AthenaSurrenders -> RE: level of income (9/19/2012 11:10:38 PM)
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My dom relocated internationally to be with me, so for visa reasons he couldn't work and I made ALL the money. He did most of the housework too. Crazy, huh? Then for a while I was actually on double his wage. At the beginning of this year he got a much better job and now I don't work at all and he makes all the money. So in order to have me as a sub he had to put himself in the financially weaker situation for a few years. But you know, I've said this a bunch of times - for me the term 'partner' means just that. We're a family, a team. That means where one can't provide, the other picks up the slack. I've never thought of it in terms of 'my money, his money'. It's just 'our money'. Whoever has the bigger wage at any given point, we both put in equally to upholding the relationship and caring for the family. That's what matters. Now I would have problems submitting to someone who was terminally unemployed or an adult living a student lifestyle, or in a poor job with no ambition to improve. I know, anyone can get ill or unexpectedly lose a job. But someone without a good work ethic and at least an ounce of professional ambition wouldn't match me well. Someone who was very insecure and couldn't cope with me possibly earning more (because I am ambitious) would also be a bad match.
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