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TiaLynn -> Not sure, debating, could be wrong in my thoughts (8/28/2012 8:19:34 PM)
Hello, Ive been with my Daddy Dom since the end of January and thought i would post some stuff that is bugging me about it, He knows, I have my own ways of telling him but it seems he ignores it, First we live in a nice home in the country and have to haul water to our big underground tank(at least until a month or two when the county hooks up the water since they are installing the pipes) well anyhow, he likes to wait till Im pretty much out of clean clothes to wear before letting me do laundry, in fact sometimes he waits days after i have no clean clothes to wear, forcing me to wear dirty ones, minus my panties which I handwash.. another, theres no collar, im not worried about this, but Im starting to feel more like a roommate. anyhow, he took on a slave that wanted to be complete property and basically dehumanized, his slave is acting out and Daddy isnt really paying attention, also his slave is lacking in the hygenic area, and on top of that Ive been forced to share my dresser with him, and to which I have not enough room for my clothes now.. also we have to bunk together in the bed and I just want my room back.. another thing is the hygeine part, he waits till razors are beyond dull before replacing them, and kinda got into a lil tiff, when i told him these specific razors which are 5 bladed last longer and provide a smoother shave then the 3 bladed ones he got which are 1.00 cheaper... we originally agreed that when money came in for my part which its about to start again, i would pay him 300 a month, but im behind, my mom hasnt gotten on the ball, I do plan on paying Daddy the past due, I told him back then maybe we should wait but he said he is patient with it, but I sorta want to leave because I kinda feel neglected in these ways but im not sure what to do.. I kinda figured if he had another Dom to talk to, one with more experience with submissives maybe it can help.

DarkSteven -> RE: Not sure, debating, could be wrong in my thoughts (8/28/2012 8:38:15 PM)
You're 28 years old. Your Daddy is 61. He will likely be resistant to change at his age. If he's experienced with poly, give him some time - the relationship will be strained when someone new comes aboard. if he's not experienced, who knows where it will lead? If you haul the water, why does he wait to have it hauled so you can launder? if he does, why don't you offer to do it for him? Stupid question - your sole source of income is money your mother gives you? Why not just get a job?

JanahX -> RE: Not sure, debating, could be wrong in my thoughts (8/28/2012 8:44:45 PM)
I don't see what the problem is - if you don't like it, leave.

TiaLynn -> RE: Not sure, debating, could be wrong in my thoughts (8/28/2012 9:57:21 PM)
Lol I had a job and he told me to quit because of the distance, more to the whole income thing, my mom owes me quite a sum of money and she will be paying sum back

SlipSlidingAway -> RE: Not sure, debating, could be wrong in my thoughts (8/28/2012 10:10:01 PM)
Okay...so.... You left your job to move in with a guy and it's not working out the way that you thought it would. You feel he's treating you more like a roommate than a partner and that you are being taken advantage of. He's added another person to the relationship and you are not thrilled with the individual, the situation, or having to share your personal space with this third person. You want to leave, or are considering it, but you owe the guy $300 back rent that you agreed to? Is this a fair summary of your situation? Because, if it is, forget for a moment that he's your "daddy". This is a relationship, just like any other. If you are unhappy with the way things are going, but he's content with the way things are, chances are nothing is going to change. You don't seem to have a lot invested in the relationship. What is keeping you there? I don't hear any positives in your post. Leave if you want to. But, send him the money that you agreed upon. Then get on with your life and look for a situation more to your liking. Best of luck.

JanahX -> RE: Not sure, debating, could be wrong in my thoughts (8/28/2012 10:28:59 PM)
Lmfao - when I read stuff like this, I just can't even believe it. Hauling water? Sharing a dresser with some stinky slob? Are you fucking kidding me? Ill just sit here in my new condo my Dom just bought me in Vail, CO - and contemplate how happy you must be with your "daddy". quote: ORIGINAL: TiaLynn Lol I had a job and he told me to quit because of the distance, more to the whole income thing, my mom owes me quite a sum of money and she will be paying sum back

graceadieu -> RE: Not sure, debating, could be wrong in my thoughts (8/28/2012 10:33:29 PM)
If he wanted you to financially contribute to the household, he shouldn't have had you stop working. It's his own fault that there's no money.

graceadieu -> RE: Not sure, debating, could be wrong in my thoughts (8/28/2012 10:35:21 PM)
Also, when your mom sends you the money, buy your own razors.

kalikshama -> RE: Not sure, debating, could be wrong in my thoughts (8/29/2012 6:45:49 AM)
This isn't a D/s issue, it's a compatibility issue. You're not compatible. Leave him. ps - Never loan money that you can't afford to lose and never count on money owed to you by friends or family.

kalikshama -> RE: Not sure, debating, could be wrong in my thoughts (8/29/2012 6:50:00 AM)
I see on your Daddy's profile that there are four bedrooms - why do you have to share?

