TNDommeK
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Anyway, now she's self-selected out of the conversation, I'll answer your question RochSub, although I doubt you'll listen.
The question you're really asking is this: "Is financial domination a form of kink."
The answer is no. Financial domination is a business model. Dommes who engage in this practice are not finding fulfillment in the exercise of their kinky predilections, they're simply driven by money. Consequently, attempting to define it as their kink is a dishonest attempt to shelter under the umbrella of kink tolerance - shelter to which they're in no way entitled.
The domme is simply exploiting the weakness of certain men in the same way a Dom might exploit a sub with low self-esteem and pimp her out for money. I personally can spot a low self-esteem sub a mile away and I'm simply not interested. Whereas the financial domme sees such people as suckers to be exploited.
You could argue that subs see financial domination as a form of service. That's a valid view, however the desperation of the male sub sees both a lack of discrimination and the corresponding acceptance of nothing in return beyond the satisfaction of a sexually-driven fetish. Consequently subs who subscribe to this transactional interaction are the male equivalent of a female sub who'll suck just anyone's cock.
If you're a male sub who seeks to serve a woman who deserves it, then for fuck's sake develop some standards and some discrimination. A sub who accepts the crumbs of pseudo-affection (or simple humiliation) from a financial domme is simply settling for a transitory transactional experience which does nothing more than inhibit his own ability to go out and find true fulfillment with a woman who's not driven by filthy lucre.
In other words, male subs settle for financial dommes because they lack the belief they can do better and by continually indulging that fetish, they actually retard their ability to - one day - actually DO better.
Kink is more than simple fetishism. One universal constant amongst male subs seems to be their consistent desire to serve their cock. You all do it - I've seen both you and Peon do it, despite the plaudits you both receive on these boards as being superior examples of what a male sub should be.
Ask yourself this: If it was possible to get what you desire without turning it into a transaction then why *should* you settle for a lesser experience from a woman who cares naught for you except as an ongoing contributor to her lifestyle?
Regardless, even if we completely accept the idea that male subs engaging findommes is an entirely valid outlet for their fetish, this doesn't change the fact that FinDommes are simply engaging in a transactional interaction. They have no stake in this beyond the transaction. They're being compensated for their time which means they're being bought and paid for. And them attempting to dress it up by claiming they build deep interactions with clients is just window-dressing on an ugly truth. If the money stops, the interaction stops. Period.
It might be kink - if foolish kink - for the subs. It's nothing more than a business to the findommes and pretending otherwise is monumentally dishonest. That's worthy of condemnation because - as some of you may have noticed - I have this thing about integrity. The kink world is a whirlwind of dysfunction and abuse and to me, shit like this is just another aspect of that.
Now that he has actually put himself back in this convo and answered the question intelligently, I can remark.
You say "once the money stops, the interaction stops" this is true, but do you feel there was no D/s interaction at all? I don't see anything as dishonest because as for Me, I am upfront about everything. Just ask My slaves. They are explained everything in detail. No misleading claims or otherwise. So aside from the fact that you stated earlier that woman cannot be dominant, do you feel the ONLY interaction with fin dommes is the transaction part? You do not feel there are those of us that ARE into ALL the aspects of our slaves lives even though that has been explained?
Also I'd like to know how you figure that fin dommes aren't being fulfilled.
< Message edited by TNDommeK -- 1/9/2013 2:03:38 AM >
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