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rhymeswithcupid -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/6/2013 2:50:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl quote: ORIGINAL: rhymeswithcupid The "fuck you ... pay me" girls typically do not disappear as long as the payments keep coming in. Just sayin ... Actually, they do...in a way. There's blog of one of the "fuck you ... pay me" girls that I read and pretty much after she's paid, she will change the deal or say "fuck you, I want more". Yeah. Maybe I should have said the ones who are actually good at what they do and build long term relationships with their clients don't disappear. You've got a point, Oside.

txslave28 -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/6/2013 2:58:57 PM)
my journals are a dedication of my thoughts. i want people to see how happy i am and how happy Ms K makes me and how happy i wish to make Her. Thus the reason for me being a fin slave. i give up 100% of control to Her, as it should be for O/our relationship. i do hate that people feel im weak and being taken advantage of, but that is not the case. i enjoy my life so much more with Her in it.

MissToYouRedux -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/6/2013 9:54:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TNDommeK How so Misstoyouredux? His journal entries go back quite a few months making it apparent that he's candidly discussing his feelings about your and his relationship. No matter how many times you say it, so many are skeptical that such a thing even can even exit. After reading his journal it's clear that it does.

TNDommeK -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/7/2013 12:44:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissToYouRedux quote: ORIGINAL: TNDommeK How so Misstoyouredux? His journal entries go back quite a few months making it apparent that he's candidly discussing his feelings about your and his relationship. No matter how many times you say it, so many are skeptical that such a thing even can even exit. After reading his journal it's clear that it does. Oh, ok. That is why I think a lot of ppl are so mislead. They think there is no relationship. How can I continue to own, if there is no relationship? I am very much a part of his everyday life.

SylvereApLeanan -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/7/2013 11:28:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: rhymeswithcupid I spent several years making a very good living as an online sugar baby. I'm curious about how this worked. As I understand the term "sugar baby" - and I will be the first to admit I know very little about it - it's an older man dating a much younger woman and paying for her to have a more luxurious lifestyle than she could afford on her own. In exchange, she accompanies him to nice restaurants, sporting events, the theater, or wherever he wants to go, and the arrangement usually(?) includes sex as part of the bargain. So what I'm wondering is how is it possible to be an online sugar baby? Would you mind explaining that? Financial domination, sugar baby/daddy relationships, etc. are fascinating to me, although I'm probably not cut out for either situation.

JeffBC -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/7/2013 12:08:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TNDommeK Oh, ok. That is why I think a lot of ppl are so mislead. They think there is no relationship. How can I continue to own, if there is no relationship? I am very much a part of his everyday life. ... or... the relationship is different enough from their comfort zone that they simply don't recognize it. I was just reading a profile of a fin-domme and she was describing explicitly what a "slave" was to her. Given that it was all online-only it's easy to imagine how I might struggle with both "slave" and "relationship" if I was so inclined. In part, I think, the fin d/s crowd gets nailed by the same crap as everyone else... "trueness violations". How DARE you all use the word "slave" yada yada.

TNDommeK -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/7/2013 2:14:00 PM)
I can see what you mean by that. But wouldn't said fin domme's relationship with that slave BE online then? As in, she interacts with him, controls him, micromanages him, etc. that would be their form of relationship right? But if you are only looking at it in the sense of we see each other everyday and interact physically...then no, I have no relationship with some of my slaves.

littlewonder -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/7/2013 3:18:18 PM)
quote: So what I'm wondering is how is it possible to be an online sugar baby? Would you mind explaining that? Financial domination, sugar baby/daddy relationships, etc. are fascinating to me, although I'm probably not cut out for either situation. I'm going to take a stab at this and say I think he gives her money or gifts for being the young, hot thing that he can show off on his profile and she gives him cyber and phone sex, tells him how hot and smart he is. She gives him all the compliments he wants to boost his ego and self esteem.

JeffBC -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/7/2013 3:21:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TNDommeK I can see what you mean by that. But wouldn't said fin domme's relationship with that slave BE online then? As in, she interacts with him, controls him, micromanages him, etc. that would be their form of relationship right? But if you are only looking at it in the sense of we see each other everyday and interact physically...then no, I have no relationship with some of my slaves. I think, just like everything else, lots of folks are inclined to want to define a "true" relationship. For my money it's true if it involves two people relating in some way. I acknowledge the difference between a short-term, long-distance relationship and a marriage but I don't feel the need to declare one more "true" than the other. They are both relationships according to the english language. Same is true with the word "slave". I get it that a fin-slave isn't the same thing as whatever we want to call what Carol is. But I don't feel any need to declare one more true than the other. I just acknowledge them as different. What is true for me and everyone else is that when something is "different enough" it becomes hard to grapple with. I think that's when the "true" words start getting thrown out because the person is being honest. It isn't "true" to them because their definition precludes whatever example is being considered.

TNDommeK -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/7/2013 3:45:00 PM)
That was the " truest" post ever. :) I love How you said that.

