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mensexy -> i have a qestion ? (9/18/2012 8:20:05 AM)

hello everyone
how do i find a slave ?



smartsub10 -> RE: i have a qestion ? (9/18/2012 8:26:22 AM)

How do you go about finding any woman to have a relationship?



LadyHibiscus -> RE: i have a qestion ? (9/18/2012 8:29:11 AM)

I am laughing unkindly now. Thank you.

If you do not know, I suspect that you don't know what to do with one when you find one. Try googling BDSM [your location] and meet some people in your area.



Shininglight23 -> RE: i have a qestion ? (9/18/2012 8:29:45 AM)

The first step is to realize it isn't that easy.

How did you find your last girlfriend? Did you meet her at a club? On the internet? Through a friend?

BDSM doesn't make finding someone more convenient.. it often makes it more difficult. I mean, as long as you're actually looking for a relationship, and not a "tie me up, beat me up, kick me out" type of situation.

I would suggest getting involved in your local community, but if you're unwilling to do that, then I would suggest being particular about whom you contact from CM. Recognize that it is still a relationship and any relationship worth it's salt takes time and patience.



mensexy -> RE: i have a qestion ? (9/18/2012 8:32:11 AM)

by following the basic way meet , chat , love .sex,......
but looking for a slave seems different then the basic one i need someone to serve my needs and accept this lifestyle



mensexy -> RE: i have a qestion ? (9/18/2012 8:38:36 AM)

i am not that kind of person who like to do this "tie me up, beat me up, kick me out" i am looking fo human not animal




LadyHibiscus -> RE: i have a qestion ? (9/18/2012 8:40:59 AM)

If you want to look for someone in the lifestyle, go to lifestyle meets. People who practise BDSM are not animals, by the way.



Hillwilliam -> RE: i have a qestion ? (9/18/2012 8:41:02 AM)

Dude, that the ladies are trying to tell you is that females who identify as a 'slave' are first and foremost women.
You meet them like you meet anyone else. Your best bet might be to google "Munch group <insert your hometown>"
Then, you can meet some like minded folk in a totally vanilla setting. Hang out, introduce yourself and then (this is important OK)

LISTEN to folk. You'll learn a lot by doing that. good luck.



Shininglight23 -> RE: i have a qestion ? (9/18/2012 8:42:00 AM)

Maybe you are going about it the wrong way? According to your profile you are looking for hired help. (Not that there aren't women who would like that arrangement)

I would venture to guess that most women want to be treated as women first. We are all people first, right? At least I know I am.

I would caution you putting too much emphasis on the term slave at the beginning. Find someone who interests you.. have a chat... meet. Don't make demands...don't expect her to grovel at your feet...be a person first. Once you find someone you're interested in enough to enter into a dynamic with... then... do whatever the heck you want.

The foundation is first... you have to remember that. If your house is built on a weak foundation.. it is sure to crumble right beneath your feet. It may even be when she's doing the dishes and earning her $300 per week.



SlipSlidingAway -> RE: i have a qestion ? (9/18/2012 8:45:32 AM)

Not sure you are looking for a slave.

Your profile is offering a "salary" for your partner.

I'm pretty sure there is another definition out there that better fits what you are looking for. 




mensexy -> RE: i have a qestion ? (9/18/2012 9:00:22 AM)

for me salary means ''i will take care of you'' is not she will be working or doing some stupid things, maybe i should try to update my profile in order i can get what i am looking for



searching4mysir -> RE: i have a qestion ? (9/18/2012 9:04:22 AM)


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ORIGINAL: mensexy

for me salary means ''i will take care of you'' is not she will be working or doing some stupid things, maybe i should try to update my profile in order i can get what i am looking for



Perhaps you mean that she will be claimed as a dependent on your taxes and given a $300/week allowance (since you will be covering all living costs)?

Is English a second language for you? That might also be the problem with how you are wording things.



OsideGirl -> RE: i have a qestion ? (9/18/2012 9:07:43 AM)


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ORIGINAL: mensexy

for me salary means ''i will take care of you'' is not she will be working or doing some stupid things


Do you consider working to be "doing some stupid things"?



mensexy -> RE: i have a qestion ? (9/18/2012 9:13:26 AM)

i never said that i am offering a job , anyway i will keep looking until i found here



MyLifeMySlave -> RE: i have a qestion ? (9/18/2012 9:23:59 AM)


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ORIGINAL: mensexy

hello everyone
how do i find a slave ?



Well, here is what I know. I come on this site, and sometimes related sites, and have a few good conversations with varying types of people, get horribly frustrated, tell everyone to g f themselves and leave. But, it helps me think and feel a little closer to the reality of BDSM despite all the fakery. And, then I walk into the library or the grocery store, go swimming or out for a drink, an interview for employment, etc. and suddenly, out of the blue, there is a slave - who recognizes me for what I am and pursues me. So, while it may not be all about the mood you're in, being in that mood and sharing it with the world at large is a big part of it. Advertise what you are and you often get what you need, if not everything you want.




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mensexy -> RE: i have a qestion ? (9/18/2012 9:29:36 AM)

i want to hear from all the master's memeber in this website how they find what they need ?



LadyHibiscus -> RE: i have a qestion ? (9/18/2012 9:32:41 AM)

Of course, heaven forfend you listen to any women. Especially those submissive women who gave you advice.



totalslut4owner -> RE: i have a qestion ? (9/18/2012 9:38:15 AM)

oops



OsideGirl -> RE: i have a qestion ? (9/18/2012 9:40:48 AM)


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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Of course, heaven forfend you listen to any women. Especially those submissive women who gave you advice.


Exactly. Never mind how the women say they like to be approached, ask the men how they think women like to be approached.



KYsissy -> RE: i have a qestion ? (9/18/2012 9:42:22 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: mensexy

i want to hear from all the master's memeber in this website how they find what they need ?



Didn't they already do this?



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