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Where can I find ideas for.. - 9/14/2012 6:45:36 PM

lkb0503

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I'm interested in public play disccrete exhibition. For example to go to a movie with a Dom not wearing underwear. Or out to a restaraunt
I welcome any ideas!!

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RE: Where can I find ideas for.. - 9/14/2012 7:55:22 PM

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I don't really consider not wearing underwear exhibition. That's the nice thing about it... unless your doing it wrong, no one should ever know.

Have you considered a public play venue? or even just having another lifestyle couple over to play together? You don't have to switch partners, if you're not comfortable with that, just enjoy being together and watching. getting naked in front of someone else can be a bit intimatating, which is half the fun of it.

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RE: Where can I find ideas for.. - 9/14/2012 11:43:25 PM

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Nudist beach?

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RE: Where can I find ideas for.. - 9/15/2012 6:18:01 AM

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Just be careful that discreet means no chance of going to jail or having kids or your someone's Grandma seeing what you're up to. It's really not worth the thrill and it's pretty rude to the public to push your kink off on them.

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RE: Where can I find ideas for.. - 9/15/2012 10:49:25 AM

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Here's half a million stories that may or may not help.

I share Lizi's concern about accidentally involving non-consenting strangers into your kink. It seems you, lkb, agree. Anything under the clothes is usually a safe rule. There was one little thing I did when I had a submissive that we both really liked. I'd hold her hand often, but when I needed my hand for something (check my phone or get my wallet, etc), I'd guide her hand to my shirt and she would latch onto that until my hands were free again. After a while, it became her instinct to snatch onto my shirt. I liked that kind of attention and I felt it was vanilla world safe, despite being heavily steeped in age play.

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RE: Where can I find ideas for.. - 9/15/2012 11:36:00 AM

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It's not really my thing to be honest so I'm no expert, but I would think anything that feels out of character for you, but not in-your-face inappropriate for others would do.

You could wear nipple clamps, crotchless panties, a rope harness, ben wa balls etc - no one would know but you would feel hyper aware.

Other things that are less overtly sexual -
-Having him order/speak for you in a restaurant
-Asking his permission to spend money or be excused from the table
-Asking him if you are allowed desert/drinks etc
-Wearing some secret symbol which means something kinky to the two of you - be imaginative. Maybe he ties a red ribbon round your wrist to remind you of an impending beating when you get home
-Dressing in a way which makes you a bit self conscious. Maybe something slightly more revealing than usual, or bolder make up or higher heels than you are used to.
-Using some kind of warming lotion on the nipples or gentials to make them more sensitive (a better alternative to nipple clamps if you want it to last a long time)

Nothing there would upset my granny if she saw it, but you can bet they'd all make me very aware of our game.

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RE: Where can I find ideas for.. - 9/15/2012 1:14:48 PM

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Athena's comments remind me of something. I once sent a pet out recalling that by deductive reasoning, everyone she interacted with knew she had performed fellatio a handful of times in her life. I censor myself here, I was vulgar to be sure. I reminded her of this while putting a bright purple lipstick on her, so she was much more aware about it. Especially when people commented or complimented her lips. I told her she should imagine everyone's sentence ends with "you dolled up cocksucker."

Buying coffee becomes kinkier when the exchange goes like this:
"What can I get you, you dolled up cocksucker?"
"Thank you, you dolled up cocksucker."
"Change for a 20 is 14.12, you dolled up cocksucker."
"Wow, I really like your lips, you dolled up cocksucker."

We also had a thing where if I looked her in the eye and blinked three times quickly it meant I was thinking about something very specific, and very twisted, that I had told her earlier. It took a few trials before she got accustomed to it, but eventually she would flutter her eyes at me without being provoked.

I also liked the ribbon idea. I did something similar, except it was that her purse was a BLOWPOP tin lunchbox I had gotten for her.

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RE: Where can I find ideas for.. - 9/15/2012 3:56:48 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: lkb0503

I'm interested in public play disccrete exhibition. For example to go to a movie with a Dom not wearing underwear. Or out to a restaraunt
I welcome any ideas!!

I'm generally not into exhibitionism myself but I do flaunt with the "risk of getting caught" dynamic, such as outdoors scenes.

