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hairlover123 -> CBT..ball busting..ready to get hate mail :) (8/31/2012 12:34:59 PM)

So..i have been into CBT of many kinds for around 6 months now..getting my balls kicked in, getting my cock beat up..i was just wondering is this an actual turn on for a Domme? Or is it just a fulfilling kink to the male submissive?...

I personally have been looking for a girl in my modern day to day life to be into this, but this is not exactly a discussion you bring up at the dinner table ..haha..just curious, any response will do !



LadyHibiscus -> RE: CBT..ball busting..ready to get hate mail :) (8/31/2012 12:39:01 PM)

Depends on my mood. Sometimes tremendous fun, sometimes of no interest whatever.



hairlover123 -> RE: CBT..ball busting..ready to get hate mail :) (8/31/2012 12:51:45 PM)

So you do get something out of it yourself? depending on the mood?...it is so crazy frustrating to me because i have this huge kink buried deep inside me and no regular sex can fulfill what i am searching for..i do not know where to begin to find what i am looking for, it is not just about the kink either it is about the legit relationship between a submissive and the dominant but it seems so difficult at my age to find a woman that is realistically into the actual aspect of the life style, minus just being money hungry or needy for gifts, it makes me reluctant to continue on but i refuse to give up! lol



LadyHibiscus -> RE: CBT..ball busting..ready to get hate mail :) (8/31/2012 12:54:32 PM)

If they are looking for gifts, guess what? They are not interested in YOU, so you should just move on.

From the other side, if someone is so obsessed with kink that they can't be bothered to know me, they get ignored or exploited.



UllrsIshtar -> RE: CBT..ball busting..ready to get hate mail :) (8/31/2012 1:00:43 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: hairlover123
i do not know where to begin to find what i am looking for, it is not just about the kink either it is about the legit relationship between a submissive and the dominant but it seems so difficult at my age to find a woman that is realistically into the actual aspect of the life style, minus just being money hungry or needy for gifts, it makes me reluctant to continue on but i refuse to give up! lol


Based on the fact that you where expecting to get hate mail over this topic, I'm going to guess and say that you habitually send women emails where you bring up, or go on an on your kink in the first email.

Something like:

"Hi, I'm hairlover. I LOVE ballbusting. Especially when it's done X, Y, Z way. Is that something you've ever done or fantasized about?"

Or (to a woman with pics of her feet):

"Man I would love to have those pretty feet kick me in the balls."

Now, if I'm wrong, I apologize, but that's how I think you're sending out mails.

In which case, you shouldn't be at all surprised that you get women asking you for gifts or money, and that you can't find anybody interested in a relationship with you. After all, you're approaching women as if they are life-sized fetish delivery machines for you, with no other purpose than to get you off... are you really surprised they respond by treating you like an ATM?



ChatteParfaitt -> RE: CBT..ball busting..ready to get hate mail :) (8/31/2012 1:02:20 PM)

My lovely sub male, lambykins, loves having his nipples tortured, while I love CBT. Yes, I love to torture his cock and balls in whatever sick way I can think of. Which means often it involves a chain, or a streetchie cord, or something connecting his nipples to his cock and balls so I get what I want (his response) and he gets what he wants (his nipples tortured).

This is how great symbiotic D/s relationships work.

If you love CBT, find someone into it, or into it enough to make it work for the two of you (see above).

BTW: While you are pursuing the ball busting, I make note of the fact you are a young man (20). You may want to have children one day. So play safe, which means know your domme and what her experience is before you let her bust your balls, okay? You could put the prospect of potential children out of your future.



hairlover123 -> RE: CBT..ball busting..ready to get hate mail :) (8/31/2012 2:03:26 PM)

I respect what you are saying, the only reason i said i expected "hate mail" is because i have posted threads on here before and it seems people are very critical or just look for reasons to point out flaws in people and just bash on them any way possible. As for the comments you made i have never once brought up in a message about my kink in cbt and do not plan on it, that is why i brought it up here. I never bring up any kinks if i am contacting some one in a message, unless of course we have talked long enough for it to be a mutual understanding between the two of us.

ChatteParfaitt.. i loved reading your message it got me all worked up, and i appreciate your concern i will take that into consideration, although it is a kink of mine i do have limits and i would have to have a trustworthy other before i pursued anything crazy.

Thanks every one for the impute :)



angelikaJ -> RE: CBT..ball busting..ready to get hate mail :) (8/31/2012 3:19:36 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: hairlover123

I respect what you are saying, the only reason i said i expected "hate mail" is because i have posted threads on here before and it seems people are very critical or just look for reasons to point out flaws in people and just bash on them any way possible. As for the comments you made i have never once brought up in a message about my kink in cbt and do not plan on it, that is why i brought it up here. I never bring up any kinks if i am contacting some one in a message, unless of course we have talked long enough for it to be a mutual understanding between the two of us.

ChatteParfaitt.. i loved reading your message it got me all worked up, and i appreciate your concern i will take that into consideration, although it is a kink of mine i do have limits and i would have to have a trustworthy other before i pursued anything crazy.

