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slavejonwestover -> where do you? (9/24/2012 8:48:16 PM)
hi im a sub and i was wondering how you reconsise a sub on the street and how subs might be able to notice you

chemeli -> RE: where do you? (9/24/2012 8:51:09 PM)
(Fast reply) You cant.

Alecta -> RE: where do you? (9/24/2012 9:07:07 PM)
subs can be identified discreetly on the street via distinguishing features such as: - A brand - A tattoo - A metal circlet secured with a lock - A nametag Doms can be identified by the way we smirk when we see a sub's markings.

slavejonwestover -> RE: where do you? (9/24/2012 9:12:36 PM)
what if the sub is unowned and hasnt found someone to claim him thats the issue im having

RumpusParable -> RE: where do you? (9/24/2012 9:14:23 PM)
Repeat: You can't. What you Can do to make some progress, in general, though is fill out your profile and wait more than a day.

Titaniya -> RE: where do you? (9/24/2012 9:14:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Alecta Doms can be identified by the way we smirk when we see a sub's markings. +1 Simple answer: You can't. Complicated answer: Sometimes submissives have little indications... there are some collars, for instance, that are pretty recognizable, and sometimes a well-placed BDSM symbol can tip you off that they're into kink, albeit not necessarily which role(s) they prefer. I don't try to identify subs on the street. Unless I like the person as a human being first, what they're into is a non-issue. I'm open enough about my kinks that the people who I like in vanilla contexts and also might be BDSM-compatible with me tend to find me pretty quickly (although that method won't work nearly as well if you attempt to keep your kinks a little more separated from the rest of your life). If you approached me as a submissive trying to find a dominant, you wouldn't have a chance. If you approached me as a human being who happened to be into submission, you would. Figure out the difference and I suspect you'll start having a little more luck.

tsatske -> RE: where do you? (9/24/2012 9:15:10 PM)
It takes a while to find a match for any relationship. The reality of it is, you are one of many, available male subs, so it may take you even longer. Have patience. Know what you want and do not settle, this makes it obvious you are not desperate. Noone wants to be the answer to your prayers of desperation, a partner, including a Dominant, wants to know that you find them to be a match for you - to be something special. Work on yoursel to make yourself more desirable as a submissive. Get out to munches and meetups, get involved in local community. that is the best way to meet someone. ETA: a profile would probably help.

Alecta -> RE: where do you? (9/24/2012 9:20:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slavejonwestover what if the sub is unowned and hasnt found someone to claim him thats the issue im having I'm not sure why this is an issue. If you were Owned you wouldn't be allowed to show off your markings and attract another Dom.

NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: where do you? (9/24/2012 10:09:42 PM)
You only just signed up today and you're already antsy about not having found a Dominant yet? Wow. Well, like RumpusParable said, you should fill out your profile. I've noticed someone on the street before with a semi-discreet collar-type thing w/ a teeny tiny lock on it around his neck. I've noticed a tell-tale bdsm-y tattoo before. That's not a for sure thing though, you really can't know for sure without asking, I suppose. NBMG

LadyPact -> RE: where do you? (9/24/2012 10:24:14 PM)
I just recognize people as they are walking into the local munch. Why would I want to spend My time guessing about those who I might see elsewhere?

DarkSteven -> RE: where do you? (9/24/2012 10:27:36 PM)
Why would anyone need to identify a sub on the street when it's so much easier to see them in munches and play parties?

Alecta -> RE: where do you? (9/24/2012 10:28:25 PM)
Didn't we use to get these hilarious threads on people getting strangers to help them figure out if this or that person they walked into at the store/gas station/at work were in the lifestyle?

hairlover123 -> RE: where do you? (9/25/2012 1:59:45 AM)
That is like asking..if i am walking down the street..how do i know if this individual i am looking at has a pet dog?..maybe a bad analogy but that would just further my point..haha Good luck finding what you are looking for!

lilmissdefiant -> RE: where do you? (9/25/2012 2:16:16 AM)
Kink Inclined T-shirts would help.

lizi -> RE: where do you? (9/25/2012 2:58:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Alecta Didn't we use to get these hilarious threads on people getting strangers to help them figure out if this or that person they walked into at the store/gas station/at work were in the lifestyle? Yes, we've had a lot of old threads where people are trying to identify traits and such that mean someone is one thing or the other. Hell, Kevin convinced of the notion that any woman with boots on was Dominant. OP, it's not a drive through. People can't order up their fantasy fulfillment, they actually have to put in some work to find it and then be discerning enough so that they choose quality. What you're doing is seeking to stereotype and that's never attractive. Somewhere, someone will not fit a certain box because we are all human beings and don't act exactly alike. Now settle down and do this the way you always do in how to meet people. Put your dick away for now, no one cares about it or what you want for it till they get to know you.

pyschosubmission -> RE: where do you? (9/25/2012 7:24:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lilmissdefiant Kink Inclined T-shirts would help. WW and I are getting them! She wants hers to say "I'll only end up hurting you" Mine "She beats me" [sm=biggrin.gif]

Rochsub2009 -> RE: where do you? (9/25/2012 8:04:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slavejonwestover hi im a sub and i was wondering how you reconsise a sub on the street and how subs might be able to notice you Sigh. Didn't they explain this to you when you joined the subs/slaves union? In your union packet (which should have been distributed at the union meeting), there should have been a sub/slave tracking device. It resembles a butt plug, but it has an antenna sticking out of it. It is supposed to be inserted deep up your rectum. It will then give off a distinct signal that can be picked up by any Doms/Dommes in the area who have their "sub finder" devices turned on. You newbies never pay attention during orientation meetings. [:D]

lilmissdefiant -> RE: where do you? (9/25/2012 8:54:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pyschosubmission quote: ORIGINAL: lilmissdefiant Kink Inclined T-shirts would help. WW and I are getting them! She wants hers to say "I'll only end up hurting you" Mine "She beats me" [sm=biggrin.gif] The one a friend of mine is buying me says "I Only fuck Alphas" [:D][:D][:D][:D]

Alecta -> RE: where do you? (9/25/2012 11:14:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pyschosubmission quote: ORIGINAL: lilmissdefiant Kink Inclined T-shirts would help. WW and I are getting them! She wants hers to say "I'll only end up hurting you" Mine "She beats me" [sm=biggrin.gif] That's awesome. <3

LookieNoNookie -> RE: where do you? (9/25/2012 6:22:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: slavejonwestover hi im a sub and i was wondering how you reconsise a sub on the street and how subs might be able to notice you Personally (and this may not work for everyone), I wear a sign (an "A" board) when I'm walking around casually "I'm a sub....are you a Domme?" and....a lot of (similar) bumper stickers. I try to wear Dockers and clean socks when I do so....I feel it presents a far more meticulous image.

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