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TNDommeK -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/8/2013 5:24:31 PM)

what do you mean, " you people" lol just kidding

I understand what you mean, what my drift is...I do not feel that one person's kink is better or more accepted than another...provided that they aren't cooking babies lol. That is all I mean. I thin fin domming is just as legit as cbt or scat or needle play. It's just what it is, a fetish. All I'm saying is I wouldn't say I think this person is crazy and their fetish isn't legit because they use crops on the pinky toe only. That's just how they do things.



TheLilSquaw -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/8/2013 5:44:39 PM)


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ORIGINAL: TNDommeK

what do you mean, " you people" lol just kidding

I understand what you mean, what my drift is...I do not feel that one person's kink is better or more accepted than another...provided that they aren't cooking babies lol. That is all I mean. I thin fin domming is just as legit as cbt or scat or needle play. It's just what it is, a fetish. All I'm saying is I wouldn't say I think this person is crazy and their fetish isn't legit because they use crops on the pinky toe only. That's just how they do things.



I don't bbq babies but I've been known to suck eye ball juice out (playing zombies). Lol

And um pinky toes are sexy!



TNDommeK -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/8/2013 5:46:18 PM)

I think so as well, but some people may not like feet. So they may say my fetish isn't legit.
:)



VideoAdminChi -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/8/2013 6:56:50 PM)

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VideoAdminChi -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/8/2013 7:27:45 PM)

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VideoAdminChi -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/8/2013 7:58:16 PM)

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TNDommeK -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/8/2013 8:25:13 PM)

Thank you. I'm hoping we can now get more insight from other subs/slaves about this fetish.



jj292 -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/8/2013 9:12:52 PM)

In the end it comes down to this....

Many people equate money to greed. It's a negative temptation that tends to lead people to do bad things. People see it every single day in the real world. If a relationship is based purely on the financials, many people see it as fake and don't expect it to last long. Any relationship of this type is not appreciated in this society. Prostitution, escorts, pro dominatrixes, sugar daddies/mommies, gold diggers, etc, etc.. These type of relationships are looked down upon because they are based on money.



TNDommeK -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/8/2013 9:53:07 PM)

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ORIGINAL: jj292

In the end it comes down to this....

Many people equate money to greed. It's a negative temptation that tends to lead people to do bad things. People see it every single day in the real world. If a relationship is based purely on the financials, many people see it as fake and don't expect it to last long. Any relationship of this type is not appreciated in this society. Prostitution, escorts, pro dominatrixes, sugar daddies/mommies, gold diggers, etc, etc.. These type of relationships are looked down upon because they are based on money.


This is purely an opinion, not based on facts. Perhaps you should read the last post by my slave that stated " a domme who doesn't need your money". Just because I control ones finances doesn't make me a prostitute or gold digger etc.

I take this thread as an attempt to educate those who might be dumb to the facts.



AllisonWilder -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/8/2013 10:11:23 PM)

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ORIGINAL: jj292

In the end it comes down to this....

Many people equate money to greed. It's a negative temptation that tends to lead people to do bad things. People see it every single day in the real world. If a relationship is based purely on the financials, many people see it as fake and don't expect it to last long. Any relationship of this type is not appreciated in this society. Prostitution, escorts, pro dominatrixes, sugar daddies/mommies, gold diggers, etc, etc.. These type of relationships are looked down upon because they are based on money.


I actually agree with this. People equate money to greed to people doing bad things to gain more money to satiate their greed. The relationships that I have with my subs will never be accepted in society because once the word 'money' is out there, people stop listening. Immediately they think that because I accept money from submissives, that I'm doing something 'bad', even if I'm not. I do my best to educate someone on my ways, but sometimes it's more hassle than it's worth. As long as *I* know that I'm not doing anything that I personally feel is immoral or unhealthy and it's something that I know is legal, then that's all that should matter to me.



I will be the first to admit that I judge people, kinky and vanilla, it's how I choose to exercise my judgement of said people that matters. There are things that I will never personally be on board with, but I don't go to those that enjoy these things and blatantly disrespect them. Instead, I dive into a conversation and try to see what it is that they see in it, if they're willing to talk about it with me. I might pass some judgement in the process, but it's usually only to myself and if it's out loud/written down/typed out, then I do my best to make sure it's not disrespectful.






TNDommeK -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/8/2013 10:30:24 PM)

Very well stated. I agree with jj292's first four sentences only.

