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lilmissdefiant -> what is the appeal of sissyboys? (9/19/2012 5:01:36 AM)

I did do a search for this and didn't come up with what I was looking for.
So my question is, why are sissyboys appealing?
what makes them attractive to Dommes and in some cases Dominants?
and for the sissyboys out there, why do you do it? why does it turn you on?



ChatteParfaitt -> RE: what is the appeal of sissyboys? (9/19/2012 5:10:02 AM)

Sissyboys are a special breed of crossdresser. They like fancy clothing, and often have elaborate outfits meant for when they are in sissy mode. Generally they are not in sissy mode all the time, some dress only when they are officially in service or when allowed by Mistress. The best of them are very service oriented and make excellent "staff."

By far the best male subs I have seen and had the pleasure of being served by are sissyboys. Some of the worst sub males I have encountered are sissyboys who view female dominants as, you guessed it, nothing but a convenient fetish delivery device.

It depends on the boy.



LadyHibiscus -> RE: what is the appeal of sissyboys? (9/19/2012 7:23:03 AM)

What MissChatte said. Personally, I don't want a sissyboy, but you know Auntie Hib, she talks to everyone...

For the fun bit, I love playing dressup. Having a big doll to fancy up and paint that actually LOVES it, instead of getting off on being humiliated? Fab.



Aneirin -> RE: what is the appeal of sissyboys? (9/19/2012 10:23:16 AM)

Of course it is in my interest to try this at some point bearing in mind I have just been officially diagnosed as having KS, it gives me more reason to go with it instead of resisting strange urges. But from the subbing I have done, it has been noted I have attention to detail, attentiveness and gentleness not often seen with males, I now know why.

But is it that sissies are becoming more popular, I say this as I am noticing more and more sub males want to try it and on the other side there are dom(mes) that specifically say no sissies or cross dressers.

But the metrosexual is here, is not a logic progression that males want to dress up as females, you would think there must be something in the water, oh there is oestrogen.



LadyPact -> RE: what is the appeal of sissyboys? (9/19/2012 10:43:31 AM)

I'm another that doesn't find an appeal. While there are those who feel differently than I do, I don't find it to be a huge attraction to the majority of female Dominants. Some, yes, but the majority, no. I have an opinion on why there is an attraction to a segment of male Dominants, but I think it better that they speak for themselves.



Delilya -> RE: what is the appeal of sissyboys? (9/19/2012 10:51:36 AM)

"Most" of the sissies I have known would not make a good partner for me. They become too wrapped up in their fetish to focus on what I want, and it becomes all about them. Now, this is not true of them all, but is for the majority "I" have known. Plus I take a perverse pleasure in having an Alpha male submit to me.



LadyHibiscus -> RE: what is the appeal of sissyboys? (9/19/2012 10:51:56 AM)

Truly, I find that very few female dominants like sissies and crossdressers. Filtering for "authenticity" is that much harder with a giant fetish in the way.




ChatteParfaitt -> RE: what is the appeal of sissyboys? (9/19/2012 11:16:34 AM)

I like sissyboys as long as it's not all about them. But as has been stated, that's not easy to find.

BTW: As long as we are on this subject, sissyboys should never (ever) be confused with sisymaids, yet another subset of crossdresser and sort of a higher echelon if you will of sissyboy.

These boys prefer to dress as maids, have the fancy costumes, and when serving, prefer it to be, you guessed it, maid service. I have received impeccable maid service from a sissymaid, I have also encountered more than a few so caught up in their sissymaid fetish, they were incapable of having a conversation about anything else.

I would love to have a good sissymaid, but it would need to be someone who had some serious control over their fetish. (I would not want to have control over their fetish; this sounds like a full time job to me.)



LadyHibiscus -> RE: what is the appeal of sissyboys? (9/19/2012 11:28:54 AM)

Yes, I've known some fabulous sissymaids. And some that just had really great outfits...[8|]



Aneirin -> RE: what is the appeal of sissyboys? (9/19/2012 11:32:14 AM)

For me, it is hoped the partner is interested as myself in that situation is for their interest more than mine.



RumpusParable -> RE: what is the appeal of sissyboys? (9/19/2012 12:55:21 PM)

Personally, I'm not actively interested in sissies, but I'm open to them. As others have said, a lot rides on whether their focus is going to be me/us or their fetish.




Alecta -> RE: what is the appeal of sissyboys? (9/19/2012 1:02:22 PM)

I tend to dislike sissyboys because those whom I've met who describe themselves as sissies approach it as a humiliation fetish (as in "I love to be humiliated" as opposed to "I don't like being humiliated but I get excited"), which disagrees with me as a woman and as a sadist. (I want my humiliations to hurt you more than they excite you damnit, and your red shame of being betrayed by your own body!)

On my attraction to mtf transgenders and crossdressers, I suspect it may be because I am not very good with identifying through genders to begin with, and spending my formative years in an atmosphere of androgyny didn't really help. I am attracted to the feminine. But to me, it's about how a person presents themselves (masculine or feminine) rather than their chromosome arrangement. As for the dress-up part, it's more about what I feel best suits a person on a purely aesthetic level.

One of my friends, however, loves unpassable sissies. She genuinely gets her kicks from "how pathetic he is" and threatening to expose his fetish. For her, it is the power and control of blackmail, and "destroying" their masculine image. For her, it works best when she finds them attractive as macho men.



ChatteParfaitt -> RE: what is the appeal of sissyboys? (9/19/2012 1:13:37 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Yes, I've known some fabulous sissymaids. And some that just had really great outfits...[8|]



Oh yeaaaaaaaaaaaaah !! They do the best out there outfits that no one *but* a sisymaid would dream of cleaning in.



