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restrictions. - 8/26/2012 5:56:46 AM

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i have partial paraylsis of the left arm and leg.i am interested in bsdm.is it possible give my restrictions?

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RE: restrictions. - 8/26/2012 6:04:03 AM

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Not only possible, really more of a requirement.

If you have restrictions that have to be explained and respected, by all means, do so! Any play partner you have would appreciate it.

Best of luck!

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RE: restrictions. - 8/26/2012 6:04:25 AM

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yes.

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RE: restrictions. - 8/26/2012 6:31:14 AM

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Yes, I have seen people with all types of bodily issues engage in BDSM. It's like anything else, if you have restrictions you work around them. I mean what do people do when they can't walk any longer? They generally use a wheelchair, which reminds me, I did know of a Dominant male who was wheelchair bound and practiced BDSM by using his voice to issue commands.

If you are asking if people will want to play with you, I really can't answer that. You may have to try harder to win their interest with your personality at first. It's like anything else, it may be a concern for someone right away that could dissipate when they get to know you.

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RE: restrictions. - 8/26/2012 6:41:02 AM

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Not in the normal sense. However, your post here defines yourself in terms of your handicap and your profile leads with it. I urge you to stop defining yourself in terms of your handicap and define yourself as a rounded individual who happens to have a handicap.

You look pretty good for a 62 year old man (assuming that the pic isn't 20 years old), and seem gentle. Is the 418 lbs in your profile a typo? Are you really 190 lbs and the profile got confused between kg and lbs?

I'd recommend having your profile say something like

Hello. I'm a quiet, gentle retired man looking for my final life partner. I like museums and volunteering. I'm very new to the lifestyle. I do have some paralysis on my left side but don't let that stop me from living life.

To answer your question, the paralysis itself won't cause an issue. However, if you're in bondage, your blood flow will be restricted - could that be a problem? Generally speaking, if you can handle bondage, spanking, and being flogged, you can handle 90+% of play scenes. There's also serving your Domme (sexually as well as simply doing chores, etc.). To simplify the whole dynamic, if you really like the idea of bringing your woman flowers, you have the right mindset.

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RE: restrictions. - 8/26/2012 7:06:35 AM

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quote:

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i have partial paraylsis of the left arm and leg.i am interested in bsdm.is it possible give my restrictions?

The person best placed to answer this question is you. Only you know what you are interested in and what your abilities are.

Just like if you were going to take up bowling or model making or amateur dramatics, there may be certain things you need to adapt to your particular needs. There may be some activities which are out altogether - but that's ok, no one here engages in every single aspect of BDSM. Find a partner who cares enough and is sensible enough to learn about and work with your needs and voila! Happy BDSM times.

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RE: restrictions. - 8/26/2012 8:03:26 AM

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thanks.thats my pic.i'm 190 lbs.i'd have to modify some activities.

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RE: restrictions. - 8/26/2012 8:09:11 AM

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quote:

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thanks.thats my pic.i'm 190 lbs.i'd have to modify some activities.

Then I would suggest changing the weight in your profile from kilograms to pounds to reflect reality as DS suggested. While you're at it, spruce up what you have written in the profile to be grammatically correct - it will reflect better upon you.

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