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How to be a good girl when i have to tell daddy bye - 8/20/2012 12:24:17 AM   
mistressdenelle


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Status: offline 		I have a new dominant :-)
And this a new time being a submissive

Daddy is great , he's really sweet a patience . The only time he gets a little testsy is when I am bluntly not listening or being disrespectful.

My main problem is we live apart so when he comes to see , then drop me off back at home and tells me 1 kiss then to say goodbye

I start misbehaving, I kiss him more than once, aggressively, (which he doesn't like ) , then pout and throw a fit .

Because I hate saying goodbye to daddy .

Any tips on behaving

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RE: How to be a good girl when i have to tell daddy bye - 8/20/2012 12:50:31 AM   
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Seriously... if you want to behave better, then do...
If you enjoy him taking more active control in stopping you from pushing, then talk to him about it and see if it's something he'd also like or be willing to do.
If you enjoy getting in trouble for behaving poorly, then keep doing what you're doing and see if he'll put up with it.



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RE: How to be a good girl when i have to tell daddy bye - 8/20/2012 7:17:12 AM   
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Grow up?

Seriously... if you want to behave better, then do...


^^^^This. You're not 3 years old, you're an adult. Act like it.


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RE: How to be a good girl when i have to tell daddy bye - 8/20/2012 7:28:14 AM   
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Status: offline 		This is new to you, so you'll have to work through the bumps like anything else.

You know the drill from the other side of the kneel - now ask yourself, what would you do? How would you handle it? And what would you expect?

If you talk it out, things will go better. As for impulse control - if you don't have it, let him know that so he knows what to expect, and how to handle you.

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RE: How to be a good girl when i have to tell daddy bye - 8/20/2012 7:29:39 AM   
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You know the drill from the other side of the kneel - now ask yourself, what would you do? How would you handle it? And what would you expect?


She's 18, it's questionable how much she knows from the other side kneel.


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RE: How to be a good girl when i have to tell daddy bye - 8/20/2012 7:37:02 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: RemoteUser

You know the drill from the other side of the kneel - now ask yourself, what would you do? How would you handle it? And what would you expect?


She's 18, it's questionable how much she knows from the other side kneel.


I know, I was going with what was presented, rather than assume by extrapolation.

If nothing else, it does nudge her to change the direction of her thinking to allow for better understanding. She won't change her attitude without perspective, and if that's what she really wants to do, that's how to go about it.

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RE: How to be a good girl when i have to tell daddy bye - 8/20/2012 7:45:04 AM   
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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


quote:

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Grow up?

Seriously... if you want to behave better, then do...


^^^^This. You're not 3 years old, you're an adult. Act like it.




X 100.

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RE: How to be a good girl when i have to tell daddy bye - 8/20/2012 7:49:04 AM   
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If nothing else, it does nudge her to change the direction of her thinking to allow for better understanding.


That's true.


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RE: How to be a good girl when i have to tell daddy bye - 8/20/2012 8:11:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		Gosh... I don't really know what to say. Pretty much everyone else hit the nail on the head with "Grow up". I'll toss this into the ring though...

You're new daddy who's so awesome and all... You're going to lose him with this crap if he is even remotely dominant. "Patient" does not last forever and with me you'd get exactly ONE of those episodes. The second and I'd be thinking you're disobedient flake and cutting my losses. Eventually he's going to come to that same conclusion also... assuming he is actually dominant not just "top".

So maybe the thought of throwing away your new relationship is bracing enough for you to develop a bit of self-discipline?

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RE: How to be a good girl when i have to tell daddy bye - 8/20/2012 8:25:11 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm glad for you that your daddy is patient with you.

I would find that kind of behaviour extraordinarily irritating.



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RE: How to be a good girl when i have to tell daddy bye - 8/20/2012 8:29:44 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'd have kicked her ass to the curb, at the second time. First time would be a warning. Second would be "don't let the door hit ya...."

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RE: How to be a good girl when i have to tell daddy bye - 8/20/2012 8:35:03 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: mistressdenelle

I have a new dominant :-)
And this a new time being a submissive

Daddy is great , he's really sweet a patience . The only time he gets a little testsy is when I am bluntly not listening or being disrespectful.

My main problem is we live apart so when he comes to see , then drop me off back at home and tells me 1 kiss then to say goodbye

I start misbehaving, I kiss him more than once, aggressively, (which he doesn't like ) , then pout and throw a fit .

Because I hate saying goodbye to daddy .

Any tips on behaving

Sigh. You people. Don't you know that duct tape is the answer to all relationship difficulties?

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RE: How to be a good girl when i have to tell daddy bye - 8/20/2012 8:37:28 AM   
GreedyTop


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Any tips on behaving


to me, this is as telling as the thread title..

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RE: How to be a good girl when i have to tell daddy bye - 8/20/2012 11:23:35 AM   
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She's 18, it's questionable how much she knows from the other side kneel.



This right here tells me what I need to know in order to respond appropriately to her post.

She may legally be considered an adult, but she's not. Nowhere in her 18 year old brain does she have the capacity to understand what the fuck you all are talking about when you say to her to "grow up"

The kind of growing up she needs to do is going to take her a few more years before she clues in.

So, my response to her is. Follow his directions if you want him to stick around, talk to him about why you don't like following them (you hate to say goodbye to Daddy because you miss him etc) and see if he can give you a little bit of leeway...maybe start the goodbyes a little earlier <or> keep thinking you can drag a message board full of strangers into your D/s headspace and use us as an excuse not to follow directions and when he walks away, go right ahead and blame us, because at your age, everything is still everyone elses fault anyway.

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RE: How to be a good girl when i have to tell daddy bye - 8/20/2012 11:33:13 AM   
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Status: offline 		This is something you should discuss with your parents. If they havent dealt with your "misbehaving" issues by now - then they did a piss poor job of raising you. I cant believe that no one has taught you any "self-control" by now.

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RE: How to be a good girl when i have to tell daddy bye - 8/21/2012 8:15:41 AM   
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Status: offline 		18 is not too young to understand good manners and the showing of respect. If you're old enough to engage in adult activities, how about acting like an adult? When my own kids tried acting anything like what you described we promptly left wherever we were and went straight home where they were given some alone time in their room. I'd suggest if you want your Daddy to ever want to be around you again, that you treat him with respect and stop acting like a baby. Have him be proud of you instead of concerned that you're going to pitch a fit. Ugh, there's no way I'd choose to spend time with a brat.

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RE: How to be a good girl when i have to tell daddy bye - 8/22/2012 6:59:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		Behaving like a two year old in the hopes you'll get extended funishment is probably not going to work. Say goodbye and then go write him an email fantasy of what you would have preferred to have happen.

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RE: How to be a good girl when i have to tell daddy bye - 8/22/2012 8:05:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		OP - while your feelings are legitamite - not wanting to leave your daddy - yoiur manner of dealing with it is not. Seems to me that he would be better off taking you inside and kissing you goodbye, and then leaving than you having to leave him. Much easier on you.

Perhaps you could talk to him about how you leaving him makes you feel, and it would be easier for you if he was the one to leave....

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RE: How to be a good girl when i have to tell daddy bye - 8/22/2012 9:30:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		Here's what you do, OP. You get perspective. You think about all of those spouses who sent their SO off to war for the last ten years, knowing they would be gone at least 12 months and possibly never come back. Maybe then, you'll realize that a lot of other women in this country (kinky or non) are braver than you and you'll see just where your LD falls on the spectrum.

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RE: How to be a good girl when i have to tell daddy bye - 8/24/2012 1:51:10 AM   
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