are socially acceptable nowadays. People go on about how "society wants us all to be skinny." But really? At least in my area, slender women are a rare find. There's absolutely no shortage of larger women though. And, no. No one calls them fat. Skinny girl comes around though, and the eating disorder discussion will come right up. They are constantly teased about their lack of weight.
Sure, in the modeling world, you're likely to see a majority of size 2's. But in every day life for most of them, slim women are practically shunned.
People forget that they are real women, too. The majority of them work hard and eat right to keep their figures (not that I am one to diss anyone who enjoys the occasional Twinkie ^_^). The comments that get thrown around really, really bother me. These women have self-esteem issues just like the rest of us. We ALL have beautiful traits. And we ALL have something on our body that could be called "disgusting" by somebody out there. But NONE of us enjoy it.

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ORIGINAL: KaleidoKenlyn

... Skinny girl comes around though, and the eating disorder discussion will come right up...

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

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ORIGINAL: KaleidoKenlyn

So, as of late, I've been noticing a lot of hate for skinny women. All over my Facebook, I've been seeing a lot of pictures of larger women and they're always captioned with "REAL women have curves" or "Curves are beautiful." It's not the pictures/captions that I have a big problem with (at least.. not for the most part). It's the comments that I see posted to those pics. And I see a lot of the same on this site as well. People have taken to calling slender women "disgusting" or "gross" or "a bag of bones." Anorexia and the evils of society will usually crop up in the discussion as well.
Let me clarify something here. I'm not saying extremely underweight women are gorgeous. But I don't think extremely overweight women are either, though they are socially acceptable nowadays. People go on about how "society wants us all to be skinny." But really? At least in my area, slender women are a rare find. There's absolutely no shortage of larger women though. And, no. No one calls them fat. Skinny girl comes around though, and the eating disorder discussion will come right up. They are constantly teased about their lack of weight.
Sure, in the modeling world, you're likely to see a majority of size 2's. But in every day life for most of them, slim women are practically shunned.
People forget that they are real women, too. The majority of them work hard and eat right to keep their figures (not that I am one to diss anyone who enjoys the occasional Twinkie ^_^). The comments that get thrown around really, really bother me. These women have self-esteem issues just like the rest of us. We ALL have beautiful traits. And we ALL have something on our body that could be called "disgusting" by somebody out there. But NONE of us enjoy it.

I am 5'6" and in my adult life I've been every where from 112# ( and I did look like a skeleton walking) to 235# or so, at my heaviest. I never want to be 112# again nor do I ever want to be 235# again. Or anywhere close to either.

That being said, I had people tellling me I was hot stuff at both ends of the spectrum and everywhere inbetween. I am sure that there were people that also found me unappealing physicall, for some reason or other, at both 112#, 235#......and every pound inbetween. C'est la vie!

Facts are......the media says thin is the way to be. It also says that the majority of our population is fat. Not just a few pounds overweight but FAT. Because the media tells us that fat is gross and this is the way to be AND that most of us are fat......well tadaaa! You have a recipe for lots of bashing. Self loathing is a mother fucker. If people didn't self loath the BBW thing would have never been created. Most generally, the greater percentage of skinny people find the physical appearance of fat people unappealing. Fat people fight that with phrases like BBW to combat their own self loathing and the fat bashing. Their own insecurities and self loathing creates skinny bashing.

It's all the worst bits of human nature and I don't think it's ever going to go away.

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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

Do you think people are offended by skinny people, too?

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ORIGINAL: KaleidoKenlyn

though they are socially acceptable nowadays.

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1


Sorry, LaT, not correct on any level. The fashion industry coined the phrase back in the day. I know, I was a plus size model.

I like the term, maybe some people feel self loathing and don't see their beauty, but I think whatever you want to call yourself is fine with me.

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1


Sorry, LaT, not correct on any level. The fashion industry coined the phrase back in the day. I know, I was a plus size model.

I like the term, maybe some people feel self loathing and don't see their beauty, but I think whatever you want to call yourself is fine with me.

You've just proven my point. Thank you.

Marketing wizards came up with the term to avoid calling fat women fat. Fat, plus sized, etc has a negative connotation. So what phrase could they come up with to make people that were already catching shit from society, feel better about themselves. Oh yeah......let's use big and beautiful!

It was a MARKETING ploy and it worked!

Certainly some fat people ARE beautiful just like some slender people are beautiful and some people that are in the middle, between fat and slim. And yes, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What I see as beautiful may not be the same as you, or anyone else.

But to justify buying into some marketing ploy just to find a way to fool yourself into believing something is beautiful.........fat or thin, is still buying into it.

It's no different than the blonde gig or the fake boob gig, or makeup versus no make up, or shaved pussy versus natural.

We all have preferences and biases but to say that those preferences and biases are not shaped by media is bullshit.

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ORIGINAL: KaleidoKenlyn

So, as of late, I've been noticing a lot of hate for skinny women. All over my Facebook, I've been seeing a lot of pictures of larger women and they're always captioned with "REAL women have curves" or "Curves are beautiful." It's not the pictures/captions that I have a big problem with (at least.. not for the most part). It's the comments that I see posted to those pics. And I see a lot of the same on this site as well. People have taken to calling slender women "disgusting" or "gross" or "a bag of bones." Anorexia and the evils of society will usually crop up in the discussion as well.
Let me clarify something here. I'm not saying extremely underweight women are gorgeous. But I don't think extremely overweight women are either, though they are socially acceptable nowadays. People go on about how "society wants us all to be skinny." But really? At least in my area, slender women are a rare find. There's absolutely no shortage of larger women though. And, no. No one calls them fat. Skinny girl comes around though, and the eating disorder discussion will come right up. They are constantly teased about their lack of weight.
Sure, in the modeling world, you're likely to see a majority of size 2's. But in every day life for most of them, slim women are practically shunned.
People forget that they are real women, too. The majority of them work hard and eat right to keep their figures (not that I am one to diss anyone who enjoys the occasional Twinkie ^_^). The comments that get thrown around really, really bother me. These women have self-esteem issues just like the rest of us. We ALL have beautiful traits. And we ALL have something on our body that could be called "disgusting" by somebody out there. But NONE of us enjoy it.

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Not that hyper thin/fat chicks dont have brains but there's too much baggage to get to them.