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Not sure how to describe this. - 9/9/2012 2:10:32 AM

nyphylim

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Here goes. I have been noticing that when I let my creative Sadistic side out, I feel the need to keep going. I do not go past the point of safe and sane but I do not want to stop. I have done things like using heavy, elk or moose floggers to wear myself out without too much harm to the person I am playing with but I still go for hours. I also stop shortly from time to time to make sure they are ok. I can not "come down" for quite a time afterwards. I tend to "crash".

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RE: Not sure how to describe this. - 9/9/2012 2:30:27 AM

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If you're still not worn out after a long scene then you ain't doing it right.

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RE: Not sure how to describe this. - 9/9/2012 2:53:43 AM

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I am not a Dom so I don't know how to prevent Dom drop, more experience with what works for me to prevent sub drop, sorry.

As long as she is not asking you to stop sooner and you are not putting her in danger, I really don't see the harm in a scene lasting a long time. What is your concern with this?

If you are concerned that you will someday go over the edge and accidently hurt someone because you are Top spacing, I can suggest that you proform such scenes with someone you trust around to watch, so they can interrupt you if they feel that is a danger. If you are not concerned about that - what is the concern?

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RE: Not sure how to describe this. - 9/9/2012 5:12:13 AM

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Based on your profile and your journal entry, I assume that you are very new and that this has happened to you one time.

First thing, contact the woman you topped and check in with her. "Hey, I topped you pretty heavily, and wanted to check in to see if you're all right."

Now, with that out of the way, you're new and did a heavy topping scene and the intensity surprised you. No problem there - you did it at a play party, so there were others that would have stopped the scene if they thought the bottom was in danger. Plus you checked in from time to time. As long as she was not in subspace, you observed all the precautions.

The only issue is that if you had detected distress from her, could you chain the beast within you that wants to keep going? Also, how the hell could you keep going with an elk or moose flogger for hours?

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RE: Not sure how to describe this. - 9/9/2012 5:50:55 AM

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@DarkSteven you assume much and do not read what is there. It was more a concern at the need to keep going. Been in scene 10 years and into it for longer...

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RE: Not sure how to describe this. - 9/9/2012 5:53:15 AM

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Is this a new thing for you, if you've been doing this for 10 yrs, has this concern not ever arisen before?

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RE: Not sure how to describe this. - 9/9/2012 5:55:01 AM

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Do your scenes end with an orgasm and a cuddle?

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RE: Not sure how to describe this. - 9/9/2012 6:20:08 AM

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@DarkSteven you assume much and do not read what is there. It was more a concern at the need to keep going. Been in scene 10 years and into it for longer...

I DID read your profile. Nowhere does it state that you have ten years experience, and it reads like a newbie's. I apologize for the error, but you may want to revisit your profile.

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RE: Not sure how to describe this. - 9/9/2012 6:29:39 AM

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@DarkSteven Just because I do not feel the need to post it in my header does not mean it is not true. If you knew me in person you would know I am the quiet type. It is transferred into my profile building also.

@GreedyTop I have always had what seems to be night and day personalities. I have always been concerned about maintaining my personal balance. To flat out answer your question, Yes it has happened but it was more of a urge, not a need.

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RE: Not sure how to describe this. - 9/9/2012 6:42:50 AM

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It happens on the sub side too. Quite often we play and I want to keep on going even though he says I've had enough. Mostly I tend to lose track of time and I can feel quite 'high' for a long time afterwards.

It's a natural thing. For me, I just need to be quiet, settled and secure and I come down without too much of a bump. Maybe you need to just find a space to focus and distance yourself from the play.

BTW - I took a few seconds to read your profile. The first paragraph whining about what subbies (I HATE that term!) and slaves should do? Major turn-off...and factually incorrect. I'm a slave and my Master has told me I have free rein to deal with messages as I see fit. And as I'm a good slave and follow Master's orders...

edited to correct grammar snafu - thanks DarkSteven

< Message edited by myotherself -- 9/9/2012 7:05:05 AM >

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RE: Not sure how to describe this. - 9/9/2012 9:28:14 AM

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What do you consider a long time? He and I used to play for 4-8 hours at a time before taking a nap.

