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RE: BDSM and philosophy - 9/3/2012 2:38:04 PM   
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Who's Paul.....?

Oh that Saul fellow... sorry - couldnt resist.

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RE: BDSM and philosophy - 9/3/2012 3:46:52 PM   
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Who's Paul.....?

Oh that Saul fellow... sorry - couldnt resist.

Chuckles
I almost said Saul of Tarsis, but then I thought that people who read the NIV might have no clue who that was, which would kinda refute my entire point :-)

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RE: BDSM and philosophy - 9/3/2012 4:29:29 PM   
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Hello all!

I'm German and I've recently come to the conclusion that BDSM is ultimately inevitable, although not quite yet.


Sorry, stopped reading him---->
before I was twenty-one.

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RE: BDSM and philosophy - 9/3/2012 6:51:13 PM   
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I'm still trying to figure out how empathy disqualifies dominance.

If submission only occurred in the face of violent action it wouldn't be submission as we know it. It could be the survival instinct, maybe. Submission is literally, "I'm giving in to you because ___________". See that blank? It could be anything, because despite commonalities there are also fringes. That's statistical though, not philosophical (unless you want to go there, and believe me, I can).

I'm a Daddy Dom primarily. Note the term. I wasn't always. I am at this time, with my girl, because we both work together quite happily that way. My control over her comes from understanding her and caring about her, not the back of my hand. Just as well since we are LD, isn't it now.

I also have to wonder what kind of commentary this makes on emotional dominance and manipulation, on a personal or social scale.

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RE: BDSM and philosophy - 9/3/2012 7:14:03 PM   
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I wonder....there is such persona as DaddyDom, is there any MommyDomme out there?

Just a thought.

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RE: BDSM and philosophy - 9/3/2012 7:27:01 PM   
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I wonder....there is such persona as DaddyDom, is there any MommyDomme out there?

Just a thought.


I've seen it. It usually branches out to male infantilism.



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RE: BDSM and philosophy - 9/3/2012 7:41:10 PM   
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*nod* thank you.

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RE: BDSM and philosophy - 9/3/2012 8:26:38 PM   
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I hope that you don't mind me taking out a lot of the fluff while I respond.

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I've recently come to the conclusion that BDSM is ultimately inevitable, although [the modern world] not quite yet [reflects this].

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I'm not saying that BDSM is being held up. BDSM has been practiced since Marquis de Sade in the late 18th century as far as I'm aware. However, you can safely ignore and avoid BDSM if you don't like it. People who are engaging in BDSM activities these days are simply trading BDSM for vanilla sex, prostitution and/or pornography/masturbation.

However, I've come to the conclusion that BDSM will become inevitable as the world becomes a smaller and smaller place and economic pressures subside, simply because it will become more and more difficult to pretend that you care about your own family, when in fact you're an unemployed idiot with no girlfriend.


Okay, so we have a lot of linguistic confusion here. I'm still confused as to what you mean by the term, "BDSM". Do you mean the social stigma surrounding BDSM won't exist forever (or even go so far as becoming some "social obligation")? Do you mean that so-called tribes will exhibit BDSM characteristics on a larger scale (e.g. hierarchical order is similar to power dynamics in a BDSM relationship)? Are you simply stating that BDSM relationships are better in some objective way?

The phrase "it will become more and more difficult to pretend that you care about your own family, when in fact you're an unemployed idiot with no girlfriend" is unclear to me. Is the purpose of this statement to highlight the number of individuals engaged in BDSM that are employed and have girlfriends? Because I know, for a fact, that some people happen to not be interested in BDSM and still have girlfriends/a job/care about both. Why are we assuming that people must pretend that they care about their own families, rather than actually caring?

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This comes from my social theory that each positive human trait/value is accompanied by a negative one

How do you figure out which traits are positive and which are negative? Virtue Ethicists have had this problem since (at least) Aristotle. I don't think your theory would be complete without an explanation of why your categorization is better than, say, the list of virtues put forth by Aristotle or Catholicism.

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which needs to be transferred to the sexual realm in order to be rendered harmless.

Well, this is a pretty bold statement. So, causally, not getting laid effects some set of harmful traits and social problems... And here I thought it normally happened the other way around. How does your theory apply to celibates? to psycopaths/rapists/serial killers? Are you sure the sexual realm is the only outlet for people with such traits?