See that is why I say you say things so much better, I'm sure I pass judgment in my head, sometimes, but never to make another feel uncomfortable or disrespected.



TAFKAA -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/8/2013 10:35:36 PM)

For fuck's sake, does the fucking nannying ever stop in this place? Yes, some poor little fragile flowers may have to hear some home truths about themselves. Tough. Any "FinDomme" who can't handle the truth is lying to herself about her 'dominance'.

There is no debate in this place any more. Anything less than rank sycophancy is erased. Pathetic.



TNDommeK -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/8/2013 10:43:11 PM)

Never mind..



littlewonder -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/8/2013 11:04:46 PM)

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Hell some of the strongest men I know are submissive within their personal relationship.


Maybe it's just me, but I cringe every single time I see someone type this.

We make it seem like being weak is something negative. For me it's not negative at all and I actually prefer being the weaker one in the relationship. I don't see myself as strong whatsoever. Yes, to the outside world I SEEM strong but I do it because I have no other choice to survive. I have to work, I have to eat, I have to socialize, I have to go outside. Do I wanna actually do any of this stuff? Not really. But I do it because it's either do or die.

Now weakness is not a bad thing. For me, my weakness makes me humble, it makes me realize what is and is not important in life. It makes my struggle and surrender all the more better to not only Master but in my spirituality as well.

I get so tired of hearing submissives are strong, blah blah blah and if one states they are weak, they are looked down upon as a doormat or worse. Personally, I'm perfectly fine with being a doormat. I actually find it happier to be so.

I know I am weak. I struggle, I fight, there are things I cannot do, there are most times when I have become dependent on Master and on my spirituality. I don't see that as being a bad thing. Dependency is not always negative either. It simply means that you have come to serve that person or entity in your life.

Ok, I'm done. Just had to get that pet peeve off of my back.



AllisonWilder -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/8/2013 11:05:45 PM)


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ORIGINAL: TAFKAA

For fuck's sake, does the fucking nannying ever stop in this place? Yes, some poor little fragile flowers may have to hear some home truths about themselves. Tough. Any "FinDomme" who can't handle the truth is lying to herself about her 'dominance'.

There is no debate in this place any more. Anything less than rank sycophancy is erased. Pathetic.


The only things that were erased were blatant insults and posts that quoted said insults. Insults are not productive in a discussion.



Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/8/2013 11:15:24 PM)

I don't suppose you'd accept a simple "Yes, it can be"? LOL



TAFKAA -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/8/2013 11:31:21 PM)

Nonsense. My post very specifically focused on behaviour and was still deleted because it upset one of the fragile FinDommes which CollarMe likes to profit from.

There is no discussion when only one viewpoint is permitted.



seekingreality -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/8/2013 11:34:50 PM)

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ORIGINAL: TNDommeK

Thank you. I'm hoping we can now get more insight from other subs/slaves about this fetish.




I have rarely if ever found a sub on these boards who says he engages in financial domination. And the few times this has happened, the sub in question has tended to do nothing but spout cliches, and I never got an impression whether a real person was actually behind the screenname. Nothing about this thread has altered that opinion.

I've heard lots of dommes (on the receiving end of the money) eager to explain why it's good for all concerned.

I've heard lots of people against it.

But the wallets remain silent. And personally, they are the only ones whose opinion interests me.



TNDommeK -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/8/2013 11:39:53 PM)

Great point little wonder. I was more so just referring to the types of slaves I take on. I don't see anything wrong with relying on your owner. After all, I think that is what is wanted.

Whiplashsmile, great answer.

Tafkaa, not one fin domme on this thread was upset by anything you said. As I said, your view point is welcome and wanted. But to presume you have any bearing on My feelings is delusional. Again, do weigh in on the topic, but understand, this is a debate. People will disagree.



TNDommeK -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (1/8/2013 11:41:18 PM)


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ORIGINAL: seekingreality


quote:

ORIGINAL: TNDommeK

Thank you. I'm hoping we can now get more insight from other subs/slaves about this fetish.


I haven't read the whole thread,

That said, I have rarely if ever found a sub on these boards who says he engages in financial domination.

I've heard lots of dommes (on the receiving end of the money) eager to explain why it's good for all concerned.

I've heard lots of people against it.

But the wallets remain silent. And personally, they are the only ones whose opinion interests me.


Two of My slaves commented. I think they are a few pages back. Feel free to look. I think it gives good insight to the thread.



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