Hillwilliam -> RE: what is the appeal of sissyboys? (9/19/2012 1:23:05 PM)

There's one in our munch group. First time I went to a play party where he was attending, I decided to go into it with an open mind because he's a really nice dude in nilla situations.

He served drinks and was quite the maid. That red velveteen (or whatever) dress was errrr interesting (OK it was fucking wierd) but as I said, he's a helluva nice guy.



OttersSwim -> RE: what is the appeal of sissyboys? (9/19/2012 5:03:35 PM)

In my experience, there are Female Dominants out there that believe that with a sissy or fem boy you can get the "best of both worlds" - someone who will have both a male and a female side and there can be a lot of pluses to that. Minuses too...

I believe that with a sissy or fem boy you can have greater compatibility, more emotional connection/availability, and fem or sissy submissives are very often service as opposed to obedience oriented - in my experience, service orientation tends to be more popular among Female Dominants than obedience orientation.

I don't identify as a sissy but have friends who do. My sissy friends are also people who in some way identify as being transgendered - so while the sissy concept often carries with it a sexual or fetish component, these are also people who are seeking authenticity with their overall self. I think this is important as it will often mean a person who is not driven by their fetish, but by their search of authenticity of which the sexual or fetish aspect of being a sissy or fem boy is simply one part.

The Colorado community is very accepting of transgendered folk and of sissies and fem boys and most of my friends are in relationships and have many friends. Mind you, this is still a very small proportion of the whole, but there is a place for us and the folks here are very open and accepting.








MistressDarkArt -> RE: what is the appeal of sissyboys? (9/19/2012 5:54:40 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Delilya

"Most" of the sissies I have known would not make a good partner for me. They become too wrapped up in their fetish to focus on what I want, and it becomes all about them. Now, this is not true of them all, but is for the majority "I" have known. Plus I take a perverse pleasure in having an Alpha male submit to me.


This ^^^

quote:

Truly, I find that very few female dominants like sissies and crossdressers. Filtering for "authenticity" is that much harder with a giant fetish in the way.


This ^^^

quote:

ORIGINAL: RumpusParable

Personally, I'm not actively interested in sissies, but I'm open to them. As others have said, a lot rides on whether their focus is going to be me/us or their fetish.


And this ^^^

I've had 3 partners interested in being sissies...of them, only one offered enough in return for me to indulge that fetish a few times, after which I became completely disenchanted/bored with the whole concept. Part of why I was willing to try was that he actually looked good in tasteful female clothing and subtle make-up unlike the typical Dolly Parton blond-wigged, smeared red lipstick, false-eyelashed and sock-stuffed bra caricatures the majority of guys like to portray themselves as.

I'm 100% straight. If I wanted a woman, I'd have one. I like males who serve as males. Unless someone was 99% ideal for me in EVERY other respect vanilla and non- (and it takes both my two long-time male partners to add up to that % of satisfaction) if I saw 'sissy', 'TG', 'TV', 'CD' et al in someone's profile and that was all they had to say I'd take a fast pass, block, and hide.



SylvereApLeanan -> RE: what is the appeal of sissyboys? (9/19/2012 6:03:04 PM)

I'm not sure I'm the demographic you're looking for, but I'll give my $0.02 and let you decide.

I have very mixed feeling about "sissies" because, all too often, they are straight cross-dressers who get off on the fetishistic humiliation of dressing. With them, feminization takes on an exaggerated, performative quality, similar to a drag queen but without the good-natured humor of a drag show. This is rage-triggering for me for a number of reasons, primarily because I have several trans* friends. IMO, fetish-oriented sissies make a mockery of my friends' daily struggles.

That being said, I absolutely ADORE feminine-leaning androgyny. I love gender fluidity and I love pretty boys who are in touch with and embrace both their masculine and feminine sides. It's lots of fun to play with a boy who likes to gender bend; very much the "best of both worlds" fusion that Otters mentioned. I also enjoy playing with transformation/dollification scenarios.



NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: what is the appeal of sissyboys? (9/19/2012 7:12:13 PM)

I really couldn't say what the appeal is because they do not appeal to me. I've known some sissies as friends but would never consider one for a dynamic w/ me. Just not my thing.

NBMG



BambiBoi -> RE: what is the appeal of sissyboys? (9/19/2012 7:43:50 PM)

As exhibited above, the major turn offs are because the sissy a) is not a big manly man HURRRRR! or b) is too wrapped up in being a sissy that they forget about the top's wishes.

I'm not sure I'd call myself a sissy, but I've known a maid costume of two in my day. To me, dressing up helps me submit better. It makes sexual service to males flow more easily (not gay, but I know how to party...). I feel wanted, admired, desired, and pretty. Those emotions encourage my submission. When I feel cast aside and uninvited, I swell with dominance. I want to take control of the situation and make a scenario where I'm wanted.

To be clear, when I say wanted I don't mean "me! me! me!" I want someone to enjoy my company, miss me when I'm gone, and think about me when I'm away because THEY have such a wonderful time in my presence that I'm like a drug. I'm not sure if the dominant women I've know that enjoy sissies enjoy it solely for themselves, or delight in knowing their toy feels special and works extra hard to behave.




RumpusParable -> RE: what is the appeal of sissyboys? (9/19/2012 7:50:39 PM)

Oh, to add, on the plus side for me, I AM talking to a potential slave who is a sissymaid.... Because his focus, while playful, has been on our over-all interaction and possible compatibility. If all keeps going well, I do in fact look forward to having him serve dressed up. Also to take him to Camp Crucible with me so he can dress there as much as I let him (which would be tons).

Again, as long as the fetish doesn't take over things, I'm open to it. I am cool with him dressing and even interested in it because of his general good qualities I've seen so far.... It's just another fun thing to have in part of a larger interaction.



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