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Social problems arise when sexual desires are mixed up with social/family-like values.

Again, is this the only way social problems arise? Do social problems always arise in this situation? Besides those, I also have a fundamental disagreement with Freudian theories- not everything in this day and age is about sex; sometimes a cigar is simply a cigar.

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Protective instinct/Control addiction
Freedom/Humiliation
Empathy/Power addiction
Well-being/Submission
Reputation/Contempt
Friendship/Self-restraint
Omnipotence/Sadism
Responsibility/Self-sacrifice

These traits are not opposites (one can be both controlling and protective, free and humilated, empathic and addicted to power, etc). There's also no explanation as to how the items in the "positive" column ARE good; in fact, often the opposite is the case (overprotectiveness, inconsistent, etc). Same with those in the "negative" column (Since when is self-sacrifice a negative trait?). It's hard to see why some of these traits are matched up with their "opposite"- they don't follow any established pattern, so they need expansion.


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Maybe this will clarify things for you. If a family member says "Good girls just don't do things like that", they are transfering their control addiction (which is sexual) to the social/family setting, which will result in frictions within the family and thus causes social problems.

It doesn't always cause friction; saying such things is not necessarily prompted by a control addiction. Though I do believe our sexual desires SOMETIMES cause social problems (normally when publicized), I don't think that to be the general case. Hell, sex itself is a sexual desire that we experience with our partners in a social setting.


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Sadism is not in the natural order because it doesn't usually occur within tribes.

citation needed

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However, it shows up during times of war. Have you never watches WW2 movies, where everything gets blown up and the enemy is torn apart by mortar splinters and you thought "Wow! That was amazing and powerful."

I really think that you have a very weak grasp of what sadism itself is. It's not to be confused with numen or awe, and it isn't simply enjoying destruction. If you're masturbating to it, maybe I'd think differently, but I also think that's not the norm.


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I doubt that sadism can be suppressed through social institutions. Every newborn is a potential terrorist. And how do you deal with a terrorist ready to sacrifice himself for a cause that you consider to be utterly tribal, if not through sadism?
Do you remember the picture of Barrack Obama's face when he watched Osama bin Laden die? That was sadism.

Wait. What? Sadism as a tool to stop... terrorism? You can stop baby terrorists by taking away their methods of terror, for one. Or, one might resort to violence, but violence in itself is not sadism. Oh, and I'm in agreement with everyone that Obama's face when he watched Osama die was not sadism.
You'd also be surprised at what can be suppressed through social institutions- read up on the Stanford Prison experiment.

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I don't know why dominants should be empathetic. You cannot submit to empathy, only to power addiction.

People can submit to anything they damn well feel like.

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Yes, I do believe that omnipotence is a universal human goal. Every little kid wants their daddy to be omnipotent. And every good father would love to be seen as omnipotent in the eyes of their children.

I do not want to be seen as omnipotent to my (future) children. I want them to see me realistically, but know enough of my limitations to surpass me. I also plan on being a good father, thank you very much. I also did not want or believe my dad to be omnipotent for any measurable length of time- after all, that would mean he would know when I was a bad child and spank me. :(

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Well, if you do not believe in omnipotence as a universal goal, you will eventually have to wage war on tribes that DO believe in omnipotence (like the Germans), which in turn will force you into sadism in order to beat us.

Yes, because probability dictates I will be waging war constantly once I "grow up". Again, sadism is not the same thing as violence.

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What kind of social problems? If they are transferring their control addiction as protective instinct (which in your list, you claim to be the yin and yang of one another) isnt that much more about them transferring values and mindset ? How are values being social problems?


I guess, this particular philosophy only makes sense if you accept that every human has both dominant and submissive tendencies. Since your profile states that you are a submissive female (rather than a switch), you might have problems understanding (or rather accepting) that control addiction is an expression of dominant sexual desires. But since you insist on being purely submissive, you probably think that control addiction is a mindset, a strategy to achieve certain social goals, which it clearly shouldn't be.

One can be addicted to control without being a dominant or a top. Perfectionists and people with OCD come to mind- and I don't think people who feel compelled to wash their skin off, feel so because they are sexually stimulated by the diseases that they are so afraid of developing.

