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AthenaSurrenders -> RE: rituals (9/17/2012 3:03:08 AM)
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We have very little in the way of rituals, I guess there isn't a lot of formality built into our dynamic.
We are beginning to set something new in place though. Since we've had a hectic year with a new child and a house move and both of us changing jobs and me completing my degree, it feels like we've had very little 'couple' time. Though we are always Dom/sub, it was beginning to feel like the only time the dynamic came to the forefront was when a mistake was made or a rule broken, which was making it feel like there was a negative focus in the dynamic.
Now we're setting aside one evening of the week to focus soley on us. Though day-to-day I have very few specific rules the intention is to create a more formal atmosphere, with some little rituals for both of us to focus on our role, review the week that just passed, set new goals, and hopefully if the stars align just right, do some play. So I am curious as to what rituals others may have to see if anything inspires us.
OP - your specific rituals wouldn't fit for us - I'm not a fan of the insertion of objects as a way of submitting from a distance - but it's good that you've found something that works for you. I need to feel that what we do relates directly to serving him; cleaning, learning skills, running errands etc. Wearing plugs when he isn't around doesn't give me that feeling, it feels kind of arbitrary for me because I don't see the direct benefit to him. I would do it if he told me to, of course, but I think that would quickly just become an inconvenience in my mind. The phoning to wake you I could get behind, since I can see that as directly serving.
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