I have specific needs/turn ons - where does this put me as a DOM or SUB?

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LovelyxLilithx -> I have specific needs/turn ons - where does this put me as a DOM or SUB? (8/18/2012 2:02:36 PM)
I'm new to the site, but not new to my lifestyle. I have a few (discretely) kinky friends who have referred me to this site because they have had a lot of fun think it is filled with decent human beings. I have very specific kinks/needs, but I'm not sure if I fall into the DOM or the SUB category. I chose 'switch' for my profile status, but I'm not even entirely sure that's what I am. I definately want to be in control of certain aspects of things, power is definitely a part of it for me - and yet, I do also enjoy the feeling that I am fulfilling the desires of another. Please read my profile and let me know if you have any insight or advice. Thank you xo- Lilith

SylvereApLeanan -> RE: I have specific needs/turn ons - where does this put me as a DOM or SUB? (8/18/2012 2:40:31 PM)
That's a question only you can answer. Maybe you're a dominant bottom.

Whenready -> RE: I have specific needs/turn ons - where does this put me as a DOM or SUB? (8/18/2012 2:41:00 PM)
You possibly won't like this, but you did ask. I get off letting you buy* my soiled panties* Findomme. But if it works for you - and your customers - enjoy.

LovelyxLilithx -> RE: I have specific needs/turn ons - where does this put me as a DOM or SUB? (8/18/2012 2:48:26 PM)
No, I'm not offended at all. I know that involving money into the fetish is very taboo in certain scenes/circles. I believe it is part of the 'power play' a bit, and therefore, am wondering if that makes me more of a DOM in the situation or not? I'm not trying to be rude, and I've put everything out in the open as to what I'm looking for. I'm not looking to scam anymore.

Whenready -> RE: I have specific needs/turn ons - where does this put me as a DOM or SUB? (8/18/2012 2:52:28 PM)
Which gives you the greater kick? Following the customer's specific requirements? Knowing they'll be happy? Getting paid? These might help you decide.

RedMagic1 -> RE: I have specific needs/turn ons - where does this put me as a DOM or SUB? (8/18/2012 2:56:50 PM)
I haven't read your profile, but why not just identify as "kinky bitch?" A friend of mine complained that she couldn't figure out how to label herself no matter how she tried, so I started calling her TF, which was a pet name standing for "twisted fuck." She thought that was perfect. In terms of CM, choose any role, and then start your profile out by saying, "I picked a CM role because I had to. My real sexual identity is this." And then describe yourself, as you are apparently doing.

DesFIP -> RE: I have specific needs/turn ons - where does this put me as a DOM or SUB? (8/18/2012 5:01:16 PM)
We all have specific things that we like and other things we dislike. It just means when talking to people, we need to make sure that we are compatible. Face slapping is a hard limit for me. What that means is that if I was looking, I would turn down any guy who said it was his favorite thing. Because I can't ever do it and he should be with someone who likes the same things he does and not someone who doesn't.

littlewonder -> RE: I have specific needs/turn ons - where does this put me as a DOM or SUB? (8/18/2012 6:11:34 PM)
Well from what others have said about your profile, I would label you as a pro findomme. You take their money and give them their desires. That's what pro dommes do.

LookieNoNookie -> RE: I have specific needs/turn ons - where does this put me as a DOM or SUB? (8/18/2012 6:26:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan That's a question only you can answer. Maybe you're a dominant bottom. Maybe he's a dominant bottom with switch tendencies, on a sub parallax.

JanahX -> RE: I have specific needs/turn ons - where does this put me as a DOM or SUB? (8/18/2012 6:34:30 PM)
Why do I have a feeling this is CHATTERBOX again? This shit is getting really old. & the profile is hidden - GO FIGURE -

LovelyxLilith -> RE: I have specific needs/turn ons - where does this put me as a DOM or SUB? (8/19/2012 12:37:01 PM)
This is the first i'm hearing of the term "Findomme" - as I'm kind of new to the BDSM world. I will read up on it and see if that is perhaps what 'label' I feel I closely identify with. Thank you!

LadyPact -> RE: I have specific needs/turn ons - where does this put me as a DOM or SUB? (8/19/2012 3:50:32 PM)
How in the space of ten responses did you go from, "I'm new to the site, but not new to my lifestyle" to "I'm kind of new to the BDSM world?"

LadyHibiscus -> RE: I have specific needs/turn ons - where does this put me as a DOM or SUB? (8/19/2012 3:53:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie quote: ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan That's a question only you can answer. Maybe you're a dominant bottom. Maybe he's a dominant bottom with switch tendencies, on a sub parallax. JJ is a fucking genius. He is cursed with the gift.

ARIES83 -> RE: I have specific needs/turn ons - where does this put me as a DOM or SUB? (8/19/2012 3:59:14 PM)
Not to sound cynical but, I have noticed a new tact from new findommes lately... -ARIES

kalikshama -> RE: I have specific needs/turn ons - where does this put me as a DOM or SUB? (8/19/2012 4:00:09 PM)
...which is?

LadyPact -> RE: I have specific needs/turn ons - where does this put me as a DOM or SUB? (8/19/2012 4:03:07 PM)
The new advertising technique of playing stupid so people will look at their profile.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: I have specific needs/turn ons - where does this put me as a DOM or SUB? (8/19/2012 4:08:58 PM)
Well they need to do something, the lurkers here are a bunch of pikers!

Baroana -> RE: I have specific needs/turn ons - where does this put me as a DOM or SUB? (8/19/2012 4:12:18 PM)
"You give me money, I take it." That to me does not define a "findomme" or any kind of dom. That's a panhandler.

ARIES83 -> RE: I have specific needs/turn ons - where does this put me as a DOM or SUB? (8/19/2012 4:15:08 PM)
Hib... Careful with the cockney english slang. It will summon Peon!

LookieNoNookie -> RE: I have specific needs/turn ons - where does this put me as a DOM or SUB? (8/19/2012 4:20:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus quote: ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie quote: ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan That's a question only you can answer. Maybe you're a dominant bottom. Maybe he's a dominant bottom with switch tendencies, on a sub parallax. JJ is a fucking genius. He is cursed with the gift. (It's been said before).

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