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So, people get killed because they can do things, which others cannot. They can go to a dance because they have the right pair of shoes, and you don't, so you go ahead and kill them.
That's exactly my point. Omnipotence and sadism are two sides of the same medal.

Not necessarily. What if they don't have a ticket or date to go to the dance? And besides, going to a dance is *hardly* omnipotence. Power, maybe, but I don't think you're breaking any ground when you say "So and so was killed because he had power that murderer X wanted".

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Well, I frankly admit that I'm not familiar with Hobbes. But from the way you are describing his theory, I'm not convinced. Life was never solitary and lonely. Apes hunt in packs, and so did the first humans. There is even evidence that the first humans performed primitive surgery on one another. If life was brutish and short, it was due to the lack of technology, not due to the lack of social contracts. Claiming that socially more advanced civilizations are also more technologically advanced is putting the cart before the horse. When a certain group of people gains a technological edge over other groups, some members within the group will become lazy and try to sponge off the system. They might aspire to professions, which are not really necessary, like bankers, lawyers, musicians. When other groups catch up, the system collapses.

What?
1) Without social contracts, life is solitary and lonely. Otherwise, you HAVE THE DEFINITION OF A SOCIAL CONTRACT. I sincerely doubt that the first humans walked up to each other, grunted, and started hunting together- it's much more likely that they AT LEAST experienced failure from the hunt before attempting to share. Sharing implies less resources for the self, which limits the self's survival- this is only done when a demonstrable benefit is gained from creating the contract. This is also demonstrated in children- we have to teach the concept of sharing, but the concept of ownership is already biologically imprinted in their minds.
2) Lack of technology? What technology are you referring to? It's pretty common knowledge that, without food for an extended period of time, people die. It's also known that humans can be eaten by creatures bigger than them. It would help, y'know, if you got a warning while you were asleep and, I dunno, a bear comes up and thinks you a tasty morsel or tries to protect her young.
3) What is the purpose of your entire technological edge tangent?

I would make an effort to actually read Hobbes before you attempt to talk about his theories.

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#1: Ancient Egyptian/Roman religion
Greek philosophy of Sophism
The element of amoralism. Penalties and punishments by superior moral beings are dismissed as coincidence or as an act of god.

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I randomly picked sophism. If you don't like it, pick hedonism, which is similarly immoral. When I used the expression "moral being", I wasn't referring to gods but to other people who don't
believe in this particular religion or philosophy and altruistically punish the believers for reasons, which they might not understand because they don't understand altruistic behaviour.

Immoral and amoral are two different things. You said amoralism in your first post and immoral in this one. Besides that, the Greeks are not the same people as the Romans, and picking things randomly don't really help your point. Besides, these still seem like three completely different topics (but hey, every pair of objects in this world are similar in some respect and different in another, so...)

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#2: Hinduism
Greek/Roman philosophy of Stoa a la Seneca
Non-violence at all costs. Gandhi resisted the British colonialists through non-violence, while Seneca poisoned himself without hesitation after receiving the order to do so from a Roman emperor.

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Yes, but tough endurance of misfortune and inner peace in the face of adversities is also a trademark of Hinduism, isn't it?

And it's also a trademark of several other religions/philosophies. Your point?
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#3: Buddhism
French philosophy of Rene Descartes
The dualism between mind and body, meditation.

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My gosh... Have you never read about Opus dei? The rumour that pope Johannes Paul I was poisoned by his own cardinals? People don't always believe in the values that they are paid to represent.

Er... next time, pick some other similarity than the title of one of the major works that the philosopher is known for. You know, as well as I, that the "Meditations" that desCartes refers to are completely different than the meditation that one would be taught in an Eastern religion. Cartesian Dualism, as well, refers not to a yin/yang relationship of mind and body, but simply, "When I think, stuff floats around in my head... but it must not have form, because then thinking of something REALLY BIG would make my head explode, so there's this stuff that is tangible and stuff that's intangible, so there's two different stuffs." There's no morality brought about by the theory.
BESIDES, DESCARTES USED THE IDEA THAT GOD EXISTED AS THE ULTIMATE FUNDAMENTAL BASIS OF HIS PHILOSOPHY. His proof goes as such-
1) The cogito
2) The cogito is perfect
3) In order for something to be made, something as good as/better than it has to make it
4) Therefore God exists
5) Therefore blood and rationality and clocks and ovens that I write in to keep warm and bakers that chase me out of them

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#4: Christianity
English philosophy of Utilitarianism
The golden rule of the holy bible "Treat your neighbour as you wish to be treated yourself" is pretty much the summary of utilitarianism.