Thanks every one for the impute :)


Re: getting negative responses on threads that you post: it likely isn't what you have said in the past but how you have said it.
It seems as thou you are teachable so take the good responses you have gotten here and learn from them. [;)]



hairlover123 -> RE: CBT..ball busting..ready to get hate mail :) (8/31/2012 6:16:52 PM)

I love to take advice and try to apply it how ever i can ( if i like the advise hehe) that is the only way i will learn



subbyincalif -> RE: CBT..ball busting..ready to get hate mail :) (8/31/2012 9:09:15 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: hairlover123

So..i have been into CBT of many kinds for around 6 months now..getting my balls kicked in, getting my cock beat up..i was just wondering is this an actual turn on for a Domme? Or is it just a fulfilling kink to the male submissive?...

I personally have been looking for a girl in my modern day to day life to be into this, but this is not exactly a discussion you bring up at the dinner table ..haha..just curious, any response will do !



Here's my response: I understand that the notion of you having your balls busted is fascinating and erotic to you, but it's pretty much a yawnfest for everyone else, even people who are into CBT. (And the fact that you think your post will bring hate mail shows you're oblivious to how utterly bland your post is.) CBT is a kink a lot of men and women have in BDSM circles. The fact that you have this kink too is no more interesting than the endless stream of other people who start threads announcing whatever kink they have. So if you really want to get beneficial attention, you need to bring something more than to the table than announcing you like a fairly common kink. Because, really, no one but you care.



hairlover123 -> RE: CBT..ball busting..ready to get hate mail :) (9/1/2012 1:45:31 AM)

subbyincalif.....lol



DeathProof -> RE: CBT..ball busting..ready to get hate mail :) (9/1/2012 3:39:33 AM)

I haven't had much experience in CBT but I really love it...
In my experience, it's about finding a sadist top, not necessarily a Dom/Domme as sadists who top during play have a genuine love for pain, so you would both be getting off on it :-)



lamb -> RE: CBT..ball busting..ready to get hate mail :) (9/1/2012 1:58:32 PM)

i enjoy CBT.  When i visit Mistress she seems to enjoy that significantly. Not sure about ball busting, even though i have had my cock and balls stepped on and ground into my body until i almost ...... whew.  Ms Chatte seems to enjoy torturing that part of me more than anything else.  I find it to be very submissive, giving control and trusting that Ms Chatte will not harm me.  I wonder what the boy's/men having their cock and balls tortured during and after, and i wonder what the Women who do this to the one serving them think/feel.  I have found it very freeing.



LookieNoNookie -> RE: CBT..ball busting..ready to get hate mail :) (9/1/2012 5:08:18 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: hairlover123

So..i have been into CBT of many kinds for around 6 months now..getting my balls kicked in, getting my cock beat up..i was just wondering is this an actual turn on for a Domme? Or is it just a fulfilling kink to the male submissive?...

I personally have been looking for a girl in my modern day to day life to be into this, but this is not exactly a discussion you bring up at the dinner table ..haha..just curious, any response will do !


Sorry to tell you...Domme's hate this kid of shit.

Sorry bud.



LadyHibiscus -> RE: CBT..ball busting..ready to get hate mail :) (9/1/2012 5:13:33 PM)

I love you, JJ. Even though you're a republican.



hairlover123 -> RE: CBT..ball busting..ready to get hate mail :) (9/2/2012 1:50:16 AM)

lookienokookie..glad to know you speak for the whole BDSM congregation :)



LookieNoNookie -> RE: CBT..ball busting..ready to get hate mail :) (9/2/2012 6:52:27 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: hairlover123

lookienokookie..glad to know you speak for the whole BDSM congregation :)


No prob man....I know people are busy....I figure this will give everyone at least another 20 - 30 minutes a day to do more useful things.

Glad I could help. (It's wut I do).



Muttling -> RE: CBT..ball busting..ready to get hate mail :) (9/2/2012 7:14:42 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: hairlover123


I personally have been looking for a girl in my modern day to day life to be into this, but this is not exactly a discussion you bring up at the dinner table ..haha..just curious, any response will do !




One of the GREATEST strengths of a kink relationship is that we talk about interests and limits outside of the bedroom. My Domme and I both enjoy CBT play so it is a common aspect of our kink time, but we both new this going in as we had discussed limits before we played.



ChatteParfaitt -> RE: CBT..ball busting..ready to get hate mail :) (9/2/2012 7:29:10 AM)

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I have found it very freeing.


I must not have had them tied up right.

I know when I pull on my wicked zippers, you find THAT freeing.



NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: CBT..ball busting..ready to get hate mail :) (9/2/2012 2:07:18 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: hairlover123
is this an actual turn on for a Domme? Or is it just a fulfilling kink to the male submissive?...

I can be a bit sadistic(the "Mean" part of me) so sometimes I love it. Sometimes, when I'm pegging him, I put his parachute ball stretcher on and a 10 lb weight. Sometimes, I just slap them around. Never kicked them though. I'm not sure I'd feel safe doing that. But I do really love the reactions I get from my "meanness." lol

NBMG



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