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ToyletHubby4U -> Marriage (8/18/2012 2:01:17 AM)

Obviously, my name indicates my hope to be claimed one day forever in marriage by "The One" to whom I would faithfully dedicate the rest of my life. I guess that I was a little surprised that there didn't seem to be much here on that. So, I guess that my question would be: is this something that might be a realistic aspiration on my part or does marriage seem to be something that is less likely within the bdsm world? Thank you all.



yourdarkdesire -> RE: Marriage (8/18/2012 2:44:48 AM)

You are on the collar chat site, where we engage in discussions. What you are looking for is on the other side, the collar me site.



DarkSteven -> RE: Marriage (8/18/2012 3:32:52 AM)


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ORIGINAL: ToyletHubby4U

Obviously, my name indicates my hope to be claimed one day forever in marriage by "The One" to whom I would faithfully dedicate the rest of my life.


Nope, it's not obvious. When I read your username, I assumed that it meant that you're married.
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I guess that I was a little surprised that there didn't seem to be much here on that. So, I guess that my question would be: is this something that might be a realistic aspiration on my part or does marriage seem to be something that is less likely within the bdsm world? Thank you all.


Your profile basically says, "I'm a good man. I want some woman to shit on me. Will You marry me?" And your assumption is that the only reason you're not successful is that women aren't into marriage?





MsLadySue -> RE: Marriage (8/18/2012 3:37:10 AM)

Marriage is just as likely in the bdsm world as in the vanilla one. Same rules apply; get to know each other as people first then let things happen as they may. If marriage is your ultimate goal, be up front about it at the beginning so no one wastes their time since there are people like myself who have no intention of marrying/remarrying.



Kaliko -> RE: Marriage (8/18/2012 5:06:09 AM)


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven



Your profile basically says, "I'm a good man. I want some woman to shit on me. Will You marry me?" And your assumption is that the only reason you're not successful is that women aren't into marriage?





This.



LadyConstanze -> RE: Marriage (8/18/2012 5:25:34 AM)

There are possibly not quite as many women into full toilet as you hope there are, personally I do not want to think all that much about your fetish because it really isn't mine and my tummy is very sensitive - that's not putting your fetish down, as valid as mine but possibly incompatible with a lot of others.

The marriage part, do you honestly think that women are going to ask you to marry them because you want to be their toilet husband? Even if a woman has that fetish and it is very strong, going to the loo takes what? 10 to 20 minutes out of one day, the day has 24 hours, think that is enough to fill the rest of the 23 hours and 40 minutes?



SadisticMs2 -> RE: Marriage (8/18/2012 7:13:23 AM)

A relationship that thrives and leads to marriage takes quite a while to build - usually years. If ever. A relationship built on whether or not she will indulge your kink will not last.

Have you ever been married? Do you date much? Are you good at relationships, both dating and friendships? What do you want outside of kink? What do you have to offer other than kink? Are you emotionally and financially stable? Do you have good relationships with your ex's and kids?

Don't focus so much on the end result. It's a long journey to get to that point.



areuhim -> RE: Marriage (8/18/2012 7:38:50 AM)

I agree. Your profile needs help. Even slaves should be interesting I would think...

And your name does seem to indicate that you are married. If I were looking for a slave (which I am not) I would have passed you by if I had not read this thread. I only read your profile to comment here.



Killerangel -> RE: Marriage (8/18/2012 8:57:28 AM)

You frame this thread by asking if marriage is common in BDSM, but what you are really asking is to be married based on a sexual fetish not shared by many. This is not the same thing. Marriage is just as common in BDSM as it is anywhere, and lots of people choose to be married. However not many people want to marry a virtual stranger who wishes to do that on a base of toilet slavery. You're being disingenuous by comparing two entirely different things and acting as though they are the same.

I'm not thinking many people want to be married to someone they don't know well regardless of if they share a sexual fetish or not.



ToyletHubby4U -> RE: Marriage (8/18/2012 12:25:38 PM)

Thanks all for the criticisms They are illuminating



QueenRah -> RE: Marriage (8/18/2012 1:07:45 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Your profile basically says, "I'm a good man. I want some woman to shit on me. Will You marry me?" And your assumption is that the only reason you're not successful is that women aren't into marriage?



That's, obviously, the problem. What else could it be? I mean, Duh, Steven. LMAOWTIG (Whoops. There it goes.)

QR



LookieNoNookie -> RE: Marriage (8/18/2012 6:23:01 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: ToyletHubby4U

Obviously, my name indicates my hope to be claimed one day forever in marriage by "The One" to whom I would faithfully dedicate the rest of my life. I guess that I was a little surprised that there didn't seem to be much here on that. So, I guess that my question would be: is this something that might be a realistic aspiration on my part or does marriage seem to be something that is less likely within the bdsm world? Thank you all.


I'm thinking dating first would be a good start.



subbingincalif -> RE: Marriage (8/18/2012 11:22:00 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: ToyletHubby4U

Obviously, my name indicates my hope to be claimed one day forever in marriage by "The One" to whom I would faithfully dedicate the rest of my life. I guess that I was a little surprised that there didn't seem to be much here on that. So, I guess that my question would be: is this something that might be a realistic aspiration on my part or does marriage seem to be something that is less likely within the bdsm world? Thank you all.


Defining yourself entirely in terms of a single, extreme fetish that doesn't interest that many people is not a particular good strategy to finding a long-term relationship.

Even if that is a fetish a woman shares with you, there are probably 100 other things that would be more important than that fetish in terms of what she was looking for in a mate.

So if that fetish is really your overwhelming interest ... okay. Your business. But realize you'd better bring more to the table than that.



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