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Learning to do anal - 8/22/2012 11:19:09 AM   
SubmissiveAbbi


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Status: offline 		My Dom/husband and I are interested in doing anal on me and he has done fingers which wasn't bad but I love the idea of being possessed by him in all my holes.

My question is, what can we do to "train" my ass? I'm one of those women that gets tremendous pleasure from clit and penetration (vag) COMBO. I would also like to learn to get more and powerful orgasms from penetration (vag) alone, if this is even possible. I guess I just need a lot of training in how to become a good "cockslave".

Long term he has a fantasy of a double penetration but vag so I guess I'm not really asking a Dom specific question but am unsure of where else to ask such questions.

Please any helpful suggestions, links, ideas and the like are greatly appreciated :))
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RE: Learning to do anal - 8/22/2012 11:29:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		There's no real secret to it. Just practice, get comfortable with it and build up to it. You can get some smallish buttplugs if you want to, and it's a good idea to start nice and slow and with plenty of lube until you both know what you're doing enough to figure out what you like most. If you're already experimenting with fingers and you're turned on by the idea you're half way there.

As for orgasming just from vaginal intercourse - I'm not sure you can train someone to do that. I think it depends on your anatomy. Experiment with positions and speeds and such, but a lot of women can't orgasm that way at all, and some can only in very specific ways or with specific partners (because of the way their bodies fit together).

Have fun trying though.

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RE: Learning to do anal - 8/22/2012 11:44:49 AM   
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Status: offline 		Lube. Lots of lube. Don't push too fast/too hard.

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RE: Learning to do anal - 8/22/2012 11:54:08 AM   
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Status: offline 		"With enough lube and enough pressure, you can fit anything into anywhere"

Truer words were never spoken but you also mentioned something else, OP, that can help.

You mentioned your husband using his fingers on you. Doing this over long periods can help to "loosen things up".

If I am ever faced with a young lady that's never had anal, I take weeks, literally, preparing her for the event.



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RE: Learning to do anal - 8/22/2012 11:57:39 AM   
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Status: offline 		"With enough lube and enough pressure, you can fit anything into anywhere"

And enough duct tape and you can keep it there, too.

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RE: Learning to do anal - 8/22/2012 12:16:10 PM   
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RE: Learning to do anal - 8/22/2012 1:54:40 PM   
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RE: Learning to do anal - 8/22/2012 2:02:58 PM   
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RE: Learning to do anal - 8/22/2012 2:51:01 PM   
Kaiel


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SubmissiveAbbi

My Dom/husband and I are interested in doing anal on me and he has done fingers which wasn't bad but I love the idea of being possessed by him in all my holes.

My question is, what can we do to "train" my ass? I'm one of those women that gets tremendous pleasure from clit and penetration (vag) COMBO. I would also like to learn to get more and powerful orgasms from penetration (vag) alone, if this is even possible. I guess I just need a lot of training in how to become a good "cockslave".

Long term he has a fantasy of a double penetration but vag so I guess I'm not really asking a Dom specific question but am unsure of where else to ask such questions.

Please any helpful suggestions, links, ideas and the like are greatly appreciated :))


I agree with most of the previous posts... for anal just relax, use lube and don't try doggie style at first... try a side position. Additionally, if the idea of him training you is exciting he can buy anal plugs and gradually go up in diameter.

As for more powerful vagina orgasms- do you know where your G-spot is? If your partner fucks you and hits your G-spot frequently your orgasms, may tend to be more powerful. Also, kegels helps. Learn to tighten your vagina and control the muscles... this will certainly help!

Good luck!

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RE: Learning to do anal - 8/22/2012 3:04:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		Read this and follow the suggestions:
http://www.amazon.com/Anal-Pleasure-Health-Guide-Couples/dp/0940208377/ref=dp_ob_title_bk/184-6856858-6519625

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RE: Learning to do anal - 8/22/2012 3:46:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		Train your ass? Did you train your vajayjay before he put his dick in it? Did you train your nipples to allow him to tweak them? This isn't complicated and it isn't special, it's just sex. All sorts of non-kinky people have anal sex all the time. The only difference is they don't "train" for it, like they're going to run a marathon or fetch a stick.

If you're asking for tips on how to make anal sex go smoother, that's a different question. And it doesn't involve the word "training".

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RE: Learning to do anal - 8/22/2012 6:07:40 PM   
CRYPTICLXVI


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Status: offline 		I am sorry but when I see the phrase "train my ass", I am expecting it to do tricks or something entertaining. Not trying to be mean, it just made me laugh. I agree with CaliChick, if it's just anal sex... then it's just sex. Not necessarily kinky but perhaps a new experience.

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RE: Learning to do anal - 8/22/2012 7:12:18 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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RE: Learning to do anal - 8/22/2012 8:33:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		Shoot , the first time i had anal sex, i woke up with my very vanilla bf's cock in my arse. I had no pain or "training". So, for me the key would be relaxation. ..... of course, lube is nice.

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RE: Learning to do anal - 8/22/2012 8:46:25 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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RE: Learning to do anal - 8/22/2012 8:52:54 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Remember, it's only sex. Relax and have fun. Unless your hub is way above average, you really don't need to go crazy with preparation.


True. Sometimes it is really fun to get thrown over something and slammed into. Using only spit. Less messy than lube, but I guess for newbies, they need to lube.

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RE: Learning to do anal - 8/22/2012 8:55:22 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		I guess. I dunno... i was kinda o.O when the internet went wild and bdsm was suddenly all about anal and blowjobs like those were UNUSUAL things to do.

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RE: Learning to do anal - 8/22/2012 9:11:59 PM   
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RE: Learning to do anal - 8/22/2012 9:25:47 PM   
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I agree with most of the previous posts... for anal just relax, use lube and don't try doggie style at first... try a side position.


Personally I find doggie style by far the "easiest" for anal. I think probably it's just a personal thing.

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RE: Learning to do anal - 8/22/2012 11:02:13 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DaddySatyr
"With enough lube and enough pressure, you can fit anything into anywhere"


Except maybe for my giant bear paw up my play partner's arse. lol I have BIG hands.

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus
Okay, I am saying it. I do not want to see anyone's anus do tricks, now or ever.



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