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blskitty -> no luck for kitty (9/25/2012 4:03:03 PM)

Decided to try out this site today, im fairly new to all this n I don't seem to b having much luck. I have a good pic but im just getting frustrated, any body have suggestions for me? Its hard to find someone who's into this stuff, but everyone on here is either far too extreme or way to old for me. The only person I talked to n I expressed myself.to says I don't have the qualities of a sub because I want to b pleased as well in the end? I came here because I have been sexually frustrated for a long time due to my bdsm desires n my frmr lovers inability to satisfy me. Am I just barking up the wrong tree? I know wat I want. Wanting to get off and b a sub is impossible?! Makes no sense to me




Alecta -> RE: no luck for kitty (9/25/2012 4:11:03 PM)

Generally the wrong kind of site for casual hookups. Adultfriendfinder has the option of expressing your exact Dom needs, and Alt. com is a specifically bdsm hookup site.

There's nothing wrong in having what you want as a sub too. I don't recall who said it, but being a sub doesn't mean you don't get to decide anything, it means you leave the little things to your Master and focus on the choices that matter: your Master.




kiwisub12 -> RE: no luck for kitty (9/25/2012 4:19:54 PM)

Perhaps you need to join a few munches, and meet people. Online is great, but real bodies are better! [:)]

I would think you could find a group that caters to the younger crowd, especially in California, the land of the young and beautiful lol.

and having profiles on the sites listed above certainly wouldn't hurt. Just remember that you need to like the person you hook up with.
There are infinite ways for people to have a relationship, and you can have what you want, just keep looking. And by the way - any twit who tells you that you can't have what you want is an idiot. Especially before you submit to him/her. Before starting a relationship, you can set down any demands you want! [:D]




OsideGirl -> RE: no luck for kitty (9/25/2012 4:36:14 PM)

One whole day, huh?




Titaniya -> RE: no luck for kitty (9/25/2012 5:22:34 PM)

1. It's your first day. If you're looking for something that requires any substance, expect it to take awhile.
2. You're an attractive submissive female. I'm convinced this group gets more bullshit shown at them than anyone else on here. You're likely going to get bombarded with people out of your age range, area, and other criteria demanding submission with poor grammar and/or a copy/paste message telling you what a "twue submissive" does. Develop a discerning eye and don't hesitate to hit that block button. Your life will be better for it.
3. I'm not sure how other dominants feel about it, but if I had a submissive who wasn't deriving pleasure from their position, I'd take that as a sign something was wrong. Pleasure can be tied into the denial of pleasure (in the case of, say, chastity), but IMO relationships should be two way with or without a power dynamic. The power dynamic just changes the way that's achieved.

People on this site HAVE had some good luck. Search for people who meet your criteria in your area and message the ones whose profiles look interesting. It'll be easier to find casual encounters than good relationships, but if you're patient, you can find either.

I strongly recommend logging onto Fetlife, finding local groups (especially those geared at the younger crowd), and going to some munches and sloshes. The community's (often) a great place, subby ladies are almost always in high demand, and I think it's a lot easier to meet people you mesh with in those settings than online.




ARIES83 -> RE: no luck for kitty (9/25/2012 5:33:12 PM)

Read the forum...
Search for topics that interest you and read!
But first go have an O or something...

-Aries




kalikshama -> RE: no luck for kitty (9/25/2012 5:43:34 PM)

quote:

The only person I talked to n I expressed myself.to says I don't have the qualities of a sub because I want to b pleased as well in the end?


You're going to hear all kinds of nonsense. Trust your gut and common sense. Don't settle.

Please do me a favor and lose the text speak. This is a discussion group, not a text. ur pst waz vry hrd 2 read.




RumpusParable -> RE: no luck for kitty (9/25/2012 6:00:10 PM)


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

One whole day, huh?



Yeaahhhhh, needs repeated.




angelikaJ -> RE: no luck for kitty (9/25/2012 6:13:24 PM)

Have patience.

Since you are new, lots of guys will try to define what submission is to them and then impose it on you.
You only need to define it for yourself and then find someone who believes as you do.




NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: no luck for kitty (9/25/2012 6:55:39 PM)

I don't understand why people sign up thinking this is some magical place where instant hook-ups are the norm. A lot of the quality people want to get to know someone first before getting involved, even casually. You only signed up today. Give it some time for crying out loud!!

NBMG




Alecta -> RE: no luck for kitty (9/25/2012 7:00:41 PM)

It's because you DO get pretty much instant hookups on the other sites I named as long as you're not picky and only want a hookup.




frazzle -> RE: no luck for kitty (9/25/2012 7:11:44 PM)

Alt etc work the same as collarme. You can find a quick hook up or a lasting relationship. It's down to what you're looking for.

I'd lay bets most started on alt. including you, or how would you know so much about it!!!




Arturas -> RE: no luck for kitty (9/25/2012 7:41:16 PM)

quote:

I have been sexually frustrated for a long time due to my bdsm desires n my frmr lovers inability to satisfy me.


Greetings,

I am sure you have had messages. Perhaps you cannot recognize a Dom when you see one yet. It is difficult. Look for the presence of other submissives who know or have known him. Look at his journals, are they rantings or are they a real journal of his successes and failures. Find out if he is a member of a local organization and if he is too old for you then ask him to help you meet other local Doms more your age.

Well wishes,
Arturas




Alecta -> RE: no luck for kitty (9/25/2012 7:55:25 PM)

Not knocking it, but most on alt are after the instant gratification rather than relationships.
I still find it useful for swinging




pyschosubmission -> RE: no luck for kitty (9/25/2012 8:07:26 PM)

Have to agree with the FetLife suggestion, its brilliant for finding out what's on near you. Made some wonderful friends through it!




littlewonder -> RE: no luck for kitty (9/25/2012 8:25:22 PM)

So one whole day huh? Wow...you must be one helluva girl if you expected tons of them to crawl outta the woodwork for teeny little you.

Dude, I was on this site for 8 years before Master found me. Let me repeat that....8 YEARS.

And you expect to find someone in 1 day. [8|]

You would have better luck at OnlineBootyCall.com if you're just looking for a fuck buddy.




kitkat105 -> RE: no luck for kitty (9/25/2012 9:13:32 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder

So one whole day huh? Wow...you must be one helluva girl if you expected tons of them to crawl outta the woodwork for teeny little you.

Dude, I was on this site for 8 years before Master found me. Let me repeat that....8 YEARS.

And you expect to find someone in 1 day. [8|]

You would have better luck at OnlineBootyCall.com if you're just looking for a fuck buddy.



As always, I agree with littlewonder.




LadyPact -> RE: no luck for kitty (9/25/2012 9:21:06 PM)

You're in Long Beach and can't find kinksters for hook ups?

Pull the other one, man. It's got bells on it.




GreedyTop -> RE: no luck for kitty (9/25/2012 9:23:20 PM)

I love you, LadyP. I agree 100%.

Even if SPortsmans isnt happening anymore, there are certainly TNG groups happening.




graceadieu -> RE: no luck for kitty (9/25/2012 9:28:30 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: blskitty

Decided to try out this site today, im fairly new to all this n I don't seem to b having much luck. I have a good pic but im just getting frustrated, any body have suggestions for me? Its hard to find someone who's into this stuff, but everyone on here is either far too extreme or way to old for me. The only person I talked to n I expressed myself.to says I don't have the qualities of a sub because I want to b pleased as well in the end? I came here because I have been sexually frustrated for a long time due to my bdsm desires n my frmr lovers inability to satisfy me. Am I just barking up the wrong tree? I know wat I want. Wanting to get off and b a sub is impossible?! Makes no sense to me


Would you expect to go on, I don't know, match.com and find somebody in a day? Of course not. Just be patient. There are people on here that are all (18+) ages and there's a huge diversity among people in terms of how much control they want or pain they like or fetishes they have. It can take a little while to find somebody that'll suit you even just for casual play.

And there are lots of assholes and trolls on kink sites who have all kinds of stupid opinions about "you're not a real sub/dom if you're like ______" or "won't do _____" or whatever. Ignore them and keep going after what you want.

Also..... I don't want to be mean, but you might want to consider using spell-check.




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