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RE: How do I find a Cuckoldress? - 9/16/2012 1:36:12 PM   
LadyPact


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And keep insulting those of us who have LOVED this kink. You'll get far.


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RE: How do I find a Cuckoldress? - 9/16/2012 1:41:10 PM   
Alecta


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Status: offline 		If you want to be the guy watching a hot chick get fucked but not getting any, it's called voyeurism and you need to seek exhibitionist couples or singles.

Cuckoldry is an emotional/ relationship thing that requires building a relationship outside of the kink first.

On a side note, I love how autocorrect on my phone keeps trying to turn kink into junk lol

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RE: How do I find a Cuckoldress? - 9/16/2012 1:50:38 PM   
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RE: How do I find a Cuckoldress? - 9/16/2012 2:14:00 PM   
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ORIGINAL: StPeteStud7

I have met a few SEXY women that are into this concept. I played the bull in their scenario. I like how positive people are in this thread :) Must be some fat, ugly ladies in here :)



Yeah, that's the way to get people to take you seriously.

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RE: How do I find a Cuckoldress? - 9/16/2012 3:42:35 PM   
searching4mysir


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ORIGINAL: StPeteStud7

I am new to this and seeking a sexy cuckoldress/hotwife. What is the best way to do it?



Find a woman you find sexy, get her to have a relationship with you, keeping it open on her end but closed on yours. Cuckolding is very different from voyerism or cleanup/fluffing. It is an emotionally sadistic kink, meant to humiliate the cuck (which means there has to be an actual relationship there). It isn't about you watching her have sex or cleaning her up afterwards. It is about you being bound to her while she has the ability to fuck around on you (and there is nothing you can do about it). While voyerism and cleaning up can be a part of "the scene", they are extraneous. The key to cucking is what I bolded and italicized (whether you like it or not, there is nothing you can do about it, so you suck it up if you want her in your life). She may fuck around on you, she might not, but will let you think she is, etc.

LP is probably the resident "expert" on this kink.

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RE: How do I find a Cuckoldress? - 9/16/2012 3:48:02 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Gee, I guess there must be......

And keep insulting those of us who have LOVED this kink. You'll get far.



It is a fabulous kink :)

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RE: How do I find a Cuckoldress? - 9/16/2012 3:49:26 PM   
Baroana


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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus


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WTF is a cuckoldress?


The chick that fucks other men in spite of having someone at home already. Nowadays it's a consensual kink, not the ame as the classical definition.



Yes I know the concept, but is that a real word or are we just making them up? It ain't in Webster's.

I'm not a fan of the word "cuckold" in general, as it has such a strong patriarchal connotation. I am surprised that people use it to describe a supposedly female-dominant BDSM kink.

Moreover, the word "cuckoldress" makes me think of a woman who is cuckolded, not a woman who is doing the cuckolding.

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RE: How do I find a Cuckoldress? - 9/16/2012 3:54:05 PM   
LookieNoNookie


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ORIGINAL: Baroana


quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus


quote:

ORIGINAL: Baroana

WTF is a cuckoldress?


The chick that fucks other men in spite of having someone at home already. Nowadays it's a consensual kink, not the ame as the classical definition.



Yes I know the concept, but is that a real word or are we just making them up? It ain't in Webster's.

I'm not a fan of the word "cuckold" in general, as it has such a strong patriarchal connotation. I am surprised that people use it to describe a supposedly female-dominant BDSM kink.

Moreover, the word "cuckoldress" makes me think of a woman who is cuckolded, not a woman who is doing the cuckolding.


Some use "Cuckoldrix", a play on Dominatrix...Cuckoldress seems to fit better.

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RE: How do I find a Cuckoldress? - 9/16/2012 4:00:49 PM   
xLaChienne


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ORIGINAL: Baroana
Yes I know the concept, but is that a real word or are we just making them up? It ain't in Webster's.

I'm not a fan of the word "cuckold" in general, as it has such a strong patriarchal connotation. I am surprised that people use it to describe a supposedly female-dominant BDSM kink.

Moreover, the word "cuckoldress" makes me think of a woman who is cuckolded, not a woman who is doing the cuckolding.


While it isn't in Webster's it is the common kink definition of the word.

I don't really see the patriarchal connotation as I understand it and use it. It's taking away the choice of the husband (partner) as to the wife's sexuality and who she chooses to share it with.

A woman who is cuckolded is considered a cuckqueen.

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RE: How do I find a Cuckoldress? - 9/16/2012 4:04:55 PM   
VioletViolence


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Status: offline 		The ladies here may not be to your tastes, but they also gave you very good advice (albeit, occasionally with a crunchy snark coating). The ONLY way for you to live out your fantasy of being cuckolded is to find a woman who you wish to have a relationship with and bring up the idea of cuckolding. There's no shortcuts or magic fixes. Trust me, if there were I'd be surrounded by hot guys willing to do my bidding at a moments notice. But this is real life and you gotta work for what you get.

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RE: How do I find a Cuckoldress? - 9/16/2012 4:07:46 PM   
Alecta


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Trust me, if there were I'd be surrounded by hot guys willing to do my bidding at a moments notice.