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RE: Not sure how to describe this. - 9/9/2012 11:44:29 AM

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Between the two (being cut off early due to someone needing to get home) It was about six hours. I got lucky and got a chance to play with a pair whom had some experience.

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RE: Not sure how to describe this. - 9/9/2012 1:13:20 PM

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The only advice I have to give, is that if the subs had enough - they'll let you know it. If you don't stop, and end up really hurting them or killing them, make sure you have a good lawyer. I myself, wouldnt let you touch me with a ten foot pole after seeing what you posted.

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RE: Not sure how to describe this. - 9/9/2012 1:16:59 PM

Alecta

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OP, I have this problem. And a temper. That's why I don't "scene".
It is my firm belief that as the one in control, my greatest responsibility is controlling me.

The crazy energy to keep going on and on is adrenaline and half of the reason you crash instead of calm down after.
The rest, for me, is related to impulse control. I've been working on it with meditation and steps/exercises meant to help with addictive compulsive behaviour.

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RE: Not sure how to describe this. - 9/9/2012 1:29:29 PM

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It's not like that but ok.

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RE: Not sure how to describe this. - 9/9/2012 1:40:58 PM

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Is it the crash that is concerning you? Anybody with ten years experience probably already knows that's the top drop phenomenon, so I'm not going to insult your intelligence with stuff that you already know.

Since you enjoy long play times like Me, one thing you do have to be conscientious of is getting off of the equipment to let other people use it. This honestly can be an issue if you are at public play parties or clubs. If you're the person tying up the St Andrews cross when a bunch of other people are waiting to use it, you'll find quickly that people get irritated.

What prevents Me from doing that relies on two things. One is that I get to play at home more often now, so the longer scenes are had at home. The other is that I do multiple forms of play. The impact play gets done for a while (so I'm using a cross or a spanking bench) and then I switch up to needles or wand or something that will use a different type of equipment. That way, I'm still playing, but not being an equipment hog.

Hope that helps.

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RE: Not sure how to describe this. - 9/9/2012 1:41:49 PM

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Oh. Care to elaborate? Otherwise this just sounds like you're bragging about your stamina :p

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RE: Not sure how to describe this. - 9/9/2012 3:48:45 PM

nyphylim

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@LadyPact Thanks.

@Alecta Think I got it worked out in my head after sleeping a bit and looking back. I think I was "Feeding" of their "energy" which drove my sadistic side wild, not dangerous by any means but wild, I think I usually have more of a wall up than I did so I do not get as ummmm What is the word I am looking for? Overwhelmed? not quite but will work I guess.

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RE: Not sure how to describe this. - 9/9/2012 6:24:36 PM

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you say your personality is night and day. Have you ever thought about seeing a psychiatrist? It sounds to me like you may have a bipolar disorder.

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RE: Not sure how to describe this. - 9/10/2012 6:57:20 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: nyphylim

Here goes. I have been noticing that when I let my creative Sadistic side out, I feel the need to keep going. I do not go past the point of safe and sane but I do not want to stop. I have done things like using heavy, elk or moose floggers to wear myself out without too much harm to the person I am playing with but I still go for hours. I also stop shortly from time to time to make sure they are ok. I can not "come down" for quite a time afterwards. I tend to "crash".

Hell, I'm an adrenalin junkie. I always want to go deeper, faster, harder, more, now.
One of the great rules in life well worth learning is that just because one can do something doesn't mean that it's wise to do so or that it needs doing.
I rule my emotions (Well, almost always. I'm all sorts of pissy today cuz of external shit). They don't rule me. So I don't let go often, especially in a scene or play.
I know it's tough when wrapped up and rolling to pull back, but I've found that I can channel that same energy into other sorts of play (mind fucks, insertables, cro-magnum type raw violent sex that lasts for yours, pinching, biting sorta stuff)and still get that same rush w/o really doping serious damage in the process.

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