Sorry dude, Christianity is not Utilitarianism at all. Utilitarianism is simply that which creates the most net utility is moral. You could make an argument that the golden rule (which by NO means is the defining characteristic of Christianity) is Deontological, but the fact is that Christianity is an example of a "Divine Command" theory. That which makes the rules is absolute, and those rules determine morality.

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#5: Judaism
Italian philosophy of Machiavelli
The Jews think of themselves as the chosen people. Machiavelli believed that power and respect can be earned by following certain moral principles.

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Ummmhhh... Machiavellianism = applied utilitarianism? I don't think so.


Machiavelli was COMPLETELY utilitarian. Again, Utilitarianism says that which provides the most utility (i.e. happiness) is moral, regardless of the means used to achieve said utility. As such, making public displays of power so that the people would not revolt is COMPLETELY Utilitarian (scapegoating-making one person suffer "for the good of the whole").

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#6: Islam
German philosophy of Friedrich Nietzsche
Both the Koran and Nietzsche's book "Jenseits von Gut und Boese" ("Beyond Good and Evil") are a recitation of pure spite and malice.

Have you ever read the Koran? No? Didn't think so.

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#7: Nature religions which worship female fertility goddesses
German philosophy of Arthur Schoppenhauer
Melancholy and pessimism, sexual self-castration through artwork.

Er... Not familiar (enough) with Schopenhauer to make any comments on that, but how the heck do female fertility goddesses relate to melancholy and pessimism?

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#8: Nature religions which worship male war gods
German philosophy of Immanuel Kant
Both the use of reason and the preparation for war are not seen as a means to an end, but as an end in itself.

Such a bastardization of Kant does not deserve a response. http://plato.stanford.edu/entries/kant-hume-morality/

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RE: BDSM and philosophy - 9/4/2012 1:22:24 AM   
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Do you mean that so-called tribes will exhibit BDSM characteristics on a larger scale (e.g. hierarchical order is similar to power dynamics in a BDSM relationship)?


Yes, I guess, that's one way of putting it. Imagine a scenario, where governments introduce a basic income. If you want to work, it will be entirely voluntary. This will change the way that service-providers and service-consumers will see each other. When you go to a hairdresser to get a haircut, there will be a much more intuitive understanding of who's serving who for what reason. You either want someone to cut your hair because you feel comfortable when others are serving you, or because you can't do it yourself and want someone to mother or father you.

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How do you figure out which traits are positive and which are negative? Virtue Ethicists have had this problem since (at least) Aristotle. I don't think your theory would be complete without an explanation of why your categorization is better than, say, the list of virtues put forth by Aristotle or Catholicism.


Because I'm not talking about virtues, but rather about basic human needs, which are rooted in psychology rather than philosophy.

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Well, this is a pretty bold statement. So, causally, not getting laid effects some set of harmful traits and social problems... And here I thought it normally happened the other way around. How does your theory apply to celibates? to psycopaths/rapists/serial killers? Are you sure the sexual realm is the only outlet for people with such traits?


I think these people are pretty much trying to compensate things due to perceived shortcomings or scarcity. Being a celibate in a cloister has been traditionally a pretty good way to have a fucking good life, although much less nowadays since the disadvantages more and more outhweigh the advantages.

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These traits are not opposites (one can be both controlling and protective, free and humilated, empathic and addicted to power, etc). There's also no explanation as to how the items in the "positive" column ARE good; in fact, often the opposite is the case (overprotectiveness, inconsistent, etc). Same with those in the "negative" column (Since when is self-sacrifice a negative trait?). It's hard to see why some of these traits are matched up with their "opposite"- they don't follow any established pattern, so they need expansion.


Like I said, the traits in the right column only make sense in the face of scarcity. In a purely social setting, you need a reason to submit, restrain yourself, sacrifice yourself. You might also find a reason to despise certain people. When these reasons go away, it becomes apparent that the goals and needs in the right column are purely sexual.