OsideGirl -> RE: Not sure, debating, could be wrong in my thoughts (8/29/2012 7:33:17 AM)
You're 28, you should be able to this out. I can't even imagine what attracted you to this person. Would you tolerate this if you were in vanilla relationship?

IronWithVelvet -> RE: Not sure, debating, could be wrong in my thoughts (8/29/2012 11:16:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: graceadieu Also, when your mom sends you the money, buy your own razors. And some more clothes, too. to OP: If your Dom is unconcerned with your concerns and needs, a stranger talking to him will not likely matter. You must consider that if there's to be a change in your life for the better, the change must come from your decisions and actions. Only you can determine if the benefits of remaining with your Daddy Dom outweigh the liabilities.

ProlificNeeds -> RE: Not sure, debating, could be wrong in my thoughts (8/29/2012 6:03:14 PM)
Don't become dependant on someone who is irresponsible. If you have to pay rent then you work, if you're not working on his orders basically he just wants you to fork over any money your mom owes you. That's pretty dumb. Do better by yourself.

angelikaJ -> RE: Not sure, debating, could be wrong in my thoughts (8/29/2012 6:27:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kalikshama I see on your Daddy's profile that there are four bedrooms - why do you have to share? This! And - Bottom line: Are you happy with the poly arrangement (and that includes the new slave)? Are you happy with the entire arrangement? Are you happy in the relationship now? Are you happy with your daddy? Are you happy?

DesFIP -> RE: Not sure, debating, could be wrong in my thoughts (8/29/2012 6:46:56 PM)
Get a job. Save up money until you can move out. Do laundry at the laundromat. Not in that order.

kalikshama -> RE: Not sure, debating, could be wrong in my thoughts (8/29/2012 7:48:24 PM)
I recommend this order: 1. Do laundry at the laundromat. 2. Get a job. 3. Save up money until you can move out. What about moving in with your mother temporarily? I did that for a few months when I returned to Massachusetts.

slaveluci -> RE: Not sure, debating, could be wrong in my thoughts (8/29/2012 7:53:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: JanahX Lmfao - when I read stuff like this, I just can't even believe it. Hauling water? Sharing a dresser with some stinky slob? Are you fucking kidding me? Ill just sit here in my new condo my Dom just bought me in Vail, CO - and contemplate how happy you must be with your "daddy" L'g MY fao - not everyone's "Daddy" would want to live in a condo, even if they could afford one. Not every sub would accept such a payoff from her "Daddy" as they can't all be bought or don't want to be "kept." Hauling water as one of the necessary chores of being able to live in private in the country? Priceless to me personally. I agree that the OP's situation isn't good but snarking at her about how you live in a condo someone else paid for while she hauls water? Real classy........luci

DaddysGentleHand -> RE: Not sure, debating, could be wrong in my thoughts (8/30/2012 9:23:40 AM)
The world is full of players and scammers. I believe you have just met one. Make a decision, stay or leave - then stick with it.

JanahX -> RE: Not sure, debating, could be wrong in my thoughts (8/30/2012 6:23:46 PM)
Notice Im not the one complaining about my "shitty" situation on a public forum. It just sounds like shes having a great time with her life choices. I think its really classy that shes here telling everyone about her wonderful situation that she finds to be giving her an excellent life. When someone is talking about saving a buck on a razor - and that choices in life dont have anything to do with shit- dont tell me about class. That is ALL.

littlewonder -> RE: Not sure, debating, could be wrong in my thoughts (8/30/2012 10:05:03 PM)
You're a young, female roommate he can fuck and he's a dirty old man...period. Are you ok with that? Stay or leave. Your choice. He doesn't have you tied to the toilet so I'm going to assume you can walk out the door. Doesn't sound like you're going to lose much. I'm going to assume you live with him and not your mother because either you hate your mom or she kicked you out and this has zilch to do with love. If that is true then it's time to really clean your life up. You're 28. Take responsibility. You're not a child anymore.

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