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eagle44 -> new dom seeking advice (8/30/2012 4:25:02 AM)
I'm new to the lifestyle and I'm seeking advice on Does and don'ts of a dom

myotherself -> RE: new dom seeking advice (8/30/2012 4:31:49 AM)
Do make the effort to read the forums and get out into your local community so you can figure out exactly what it is that you want. Don't expect others to give you all the answers - we don't know you therefore we don't know what it is, specifically, that you need to know.

Lucifyre -> RE: new dom seeking advice (8/30/2012 6:42:25 AM)
DO be more specific in what exactly it is you're asking about. "How do I be a dom" doesn't count. DON'T ask questions before making an attempt to learn what your interests are beforehand because frankly you won't know exactly what you need to ask about and you'll end up with open ended general questions that will get you a free ticket to snarkland around here. Lucifyre

AthenaSurrenders -> RE: new dom seeking advice (8/30/2012 6:48:38 AM)
DO - try to be a decent person and treat others well -be honest with those you engage with -learn how to do things safely DON'T - be an ass Really beyond that, there are no rules. You can be whatever type of dom you want to, and have any type of relationship that works for you and your partner. Whatever makes those involved happy without imposing on outsides is a win. You don't have to do specific things to live up to another person's labels.

kalikshama -> RE: new dom seeking advice (8/30/2012 7:21:50 AM)
Do check out the non-fiction on the booklist and buy the books that resonate with you: http://www.collarchat.com/m_1726118/tm.htm Don't be the sort of person who arrived at this site after reading: http://www.submissivewomensecrets.com/ Don't be one of these guys: The worst Dom you've ever met

IronWithVelvet -> RE: new dom seeking advice (8/30/2012 8:32:07 AM)
Tell me how to be rich and handsome and I'll tell you how to be a Dom.

OsideGirl -> RE: new dom seeking advice (8/30/2012 9:09:38 AM)
Learn the difference between dominant and domineering. Men outnumber women at least 10:1. You have a lot of competition for her attention. Pay attention to how you present yourself and your attitude towards submissives.

areallivehuman -> RE: new dom seeking advice (8/30/2012 3:32:19 PM)
DO learn honor, duty, and responsibility. DON'T be lame.

Kana -> RE: new dom seeking advice (8/30/2012 8:37:56 PM)
Seriously, other than "Be yourself," the best advice I can give is: 1-Be firm, but be fair 2-Be consistent. This is probably the most important thing in the lot. 3-Never be shy to reward good behavior

CRYPTICLXVI -> RE: new dom seeking advice (8/30/2012 8:41:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders DO - try to be a decent person and treat others well -be honest with those you engage with -learn how to do things safely DON'T - be an ass Really beyond that, there are no rules. You can be whatever type of dom you want to, and have any type of relationship that works for you and your partner. Whatever makes those involved happy without imposing on outsides is a win. You don't have to do specific things to live up to another person's labels. Nope, don't be an asshole... that's my job.

Salinedion -> RE: new dom seeking advice (8/31/2012 2:29:07 PM)
DO tell me where you got those killer shorts. In case I ever go to the beach with Borat.

LadyPact -> RE: new dom seeking advice (8/31/2012 2:32:00 PM)
Do put some pants on. Just trust Me on this one.

Kaiel -> RE: new dom seeking advice (8/31/2012 4:32:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Do put some pants on. Just trust Me on this one. ^^Totally agree^^

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