On those warmer Aussie nights, I like to take the girl for a "drive". In simple terms, I have her strip down to just heels, cable-tie her hands behind and wrap a short bath robe around her and take her to the car. Once settled in (seat belt etc), I sometimes cable-tie her ankles, too.

As I'm about to pull out the drive, I reach over and open her bath robe such that she's fully exposed and off we go.... The first time is the best because it's one of the few scenes where she has no inkling of what I intend or pre-discussion in a generalised sense to hear her opinion - I just spring it on her. The bath robe is for traffic light moments or if a bus comes along side etc as it takes but a few seconds to pull it back over her.

Other prep work (without her knowing) includes pre-planting snips in the car in case the cable ties need to be removed asap and a small folded blanket to throw on her lap (in case we get pulled over) as a bath robe doesn't cover so well when seated. My car is also bigger than most (SUV for Americans) and has tinted windows that make it much easier to see out than for others to see in - not that that occurs to a naked, bound female and she won't hear it from me. And (for variety) I even have inked-out sun glasses for her to wear.

It's not really a "scene" so much as light-hearted fun. Though sometimes I might take her to one of a few private places for some heavier outdoor extras, too. It's all good....

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RE: Where can I find ideas for.. - 9/15/2012 4:23:07 PM

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I love public play with my Master ( but hated it under other circumstances).

He is a master at it (pun not intended).

Quick (and discreet) gropes, tweaks, nudges, grasps, tugs, pokes and whispered or softly spoken blushy things... and for me there is the paradox of heightened intimacy: everything else around me just falls away and it is just the 2 of us alone together.

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RE: Where can I find ideas for.. - 9/15/2012 4:51:46 PM

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I seriously never thought I would encounter the words "discrete" and "exhibition" in the same sentence referring to a sexual activity. I am trying to take this seriously but . . . it seems contradictory to being an exhibitionist.

Is it my lack of imagination or a misunderstanding of terms?

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RE: Where can I find ideas for.. - 9/15/2012 5:28:27 PM

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I seriously never thought I would encounter the words "discrete" and "exhibition" in the same sentence referring to a sexual activity. I am trying to take this seriously but . . . it seems contradictory to being an exhibitionist.

Is it my lack of imagination or a misunderstanding of terms?

You could compare it to a non-consentual rape scene. It's not really rape because it's a scene.

They aren't really showing off for others, they're doing it for their own thrill.

That said, yeah, kinda contradictory; but different strokes.

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RE: Where can I find ideas for.. - 9/17/2012 6:16:41 AM

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For me, Athena is on the right track.

I am against anything that would push my kink onto the unwitting public, but there are some things my partner and I do that to the innocent bystander just make me look slightly nutters, and that I am ok with.

For example, my partner and I have a Daddy/little relationship. When we go out for dinner I might be told to take my favourite fluffy toy, and when we get to the restaurant I have to ask for a high chair for my toy. It's something that draws attention to me, but unless you knew we had that dynamic, you'd just think I was somewhat odd. We'll go to McDonalds and he will order me a the kids Happy Meal, and of course I have to play with the toy that comes with the meal, or colour in the tray mat. The person behind the counter probably doesn't even think twice about it, but it has significant meaning for me.

It's about discovering what's personal for your relationship and finding a way to display it in an overtly but completely unoffensive way.

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RE: Where can I find ideas for.. - 9/28/2012 10:03:11 PM

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When I was in High School my girlfriend and I had sex on the beach. When we were finished the crowd that had formed around us all started clapping.
I took a bow while she hid under the blanket on the sand. I thought if was funny, and she was totally humiliated. So, be sure to talk to significant other first.

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RE: Where can I find ideas for.. - 9/28/2012 10:14:37 PM

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It's about discovering what's personal for your relationship and finding a way to display it in an overtly but completely unoffensive way.

The simplest I can think of for this is showing off your collar. (provided your collar is disguised as a piece of jewellery or accessory no-one'd think twice about you wearing).

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RE: Where can I find ideas for.. - 9/29/2012 1:25:02 AM

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Wear one of these to dinner: http://www.adameve.com/adult-sex-toys/vibrators/bullet-eggs/sp-remote-control-power-slim-bullet-83795.aspx Your partner can decide when to push your buttons from the other side of the table.

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