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ORIGINAL: Bigsqueezer

at Resident Sadist - YES! Hardly enough time to say we have truly changed. I think that notion alone was the power of the realization I had this morning. Although I will admit by the responses here I think I expressed myself weakly so I am glad to hear any reply.

I am watching American media measuring people during an election year. Every time we get into the discussion about women and their role in society, someone is speaking "expertly" about the topic. In watching the roles taken in kink play-games here on CollarMe, I am more and more convinced we have changed little when we look at the whole world and people are guessing how much we've changed. They have no idea where we were so how do they know how much we've changed? Thank you for replying

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Wading in and stirring conversational shit: I have been looking at many various profiles here getting used to the territory. I had some insights from perhaps a very different perspective. I am currently working on a novel set in a Steampunk version of Victorian England. I decided I was going to write in the voice of some Victorian female characters; a new voice for me; and was immediately struck by a number of social observations drawn from CollarMe.

Women in the Victorian era were treated like Burka-clad women of the third world. They were not allowed to own property until 1870. They gained the right to divorce later. The right to inherit much later. Even the clothing on their backs were property of either a father, husband, brother, uncle, or ward of the courts. Divorce was a nightmare, even if the husband was a total bastard - maybe if the woman won her freedom from him, she was shunned as a scold. Even after rape and brutality.

But that's the picture when things go badly - in the best face a woman was cared for like a china doll, brittle with celebrated weaknesses of emotion and body. The fainting couch is an amazing example. Many consider it a product of excessive corsetry. In reality it was a social tool.

OK - look at your life. If you are feeling sick and cramped, you go to your bedroom. Right? So why is the fainting couch in the middle of the parlor? Valerie Steel, curator of the Colombia School of Fashion's Museum suggests something different.

The Lady of the house is in charge of staff. IF she was one that married into higher station than she was raised, all of her staff were girls she grew up with. Picture that girl in high school that married well and you now pick up her laundry, wash her dishes, and walk her husband's dog? You know what kind of bitch she was and might take her word as law, but probably not. She'd be the same girl, not some lofty Lady.

So The Lady would affect illness and weakness, having occasional fainting spells from stress or just inability to breathe. Oh Dalia, would you please get the laundry. I'd do it myself but the pleurisy last spring left me so fagged. And so on... The fainting couch was in the center of the parlor because it was the seat of The Lady's authority over staff. I feel need to post source here...(Valerie Steel: The Corset : http://www.amazon.com/The-Corset-A-Cultural-History/dp/0300099533/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1346516634&sr=8-1&keywords=The+Corset)

The social history of a cuckold relationship is one of inference - the woman gained power by sticking her hand inside the man and controlling him like a puppet. Not necessarily out of brutality, or power hunger; try survival. I am specifically researching a woman dressing like a man to gain social equality - not necessarily for status - but for the ability to inherit her father's estate. I am seeing a sliver where the cuckold relationship evolved in reaction to the iron hand of Victorian controls. I have not researched the Cuckold but see it coming.

We in the west laugh or look in horror at the Muslim world at their controls of women. I write this to remind everyone we had our own version of that not so very long ago. Even today, we see the role of women debated hotly in the election year. If a medication that is used for "birth control" is also necessary for a woman to regulate her body, does she come under the WRATH of GOD??? The Victorian mind said yes; the Bible ordained the role of women that was then enshrined in law. We had our own Sharia Law - perhaps not as strictly codified as the Muslim world, but consider this before judging the rest of the world. We are in a culture that is in its first 100 years after unchaining women. Infancy!

Consider the strengths we gained by that move - when you discard 50% of the minds and lives of any culture, the loss is incalculable.

This whole rant started when I read a profile where a woman called herself s "Strick Cuckoldress." I collapsed into giggles over that word. OK ok ok - every language should evolve, but wow. Can you put that on a resume? So can we have a liberal cuckoldress? Maybe a hobbyist cockoldress? And then my mind started playing with the word and struck on the social tactic of cuckoldry being the thing that was weapon #1 against Victorian class slavery. Cucoldry snapped into focus in my head. I am amazed at us - cuckoldry is something done for fun now.

