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yourdarkdesire -> RE: What can you say when no words can help... (warning - upsetting subject matter) (9/4/2012 9:07:21 AM)
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My goddness Dia, I am coming into this late, but my heart breaks for your friend.
As a retired nurse, I am appalled at the care your friend was given from the get-go. There seems to be several instances where substandard care was given. Yes, she should have gotten a stitch. Yes, she should have been treated right away when she started leaking. There is a very cheap, effective paper strip test that can be done to confirm if the fluid is pee or amniotic fluid. Yes, there should have been a greater effort made to halt the preterm labour. And YES, if the infant breathing on his own, attempts should have been to keep him going.
This has all the makings of a successful lawsuit, IMHO.
That being said......having had two previous preterm labours, she should have been advised against any further pregnancies. She might have been told that to do so was her own peril. We are not privy to the discussions between her and her gp.
It sounds like this babe was meant to be born when he was, how he was. Whether we acknowledge it, believe in it, give it a name, there is a higher power at work here. Many, many miscarriages occur because something has gone so drastically wrong that life was not viable. I am not suggesting that this was the case here. Her boy is in better hands now, and when the day comes many many years down the road, when they are reunited, she will know him.
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