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KaleidoKenlyn -> RE: Craving more of a specific type of play (8/28/2012 8:33:42 AM)


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ORIGINAL: KaleidoKenlyn

Now as I said, he doesn't completely cut off my air for more than 90 to 120 seconds at a time. The rest of the time, he'll be squeezing and pressing, but always leaving me the tiniest of ways to get some air, but never much.


I've been watching this thread for a while, trying to find a nice way to say "with dangerous kinks, its not uncommon for the sub to want more more more harder harder harder, which forces a responsible dominant to show restraint."

I don't care if I was choking out the free dive champion of the world, I would never go two minutes without air. I recognize that I'm soft when it comes to being extreme, but how much more do you want? (Please keep in mind that the mammalian diving reflex doesn't work without water). I get the sense we are no longer talking about wanting breath play of this caliber more often, but instead to deeper degrees.

You don't want to be preached at, and that's not what I'm trying to do. You asked why he doesn't want more. If I were your top, I'd say "every time we go in I worry, it frightens me. I don't feel comfortable going longer, and the amount of completely uninterrupted effort I need to focus on her every twitch is grueling on me."

Find a way to be content before too long. There's a reason free divers leave pretty corpses.

You've got it wrong, though I definitely appreciate the concern you're showing. I DON'T want it for longer amounts of time with no air. I really do just want it more often. Maybe once a week or so would be dandy with me. But no.. I absolutely wouldn't be okay with going without air for long periods of time.





DesFIP -> RE: Craving more of a specific type of play (8/28/2012 6:34:04 PM)

Ask him.

But he's allowed to not feel comfortable with certain play also.

The Man flatly refused to do any breath play when I first asked about it. He looked into it and started about six months later. Had I ever passed out, he probably would have backed off also. After all, a dead sub isn't much fun and most people don't have a place to hide the body.

Talk to him about what exactly about it sends you and see if there's a way for him to give you that feeling without risking killing you. If it's just knowing that he holds your life in his hands, then he could just encircle your neck with his hands without actually pressing on the arteries.

If it's just controlling your ability to breath, then he could just give you the air he exhales during deep kisses.

Talk to him.




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