I do not believe for one second that this is not true for you.

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RE: How do I find a Cuckoldress? - 9/16/2012 4:33:04 PM   
Baroana


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ORIGINAL: xLaChienne


quote:

ORIGINAL: Baroana
Yes I know the concept, but is that a real word or are we just making them up? It ain't in Webster's.

I'm not a fan of the word "cuckold" in general, as it has such a strong patriarchal connotation. I am surprised that people use it to describe a supposedly female-dominant BDSM kink.

Moreover, the word "cuckoldress" makes me think of a woman who is cuckolded, not a woman who is doing the cuckolding.


While it isn't in Webster's it is the common kink definition of the word.

I don't really see the patriarchal connotation as I understand it and use it. It's taking away the choice of the husband (partner) as to the wife's sexuality and who she chooses to share it with.

A woman who is cuckolded is considered a cuckqueen.



http://www.etymonline.com/index.php?term=cuckold

Granted, it seems far from the most offensive word in the language. The sexist connotations to me come primarily from the fact that there is no classic female equivalent of the word. Traditionally, my culture has deemed the act of a husband's cheating as regrettable but commonplace. Whereas, for a wife to cheat on her husband has long been considered a shocking act of betrayal and emasculation.

See, e.g. http://youtu.be/KpKv943jwtM

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RE: How do I find a Cuckoldress? - 9/16/2012 4:54:49 PM   
NiceButMeanGirl


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ORIGINAL: StPeteStud7
I am new to this and seeking a sexy cuckoldress/hotwife. What is the best way to do it?

Certainly not with the insult below....
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ORIGINAL: StPeteStud7
Must be some fat, ugly ladies in here :)



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RE: How do I find a Cuckoldress? - 9/16/2012 7:02:35 PM   
VioletViolence


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ORIGINAL: Alecta


quote:

ORIGINAL: VioletViolence
Trust me, if there were I'd be surrounded by hot guys willing to do my bidding at a moments notice.


I do not believe for one second that this is not true for you.


Oh lord, do I wish! Applicants are plentiful, but real live specimens are rather lacking.

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RE: How do I find a Cuckoldress? - 9/16/2012 10:08:37 PM   
Alecta


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Status: offline 		I was going to start a information thread on cuckoldry vs voyeurism vs fluffer, but then got carried away with more important things like Sunday with the family and flirting with Violet on cmail.

Baroana, your tangent is greatly interesting. In the ancient times of my culture, cheating is frowned upon universally but women were generally seen as "unable to help themselves" as though sexual fidelity was something beyond a woman's own control, and mostly it was other women expecting the women to be faithful. Our term for the husband cheated on was originally translated as "cuckolded", with the metaphor being that what we today call the "bull" is the cuckoo bird(cuckold is an old french slur for cuckoo, which shows you what the French were up to), sneaking his sperm (egg) into the nest (the wife). In our own tongue, words existed for the cheating wife before it existed for the cheated husband. The term for "a pair of adulterers" translates literally as "treacherous man and lustful woman". Also, that cheating wives did not used to be punished for cheating. Their husbands divorced them, if they choose, but the law did nothing about them unless some other crime had been committed. Men on the other hand, could be brought before the law for cheating on their wives and by their mistresses for abandonment. Women were often exiled for being troublemakers, though, and while this label is not used exclusively on unfaithful women, they were included as well if the circumstances of their cheating caused civil unrest and uproar outside of their own homes and families.

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RE: How do I find a Cuckoldress? - 9/17/2012 4:10:00 AM   
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RE: How do I find a Cuckoldress? - 9/17/2012 7:04:06 AM   
AthenaSurrenders


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Status: offline 		OP - You were getting reasonable advice and you had to turn around and be nasty. Spitting your dummy out when things don't go your own way is not the way to sell yourself to one of these super desirable women you seek.

You want a hot girlfriend who indulges your kink? Be the kind of person that deserves one. Build an emotional connection. Show a bit of human decency towards women in general and don't separate them into 'women who are hot and comply with my fantasy' and 'fat ugly women who don't cooperate with my dick needs'.

Alternatively, if you're not willing to put in the groundwork, we can do this instead. I'm fairly young and cute. I will totally cuckold you by continuing to fuck someone who isn't you, and you can't do anything about it. Also he's a far superior lover and has a bigger penis than you. You're not good enough to fuck me.

There see? I totally fulfilled your fantasy, and for no effort on your part! Don't you feel satisfied?

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RE: How do I find a Cuckoldress? - 9/17/2012 9:45:15 AM   
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RE: How do I find a Cuckoldress? - 9/17/2012 2:06:49 PM   
Alecta


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Alternatively, if you're not willing to put in the groundwork, we can do this instead. I'm fairly young and cute. I will totally cuckold you by continuing to fuck someone who isn't you, and you can't do anything about it. Also he's a far superior lover and has a bigger penis than you. You're not good enough to fuck me.

There see? I totally fulfilled your fantasy, and for no effort on your part! Don't you feel satisfied?


This needs a sticky lol

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RE: How do I find a Cuckoldress? - 9/17/2012 3:22:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		I certainly got a sticky from it, and Athena didn't even charge me!

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