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I really think that you have a very weak grasp of what sadism itself is. It's not to be confused with numen or awe, and it isn't simply enjoying destruction. If you're masturbating to it, maybe I'd think differently, but I also think that's not the norm.


Wrong, mate. I have a very good grasp of what sadism means. It's not about enjoying destruction, it's about seeing other people suffer so that you and your tribe can procreate.

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I would make an effort to actually read Hobbes before you attempt to talk about his theories.


I might do when I have time.


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#3: Buddhism
Er... next time, pick some other similarity than the title of one of the major works that the philosopher is known for. You know, as well as I, that the "Meditations" that desCartes refers to are completely different than the meditation that one would be taught in an Eastern religion. Cartesian Dualism, as well, refers not to a yin/yang relationship of mind and body, but simply, "When I think, stuff floats around in my head... but it must not have form, because then thinking of something REALLY BIG would make my head explode, so there's this stuff that is tangible and stuff that's intangible, so there's two different stuffs." There's no morality brought about by the theory.


Yes, but what kind of morality is brought about by Buddhism, except that you are trying to better yourself through introspection?

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Machiavelli was COMPLETELY utilitarian. Again, Utilitarianism says that which provides the most utility (i.e. happiness) is moral, regardless of the means used to achieve said utility. As such, making public displays of power so that the people would not revolt is COMPLETELY Utilitarian (scapegoating-making one person suffer "for the good of the whole").


I haven't yet read "Il principe", though it's on my list. So you will have to wait for a more comprehensive response.

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Have you ever read the Koran? No? Didn't think so.


No, I haven't. And I'm not planning to do so.

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Such a bastardization of Kant does not deserve a response. http://plato.stanford.edu/entries/kant-hume-morality/


Please. A bit of etiquette should be expected.

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RE: BDSM and philosophy - 9/4/2012 5:37:55 AM   
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Quick response.

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Yes, I guess, that's one way of putting it. Imagine a scenario, where governments introduce a basic income. If you want to work, it will be entirely voluntary. This will change the way that service-providers and service-consumers will see each other. When you go to a hairdresser to get a haircut, there will be a much more intuitive understanding of who's serving who for what reason. You either want someone to cut your hair because you feel comfortable when others are serving you, or because you can't do it yourself and want someone to mother or father you.

This makes a lot more sense than what you originally wrote.

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Because I'm not talking about virtues, but rather about basic human needs, which are rooted in psychology rather than philosophy.

Then how are the needs you propose better than Maslow's, etc?

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I think these people are pretty much trying to compensate things due to perceived shortcomings or scarcity. Being a celibate in a cloister has been traditionally a pretty good way to have a fucking good life, although much less nowadays since the disadvantages more and more outhweigh the advantages.

Doesn't matter if you think they're trying to compensate or not; your theory states that some things MUST be resolved sexually in order to diffuse tension/conflict, and some people simply don't have sexual tendencies/have sexual relations. You're saying that these people are not resolving some basic needs that they have, which will be perceived as a shortcoming of your theory.

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Like I said, the traits in the right column only make sense in the face of scarcity. In a purely social setting, you need a reason to submit, restrain yourself, sacrifice yourself. You might also find a reason to despise certain people. When these reasons go away, it becomes apparent that the goals and needs in the right column are purely sexual.

I must have missed you saying that. Regardless, certain evolutionary psychologists would disagree with me, but I don't believe "self-sacrifice" is purely sexual- if only because I can consciously decide to sacrifice while knowing the sacrifice has no basis for reproduction. EDIT: Oh, I misunderstood. However, this is like saying "Taking all reasons to use a rope outside of sex away, ropes are only used for sex". Not a philosophically deep idea.

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Wrong, mate. I have a very good grasp of what sadism means. It's not about enjoying destruction, it's about seeing other people suffer so that you and your tribe can procreate.

Mmmm... I don't think this is what sadism means, either. But I'll throw it back to this community, and ask what they think.

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I might do when I have time.

You should. As Kana said, his philosophy is definitely the basis for political theory in general, and gives a lot of insight into the human condition (whether or not you agree with his predictions).


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Yes, but what kind of morality is brought about by Buddhism, except that you are trying to better yourself through introspection?

So you're saying that desCartes' philosophy is similar to Buddhism because they both involve rational thought? That's pretty weak.