I think we should talk more about cuckoldry and where it fits in the world. Are the Muslims of 2080 in for the shit when they get their version? Will we all blow each other up for this?

I have been impolitic - slap me if you must. I think I have more to learn on this topic.

>dismount soapbox<

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ORIGINAL: Bigsqueezer

Wading in and stirring conversational shit: I have been looking at many various profiles here getting used to the territory. I had some insights from perhaps a very different perspective. I am currently working on a novel set in a Steampunk version of Victorian England. I decided I was going to write in the voice of some Victorian female characters; a new voice for me; and was immediately struck by a number of social observations drawn from CollarMe.
Women in the Victorian era were treated like Burka-clad women of the third world. They were not allowed to own property until 1870. They gained the right to divorce later. The right to inherit much later. Even the clothing on their backs were property of either a father, husband, brother, uncle, or ward of the courts. Divorce was a nightmare, even if the husband was a total bastard - maybe if the woman won her freedom from him, she was shunned as a scold. Even after rape and brutality.
But that's the picture when things go badly - in the best face a woman was cared for like a china doll, brittle with celebrated weaknesses of emotion and body. The fainting couch is an amazing example. Many consider it a product of excessive corsetry. In reality it was a social tool.
OK - look at your life. If you are feeling sick and cramped, you go to your bedroom. Right? So why is the fainting couch in the middle of the parlor? Valerie Steel, curator of the Colombia School of Fashion's Museum suggests something different.
The Lady of the house is in charge of staff. IF she was one that married into higher station than she was raised, all of her staff were girls she grew up with. Picture that girl in high school that married well and you now pick up her laundry, wash her dishes, and walk her husband's dog? You know what kind of bitch she was and might take her word as law, but probably not. She'd be the same girl, not some lofty Lady.
So The Lady would affect illness and weakness, having occasional fainting spells from stress or just inability to breathe. Oh Dalia, would you please get the laundry. I'd do it myself but the pleurisy last spring left me so fagged. And so on... The fainting couch was in the center of the parlor because it was the seat of The Lady's authority over staff. I feel need to post source here...
(Valerie Steel: The Corset : http://www.amazon.com/The-Corset-A-Cultural-History/dp/0300099533/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1346516634&sr=8-1&keywords=The+Corset)
The social history of a cuckold relationship is one of inference - the woman gained power by sticking her hand inside the man and controlling him like a puppet. Not necessarily out of brutality, or power hunger; try survival. I am specifically researching a woman dressing like a man to gain social equality - not necessarily for status - but for the ability to inherit her father's estate. I am seeing a sliver where the cuckold relationship evolved in reaction to the iron hand of Victorian controls. I have not researched the Cuckold but see it coming.
We in the west laugh or look in horror at the Muslim world at their controls of women. I write this to remind everyone we had our own version of that not so very long ago. Even today, we see the role of women debated hotly in the election year. If a medication that is used for "birth control" is also necessary for a woman to regulate her body, does she come under the WRATH of GOD??? The Victorian mind said yes; the Bible ordained the role of women that was then enshrined in law. We had our own Sharia Law - perhaps not as strictly codified as the Muslim world, but consider this before judging the rest of the world. We are in a culture that is in its first 100 years after unchaining women. Infancy!
Consider the strengths we gained by that move - when you discard 50% of the minds and lives of any culture, the loss is incalculable.
This whole rant started when I read a profile where a woman called herself s "Strick Cuckoldress." I collapsed into giggles over that word. OK ok ok - every language should evolve, but wow. Can you put that on a resume? So can we have a liberal cuckoldress? Maybe a hobbyist cockoldress? And then my mind started playing with the word and struck on the social tactic of cuckoldry being the thing that was weapon #1 against Victorian class slavery. Cucoldry snapped into focus in my head.
I am amazed at us - cuckoldry is something done for fun now.


I think we should talk more about cuckoldry and where it fits in the world. Are the Muslims of 2080 in for the shit when they get their version? Will we all blow each other up for this?

I have been impolitic - slap me if you must. I think I have more to learn on this topic.

>dismount soapbox<

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