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LadyHugs -> RE: When is a Slave broken? (6/15/2006 9:12:08 PM)
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Dear Lilmiss0, Ladies and Gentlemen;
In the younger times in the lifestyle, 'words' were used differently then and today.
Breaking a slave, was a term very popular back in the 1970's. However, it is no different than a term used of "breaking a habit." Nobody wanted to see slaves injured; mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically and loose their sense of 'self.'
Because a slave/submissive are their own 'beings' to which master themselves before any other individual can 'master' them; it was similar to a horse, to which the communication in words did not really match until there was word association. The training of horses was crude in the old days and some 'touched' horses and gentle forms of training existed. Because most horses are "ask" types, they are so similar to us humans. So, in short--we do much more if we're asked instead of told.
Horses are very wise, powerful creatures that really do not wish to harm. The slave is also a wise, powerful creature and wishes no harm.
In training horses, it is an exchange of communications between horse and rider/driver, to which creates harmony. The horse learns how to best serve the rider and the rider learns how to best communicate their wishes to the horse. The finished product--a broken horse, means the communications barrier is broken, as both become one. The rider the authority/dominant and the horse the passive power and might in submission/service-slave, pleasing the master/owner/rider/trainer. There is a lot of trust required by horse and rider/driver. I often depended on my horses to obey to get us both out of a problem. Sometimes, I yielded to my horse--as they knew how to best handle the situation based on instincts and their nature.
I rather see that the term "broken" or "breaking" a slave be replaced by "Attitude Adjustment and Behavior Modification." Replacing one habit with another as well as to learn that the more open and exposed to a slave's core soul, spirit, mind, emotion, physical self--the more a Master/Mistress can see all the pieces that makes you an individual "unique." It is breaking down those barriers bit by bit; through communication, trust and pushing yourself a tad more out of the 'safe' feeling. Trying something before deciding if you like or dislike.
I would not wish you to feel that you are 'roadkill' in submission, where you loose the desire, the spirit and the alive feeling. The M/s and or D/s relationship should not feel in a constant state of agony but, a happy and alive feeling, looking forward to the next day as to where life will take you.
If any dominant expresses the desire to 'break' you--I would ask them to expand on what they mean by breaking. So much can be learned on what is the meaning of this word to them. I'd avoid the rape, plunder and pillage sort, the mindless and spiritless slave desires by a dominant and or use and abuse sorts. If it is breaking a few bad habits, like cussing, smoking, drugs, alcohol or putting yourself down--that I can live with. Poor choices of words, should be explored at times; especially in using the word "breaking" or "broke," as it relates to BDSM.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
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