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No, I haven't. And I'm not planning to do so.

Then you have to deal with your incorrect assumptions/evaluations of the Koran.

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Please. A bit of etiquette should be expected.

Forgive me. I was more-than-slightly put off by what I perceived as arrogance ("Since your profile states that you are a submissive female (rather than a switch), you might have problems understanding (or rather accepting) that control addiction is an expression of dominant sexual desires."), and the environment I learned philosophy in didn't really put up with people misrepresenting the basics of the philosophies.

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RE: BDSM and philosophy - 9/4/2012 6:52:56 AM   
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I can't help but get the impression that you really have no idea what you're talking about.

Beginning to suspect your nick is "ironic"

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RE: BDSM and philosophy - 9/4/2012 6:59:17 AM   
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Then how are the needs you propose better than Maslow's, etc?


Do you mean this? I don't know. Think for yourself.
But as far as I know, Maslow's hierarchy of needs is part of an economic theory and presumes the existence of capitalism. So, I wouldn't necessarily call it universal.




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RE: BDSM and philosophy - 9/4/2012 7:00:46 AM   
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I can't help but get the impression that you really have no idea what you're talking about.

Beginning to suspect your nick is "ironic"



Emmm... Thank you very much.

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RE: BDSM and philosophy - 9/4/2012 7:07:51 AM   
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Just to wind up crazyml, let me respond to this:

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I must have missed you saying that. Regardless, certain evolutionary psychologists would disagree with me, but I don't believe "self-sacrifice" is purely sexual- if only because I can consciously decide to sacrifice while knowing the sacrifice has no basis for reproduction. EDIT: Oh, I misunderstood. However, this is like saying "Taking all reasons to use a rope outside of sex away, ropes are only used for sex". Not a philosophically deep idea.

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Wrong, mate. I have a very good grasp of what sadism means. It's not about enjoying destruction, it's about seeing other people suffer so that you and your tribe can procreate.

Mmmm... I don't think this is what sadism means, either. But I'll throw it back to this community, and ask what they think.


I believe that at the most fundamental and brutish level of evolutionary psychology, making a woman pregnant is basically sadism and surrendering to a man to become pregnant is actually self-sacrifice. We've just developed all sorts of theories and social constructs to rationalize this away.

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RE: BDSM and philosophy - 9/4/2012 7:12:33 AM   
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I can't help but get the impression that you really have no idea what you're talking about.

Beginning to suspect your nick is "ironic"



Or "PseudoIntellectual."

Yet another user comes to this board thinking we have zero intellectual rigor. You know, it took Himself 10 minutes to frame his post, and he types really slow. It took this guy all day to come up with his response (about 10 hours). And it was all poppycock (JMO). That's my new favorite word of denigration, poppycock.

Hey I know. He said we kill people who can do things we can't. I'm five feet tall. Does this mean I get to go around killing all the tall people now?

Okay, so I might *envy* all you tall folks a bit. And yes, I am talking about everyone over 5'2", but my thoughts don't run to homicide (often). Just when people get ironically pseudo-intellectual.



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RE: BDSM and philosophy - 9/4/2012 8:19:15 AM   
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You know, it took Himself 10 minutes to frame his post, and he types really slow. It took this guy all day to come up with his response (about 10 hours). And it was all poppycock (JMO). That's my new favorite word of denigration, poppycock.



Would be interesting to see how much time you need to write a post in a foreign language.

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RE: BDSM and philosophy - 9/4/2012 8:23:21 AM   
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Just to wind up crazyml, let me respond to this:

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I must have missed you saying that. Regardless, certain evolutionary psychologists would disagree with me, but I don't believe "self-sacrifice" is purely sexual- if only because I can consciously decide to sacrifice while knowing the sacrifice has no basis for reproduction. EDIT: Oh, I misunderstood. However, this is like saying "Taking all reasons to use a rope outside of sex away, ropes are only used for sex". Not a philosophically deep idea.

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Wrong, mate. I have a very good grasp of what sadism means. It's not about enjoying destruction, it's about seeing other people suffer so that you and your tribe can procreate.

Mmmm... I don't think this is what sadism means, either. But I'll throw it back to this community, and ask what they think.


