Zonie63 -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (2/6/2013 4:56:03 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009 Okay, after 45 pages, I'm getting sick of my own thread. [sm=diethreaddie.gif] I haven't heard any new thoughts/opinions voiced in the last 30 pages or so. So let me summarize what I've gotten from the past 45 pages. -Financial domination is probably the most polarizing topic discussed on the boards. -People tend to fall into three key camps when it comes to financial domination: 1. Those who think that all financial Dommes are prostitutes, fakes, scammers, the spawn of Satan, etc. 2. Those who think that what happens between consenting adults is nobody else's business (i.e. YKINMKBYKIOK). 3. Those who think that financial domination is a viable part of BDSM, and who will defend it until they die. -There are various TYPES of financial Dommes 1) Scammers (These are often men pretending to be women, or Nigerians) 2) Bratty princesses - Usually 18-25 years old. They don't tend to have any interest in BDSM except to "rape wallets". 3) Pro Dommes who also accept "tribute". 4) Life style Dommes who control the finances of their subs/slaves. 5) Financial Dommes who build real, long-term D/s relationships with their "financial subs". -Some people believe that the person who has the money is actually in the dominant position. -Some believe that a true Dom/Domme has the right to control everything, including their sub's money. -Some people believe that it is inaccurate from a legal standpoint to say that financial Dommes are "prostitutes". -Some say findoms should have to declare their "commercial" status, and that there should be a separate section for them. -Some say the findoms should be banned from CollarMe altogether. -Some think it's silly to segregate, and think it's easier to simply hide findom profiles if you don't want to see them. -Some (okay, 1 person in particular) say that women can't be dominant, and all of you "Dommes" are delusional fakes. -Some believe that the owners of CM actually encourage findoms because the site somehow makes money from them. -Financial Dommes who actually build relationships with their "clients" say that it's unfair to lump them in with the scammers. Those are my basic takeaways from the first 45 pages of this thread. So if you haven't read all 45 pages, you can just read this summary, and it pretty much captures what you've missed. Any questions? IMO, financial domination is a topic that it's probably best to just "agree to disagree" about. It appears that few opinions have actually been changed during the course of this 45 page thread. And if the thread continues for another 45 pages, I still doubt that anyone will be persuaded to change their opinion about financial Dommes. Can the church say "Amen"? I think this is a good summary, and I also think that it's best to agree to disagree. But the one thing that's missing (and which often seems to go unnoticed in these discussions) is that this is not really a "kink" issue, but it's a money issue. It's all about the money. There's an old saying that there's no quicker way to break up a friendship than to let money come between them. It's also a class and socioeconomic issue as well. Some people don't like to be reminded about how much money they don't have. I've also noticed that some people here have a certain anti-capitalist bent, and some (not all) findommes seem to be the quintessential capitalists of the BDSM world. An analogous situation might be if there was a fuel shortage and I owned the only gas station in town and started charging $150 per gallon of gas. You can imagine that there'd be some people who'd be pretty pissed off at me. If one can understand why people would get angry in a situation like that, then it should be easy to understand why some people get angry at findommes and why it's such a polarizing issue. But from reading this and other threads on the topic, so many people seem to be missing that side of it. Everyone thinks the negative reactions are all about the kink, but I think that it's really about the money. So even with the numerous fin dommes explaining to you why they enjoy this fetish, you still choose to assume it's really about the money? No, I think you're misunderstanding me. I'm just saying that people seem to be dancing around the issue of money, and that may be the reason why it's such a polarizing issue. It's the elephant in the living room in this discussion. It has nothing to do with you personally or your reasons for enjoying this fetish. Live and let live, I say. I'm very libertarian in that aspect. I was thinking more of why there's such a sharp reaction against it. Money brings out the worst in people. That's what I was thinking when I was reading Rochsub2009's summary of the thread. I agree with the summary of what's been talked about, but I was looking more at what wasn't being talked about. I respect your position and others who take a more practical approach to things, who still live in the real world and seem to understand the practical side of life. But my main point here was that there didn't seem to be much discussion of money itself and why it seems to generate a great deal of hostility in the context of this and other threads on this topic. What is money?
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