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depression - 6/11/2006 7:55:50 AM

slavebutterfly

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i am a new slave, and would like both sides on this, is it normal to get depressed when Ma'am doesnt have anything for you to do for Her?

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RE: depression - 6/11/2006 9:18:38 AM

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Of course it can be considered normal to be depressed when your service is not in need of immediate attention., yet there are ways around this...find yourself a project...something special for your Ma'am, make Her something, mend her clothing, shine Her shoes, cook an extra special something...take up a new hobby that will excite Her to see you doing this...it can be as simple as cleaning the glass on the picture frames, to a photography project that will need new frames for display. you can also do something for yourself that will benefit Her...a new exercise regiment, a new hairstyle, a new article of clothing that you designed and made yourself...it's limitless, up to your imagination.

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RE: depression - 6/11/2006 9:28:22 AM

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thank You for the ideas, and for letting me know im not to far out of the normal range. i cant wait to put them to good use.

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RE: depression - 6/11/2006 9:37:43 AM

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slavebutterfly, i'll tell you what a Doctor once told me, normal is whats normal for you, we are all different so my normal could not possibly be yours. Glad you are going to work toward making your very own norm!

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RE: depression - 6/11/2006 2:44:56 PM

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Great ideas Awhispher, I would also suggest making you better for her, go to the gym and make your body better, take a class of something that interests her and make your mind better, able to converse on topics that interest her, or learn a new skill.

There are so many things she would find useful, car mechanics, cooking, meditatation...the ideas are limitless really.

The least attractive thing you can do is to get depressed though, you then become a source of her concern and even burden. You dont want that Ill bet.

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RE: depression - 6/11/2006 5:07:13 PM

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ORIGINAL: awhisper

Of course it can be considered normal to be depressed when your service is not in need of immediate attention., yet there are ways around this...find yourself a project...something special for your Ma'am, make Her something, mend her clothing, shine Her shoes, cook an extra special something...take up a new hobby that will excite Her to see you doing this...it can be as simple as cleaning the glass on the picture frames, to a photography project that will need new frames for display. you can also do something for yourself that will benefit Her...a new exercise regiment, a new hairstyle, a new article of clothing that you designed and made yourself...it's limitless, up to your imagination.

Yep and ditto. I think it's a falicy that is a harsh reality for many subs that service means that they are at your feet at all times and you'll always have something kinky for them to do. To me depression is something totally seperate from what you've explained the issue as.

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RE: depression - 6/11/2006 5:52:37 PM

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I can not speak for other doms, however it pleases me greatly when a sub/slave looks for ways to please without having to be directed to do so. It is what we call pro-active service or pro-active slavery.

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RE: depression - 6/11/2006 5:56:48 PM

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Ma'am is not available right now to do this but I would like to thank each and everyone of you for your kindness to slavebutterfly, in Ma'ams stead.

She is most pleased with the girl and her progress in the lessons she is learning.

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RE: depression - 6/12/2006 2:43:00 AM

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i would like to thank all of You for Your wonderful ideas, and for taking Your time to answer me. i must say, in the short time i have been searching for my first Owner, and searching for answers it seems to me that onn the average, there is much more wisdom here, then with John Q Public. Again i humbly thank Everyone for helping me to be the best slave i can possibly for Ma'am.

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