I believe that at the most fundamental and brutish level of evolutionary psychology, making a woman pregnant is basically sadism and surrendering to a man to become pregnant is actually self-sacrifice. We've just developed all sorts of theories and social constructs to rationalize this away.

Well, if you're really talking evolutionary psychology, with all due respect to Hobbes, technically, knocking a bitch up has nothing to do with it: few animals, including sadly, humans, don't really have the attention span to make the connection - what males have is a nigh uncontrollable urge to invade other peoples personal space with their meat missile, often without regard to whether it's actually the appropriate reproductive orifice or or some other, and not much thought given to the ensuring consequences, at least till she misses.

And even in this day and age, the male response is: "how in the hell did that happen"? And commonly, appear completely mystified at how such a thing might have occurred.

This is just biology, and from a purely biological viewpoint the more penetration occurs, the greater the chances of some sperm accidentally landing in proximity to the cervix. It's basically a statistical algorithm, and nature rewards us for engaging in it whether fertilization occurs or no, because there's always a next time.

But given that humans do form abstractions of individuality and individual volition, this remains a bit of a conundrum, but one to which there is no real easy solution - we have developed in vitro, but that's an expensive fetish.

In any case the requirement of the man to invade the personal space/s of the woman, or whatever the object of his desire may be, does require a certain amount of confidence, and given the travails of childbearing, a touch of sadism probably doesn't hurt.

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RE: BDSM and philosophy - 9/4/2012 8:49:08 AM   
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Since I speak zero foreign languages, I'll go ahead and say never. However, Himself speaks several, well I should say reads and writes, he does not consider himself fluent in terms of speaking.

In any case, he responded to you as a lark on a non-work day morning, a true intellectual could not possibly take you seriously.

This would be why *I* am responding to you, I am a mere autodidact. As such, my knowledge is limited to those subjects I take a personal interest in. I make no claims to be an intellectual. I often make claims of being "smart."

Yes, I do mean beyond a smart ass. By that I mean I have a quick, highly analytical brain that I'm not afraid to use, coupled with a great deal of common sense and personal experience.

BTW: It's my understanding the German education system teaches English starting at a very early age.

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RE: BDSM and philosophy - 9/4/2012 9:11:05 AM   
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Where Hobbes comes in is that this indiscriminate invading of personal spaces is generally frowned upon, and even punishable by law in many cases, and while it may seem contradictory, nature more or less agrees with Mr. Hobbes.

The reason in K reproductive strategy, wherein the actual insemination is the easy part, and in humans K strategy is taken to a level far beyond any other organism on the planet, the entire gestation period lasting Sixteen to Eighteen years, and any and all contributions to during this period optimize the process.

Oxytocin, released during intercourse, facilitates this process, helping to form social bonds, while vassopressin erects biological "barriers to entry" w/regard to close relatives, other men's wives, etc., which would introduce complications into their particular process. Admittedly, it's not a perfect process, it not being a perfect world, and this explanation is a bit of an oversimplification, but it covers the gist of it.

But, this reason, even after impregnation and childbirth, women require frequent Rogering, it's part of routine maintenance - and, given that the woman stands to benefit from contributions to as many males as possible, all sorts of mechanisms have arisen to keep them from straying, and possibly getting knocked up by some other hoser, including frequent Rogering, as well as a host of sadistic social institutions, bondage, flogging, marriage, etc.

But, overall, given the remarkable length of he human gestation period, nature overall appears to prefer the more sociable approach, otherwise chaos would ensue and the nurturing process would suffer.

So, S&M is certainly plays it's part in the process, but overall, nature and we prefer it be done consensually and quietly.

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RE: BDSM and philosophy - 9/4/2012 9:32:59 AM   
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The good news is that if you consider yourself a rebel, "society" still formally frowns upon anything that doesn't directly contribute to turning everything into a mindless anthill with stock options, which includes BDSM.

So, you may be satisfied you are roughly in congruence with natures plan, if not necessarily "society's", which has it's own boundary issues and it's own problems with Hobbes.

In fact one might be tempted to suspect that "sex for procreation only" is a fairly appalling form of institutional sadism, the latest in a long series, and the more enlightened will always be finding creative ways to end run that.

Either way, sadism does appear to be ingrained to some extent, socially or otherwise, but I'll spare you the explanation for that.

Unless you're masochistic enough to want to hear it.



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