fucktoyprincess
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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt
I've topped and dominated both male and female s-types, and I don't necessarily differentiate between sub and slave. (That definition mainly interests me if you're *my* slave.)
I can easily make generalizations based on gender, and most who follow this board can do so as well.
Males s-types tend to: be more focused on the sexual, most especially their specific kinks; tend to seek a play partner, not a longer term relationship; tend to seek a fetish delivery device, as opposed to a person; tend to very open about sexual fantasies, closed about emotions; tend to be less picky about their dominant's partner's level of experience; tend to be surprised at how emotionally involved they can get with a dom partner they do not have sex with; tend to go into kink with a "I have no limits" attitude, seeking to explore all, and in that way determine what they don't like.
Females s-types tend to be more focused on the emotions, less on the sex (although if she can find someone who can dominant her sexually in the way she wants, she may very well become invested, even if she is not getting what she wants emotionally from the relationship); tend to seek relationships instead of play partners; tend to look for people not merely fetish delivery devices; tend to be closed about sexual fantasies, open about emotions; tend to want to know about the dom partner's level of expertise; tend to be more prone to sub frenzy (JMO), tend to approach kink with a more cautious attitude, and to initially start with a list of hard and soft limits.
This is by no means an exhaustive list. And they are merely tendencies I have observed, not hard and fast rules. Because I agree with Sylvere, personality is a much better indicator than gender of how the individual with respond.
I think that ChatteParfaitt has captured what most of us would expect the differences to be, but as she said, tendencies as opposed to hard and fast rules. I think, regardless of gender or sexual orientation, that people would be somewhere along this spectrum, and that in every instance, trying to figure out where someone is on this spectrum is going to be more useful than just using gender alone as a guide.
Part of the reason for my saying this is that I fall closer to the male description above than the female. So if someone went by my gender alone, they would probably not get the dynamic right for me, personally. Interestingly, having been with both male and female Dominants, I've never had an experience (after actually getting to know someone and selecting someone to submit to) where there was a mismatch. Perhaps the Dominants I am attracted to (and who are attracted to me) are good matches for me and that is why we are attracted to each other to begin with - the nature of the interaction is already what it needs to be for each of us from the moment we first meet (?)
Anyway, generally speaking, to the OP, I'm not a big fan of using gender as dispositive, as I know many, many women who do not fit the classic stereotypes/molds/experiences that are either attributed to or experienced by "most" women. Always remember that some of us are exceptions to the rule as Chatte delineated in her description. 
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