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ORIGINAL: chemeli

From what he told me, he's had more then 15 years of experience in bondage making and had several submissives in training as well, over a period of 1 year each. I thought....yeah, someone who can actually teach me ! So i looked forward to that, you're right.

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


Well, a couple of thoughts:

1) Several submissives for a period of a year, is not 15 years. That leaves me questioning about 50% of his time.

2) Training means nothing. It's usually an euphemism for tied up, beat and then fucked.

3) I know people that are into bondage, but aren't Dominants. They're tops and it doesn't extend past the scene. I think that's exactly who he is. In the bedroom only. We were on dates, and i actually waited, expected him to be more (like most of the men i dated in vanilla) but he's only about the bedroom.

4) A bunch of short lived relationships usually indicates that there is some issue.

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ORIGINAL: Whiplashsmile4

In regards to taking the next step? Wow, I'm still amazed at the whole head Pat business. Damn, this stuff is more than just mere touch. Involves body language and also combined with verbal aspects. It's a combination of things together. I really don't try to over think this shit. If I'm kissing somebody, and I don't like they way they are kissing or whatever it is. I open my mouth and tell them what to do better. I don't tell them that they are bad kisser, bad at oral or whatever else. Instead, I give them exactly what they need to know to do it better... assert that that's the way I want or like it. Stir them off the path of them doing shit the way i don't like. LOL

The Physical Dom touch is there right from the start for me. I'll even squeeze somebody's hand before pulling them in the direction I want them to go in. I'm rather at a loss in regards to how HEAD PATS used upon human beings or even Animals is a Dominant like touch.

Personally, most other forms of touching are more Dominant like compared to Head Pats. If I Head patted anybody, I'd expect for them to be giving me "WTF are you doing" look... Yes, I'd expect for them to be staring at me with some stupid retarded look upon their face, for the equally stupid retarded touch I just gave them... by Patting their Friggen Head. Trust me, i was thinking this the whole time he patted my head. I thought, what the hell (pardon the language) i'm not a pet nor a dog. I know for a fact dogs hate being patted on their heads and i try to scrub their ears or neck, and avoid the head. So .... yeah, failing here big time.

I'll Pat somebody, when I'm intending an insult or as a sarcastic insult joke. I'll use head PATS to mock or make fun of a situation even.... where clearly sarcasm is involved. But it's not on my TOP 1000 list of ways to touch somebody. Ditto!!

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From what he told me, he's had more than 15 years of experience in bondage making and had several submissives in training as well, over a period of 1 year each.

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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

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From what he told me, he's had more than 15 years of experience in bondage making and had several submissives in training as well, over a period of 1 year each.

Well, I had someone who claimed to have $15,000 worth of leather and steel show up with a bread knife and a belt, so...

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I think that's exactly who he is. In the bedroom only. We were on dates, and i actually waited, expected him to be more (like most of the men i dated in vanilla) but he's only about the bedroom.

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

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From what he told me, he's had more than 15 years of experience in bondage making and had several submissives in training as well, over a period of 1 year each.

Well, I had someone who claimed to have $15,000 worth of leather and steel show up with a bread knife and a belt, so...

Wow....they must have been a really expensive bread knife and belt.....[;)]

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ORIGINAL: chemeli

From what he told me, he's had more then 15 years of experience in bondage making and had several submissives in training as well, over a period of 1 year each. I thought....yeah, someone who can actually teach me ! So i looked forward to that, you're right.

I'll speak to him about everything that raised interrogations in my mind from this thread, we'll see how that goes...

Edited to add that i'm not trying to defend him, but just saying that's what he told me. So far, i have no reason not to believe him.

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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

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From what he told me, he's had more than 15 years of experience in bondage making and had several submissives in training as well, over a period of 1 year each.

Well, I had someone who claimed to have $15,000 worth of leather and steel show up with a bread knife and a belt, so...

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ORIGINAL: FrostedFlake

Take his hand... and put it where you want it.

Even if that is up his... nose.

Hat tip to Cryptic. Exceptional.

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ORIGINAL: Whiplashsmile4

Give me 45 minutes alone with somebody to give them a Killer Full body massage.... and I'll have more of a Positive link established with them mentally and physically compared to all the head PATS in the world. (just sayin, that's all)...