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xssve -> RE: Sub GF is really into bathroom control - need some input (8/31/2012 8:09:46 AM)
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A toughie, it probably does have to do with some early experience she probably doesn't even remember, around which she formed these associations. These fantasies can be nebulous, so the character might be nebulous as well, in fact, some time it's better that way, since the fantasy may have little to do with the initial triggering experience, if that makes sense, it's taken on a life and dimensions far beyond anything that actually occurred.
In practical terms, potty training is a for a lot of people the one time that their genitalia is not ignored or marginalized, but sort of becomes the center of attention, so to speak, when otherwise it's supposed to be kept tightly wrapped, out of sight and out of mind, and the bathroom itself is the one place where it's appropriate to display your genitalia, as opposed to the bedroom where its not considered appropriate until much later. It's actually pretty fraught with symbolism, my first sexual experience was in a bathroom, and children are typically fascinated with the stuff that comes out of their bodies, it's the first act of creation in a way, at a time when the whole notion of sex is itself just a nebulous concept years from being pinned down as anything specific in the conscious mind.
More of a frisson, or a "tingle", as you say.
So - try to figure out what other stimulus is associated, the character is symbolic, and there are most likely other symbols associated with it, even if it's a pair shoes, or an article of clothing, is praise or humiliation involved, etc. - i.e., there might be a certain combination of words, sounds, visual stimuli etc. associated with it that unlocks her defenses, and helps define the character.
Also, to what extent is touch involved, it may be a good time to explore object play, as this is a more common type of genital stimulus, chances are good some object or objects touches your genitalia long before any digital or other manipulation occurs, or at least something in between that prevents skin to skin contact, try wearing rubber gloves or something maybe.
Just using a switch or something to lightly touch her etc., just a thought, and it might lead to something else, as it seems this largely a form of foreplay for you both.
Hope this doesn't violate the TOS, but I believe there is a reason people often have very strong reactions to any kind of bathroom play, one way or the other, and I don't know that there is a standard there other than convincing you to stop doing it in your pants for purely practical reasons, but for better or worse, for the reasons described above, a lot of early sexual associations are formed there.
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