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porcelaine -> RE: Shifting the centre of your universe (9/6/2012 11:24:35 AM)
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Greetings,
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He still thinks that he is indeed the centre of his universe. We are in the training process now, as his Mistress I'm trying to get him to accept his Mistress becoming the centre and putting Her desires first.
I'm going to approach your question from a different angle. I am not the center of my universe because that degree of self-focus is unhealthy for me. I have no difficulty putting others needs before mine when appropriate and oftentimes I'm happy to do so. However, this is not a result of conditioning, slavery, or anything along those lines. On the contrary, it is readily displayed without partiality to persons from various walks of life. This is my constitution and it has grown significantly since my departure from relationships of this nature.
You are honest in your assertion of what you're attempting to do. But will the training you're instituting create what you hope or merely allow the individual to respond in the manner preferred? There are some who enjoy giving of themselves and its consistency can be measured within and outside of their relationships. Others do so as a result of external measures or persons but readily return to their normal state when these things are no longer present.
For the individual to reach the place where your desires usurp his requires an internal shift that is truthfully unselfish. It is honestly manifested when the individual gives freely of himself without expectation or required benefit save the pleasure his act provides for the intended party. The transitions produce a person that is significantly yielded in thought, speech, emotions, and behavior. The evidence of ones acquiesce is best depicted in how the individual relates to others as opposed to the overseer. The testament of their influence and his absorption is readily observed. Then you'll know.
Regards,
~porcelaine
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