AllisonWilder -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/7/2013 7:37:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder quote: So what I'm wondering is how is it possible to be an online sugar baby? Would you mind explaining that? Financial domination, sugar baby/daddy relationships, etc. are fascinating to me, although I'm probably not cut out for either situation. I'm going to take a stab at this and say I think he gives her money or gifts for being the young, hot thing that he can show off on his profile and she gives him cyber and phone sex, tells him how hot and smart he is. She gives him all the compliments he wants to boost his ego and self esteem. I've never been a sugar baby, it's never really been my thing, but I do know two delightful women who are IRL sugar babies. They've never had real/cyber/phone sex with their sugar daddies. Sure, an element to it is them being hot and/or young, but mostly what it comes down to is they're companions to some lonely older men who have cash to burn and like to see a pretty girl smile.

littlewonder -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/7/2013 8:34:55 PM)
Real life and online are different. The question what what exactly do online sugar babies do for a sugar daddy? I gave it a stab. That's what I think online sugar babies do.

NocturnalStalker -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/7/2013 8:55:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AllisonWilder quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder quote: So what I'm wondering is how is it possible to be an online sugar baby? Would you mind explaining that? Financial domination, sugar baby/daddy relationships, etc. are fascinating to me, although I'm probably not cut out for either situation. I'm going to take a stab at this and say I think he gives her money or gifts for being the young, hot thing that he can show off on his profile and she gives him cyber and phone sex, tells him how hot and smart he is. She gives him all the compliments he wants to boost his ego and self esteem. I've never been a sugar baby, it's never really been my thing, but I do know two delightful women who are IRL sugar babies. They've never had real/cyber/phone sex with their sugar daddies. Sure, an element to it is them being hot and/or young, but mostly what it comes down to is they're companions to some lonely older men who have cash to burn and like to see a pretty girl smile. I do not know if I would consider them "men."

AllisonWilder -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/7/2013 8:59:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder Real life and online are different. The question what what exactly do online sugar babies do for a sugar daddy? I gave it a stab. That's what I think online sugar babies do. I know, I wasn't even saying that you're wrong. I was just relaying something that I knew.

cloudboy -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/7/2013 9:00:52 PM)
30 pages on this subject? It reminds me of the Movie Flight. Can a talented alcoholic fly a plane? Can he fly it better than sober pilots in a crash situation? The answer is YES and YES, but the greater truth is: IT'S NOT ADVISABLE.

AllisonWilder -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/7/2013 9:02:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NocturnalStalker quote: ORIGINAL: AllisonWilder quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder quote: So what I'm wondering is how is it possible to be an online sugar baby? Would you mind explaining that? Financial domination, sugar baby/daddy relationships, etc. are fascinating to me, although I'm probably not cut out for either situation. I'm going to take a stab at this and say I think he gives her money or gifts for being the young, hot thing that he can show off on his profile and she gives him cyber and phone sex, tells him how hot and smart he is. She gives him all the compliments he wants to boost his ego and self esteem. I've never been a sugar baby, it's never really been my thing, but I do know two delightful women who are IRL sugar babies. They've never had real/cyber/phone sex with their sugar daddies. Sure, an element to it is them being hot and/or young, but mostly what it comes down to is they're companions to some lonely older men who have cash to burn and like to see a pretty girl smile. I do not know if I would consider them "men." Why wouldn't you consider them men? As far as anyone knows these particular sugar daddies have male genitalia or live as/identify as men. I'd guess that they'd qualify as men from that alone.

NocturnalStalker -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/7/2013 9:26:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AllisonWilder quote: ORIGINAL: NocturnalStalker quote: ORIGINAL: AllisonWilder quote: ORIGINAL: littlewonder quote: So what I'm wondering is how is it possible to be an online sugar baby? Would you mind explaining that? Financial domination, sugar baby/daddy relationships, etc. are fascinating to me, although I'm probably not cut out for either situation. I'm going to take a stab at this and say I think he gives her money or gifts for being the young, hot thing that he can show off on his profile and she gives him cyber and phone sex, tells him how hot and smart he is. She gives him all the compliments he wants to boost his ego and self esteem. I've never been a sugar baby, it's never really been my thing, but I do know two delightful women who are IRL sugar babies. They've never had real/cyber/phone sex with their sugar daddies. Sure, an element to it is them being hot and/or young, but mostly what it comes down to is they're companions to some lonely older men who have cash to burn and like to see a pretty girl smile. I do not know if I would consider them "men." Why wouldn't you consider them men? As far as anyone knows these particular sugar daddies have male genitalia or live as/identify as men. I'd guess that they'd qualify as men from that alone. Can you be sure? I mean, supposedly your gal-pals never had romps with them so it remains nebulous. I wager their reproductive organ is a perfect reflection of their pride, har-har.

TNDommeK -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/7/2013 10:05:14 PM)
Some have sex, some don't. I'm sure both parties have a good time and enjoy each others company as well.

NocturnalStalker -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/7/2013 10:13:32 PM)
Hahaha... paying for "friends." Oh my goodness, where did we go wrong? I suppose the world needs losers to separate from the winners.

TNDommeK -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/7/2013 10:53:32 PM)
It's not a loser thing. Some men enjoy the idea of a beautiful young lady to accompany them places. I would assume men like that don't have the time to meet and greet everyone. So it's an arrangement that works out for both parties. I would assume the only losers would be the ones hating on those people who don't give two shits about how others view what they do, while they are enjoying themselves. Not defending but why be negative about it?

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