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Treasure29 -> Are you interested in watching your dom with another sub? (10/2/2012 1:36:56 AM)

OK the subject is brought up, who wants to watch their sub with another Dom?

But how many of you ladies, submissives and slaves, have gone from strict managomy and found watching your Dom with another sub/slave is intoxicatingly arousing??

Why is it so arousing?
Does it depend on who the other gal is?
Is there any jealousy?
Who brought the "scene" up, you or your Dom?




Treasure29 -> RE: Are you interested in watching your dom with another sub? (10/2/2012 1:53:34 AM)

I have gone from strict monogamy to when watching my Dom even grope another girls breasts very intoxicating!
I think it's arousing because he's having fun at doing something while I give him a blowjob! We both choose a girl together and I don't feel jealous as in the next two years we have already discussed keeping our marraige then monogamous!We both brought the topic up 2 years ago! We've been together 5 years now and we just got engaged last January! Yes we are still smitten with each other like we just met! My Dom and I have spoken about him having sex with a black girl and we're both interested in it! Sometimes people think if another girl is brought into a couple. Jealousy will happen! I'm not like that, I even more interest as besides me having fun with her so will my future partner!



AthenaSurrenders -> RE: Are you interested in watching your dom with another sub? (10/2/2012 2:54:46 AM)

No this doesn't interest me at all.

If he wanted to go to a party and play with another sub, I'd support him. I can't see that happening since he is not one for casual play. I'd join in if he wanted too, though it's not my thing.

But anything more serious than that? No way. I don't know for certain whether or not I would be jealous of him having sex with someone else. But I don't wanna risk it. I don't wanna bring negativity into our relationship. I'm sure that I would be jealous of him spending any significant portion of his time with another sub - his free time is so limited as it is.

We've talked about this, and ultimately if he wanted it, I would go along because I love him and trust him to make the right decisions for our relationship. But it is not something I want.

I know it sounds sappy, but our relationship is wonderful as it is. Our sex life is fab and varied. We love each other. We are on the same page on so many levels. We communicate well. So we'd probably be good candidates for bringing in another person, since we are so stable and sorted already. But we just don't want to. Neither of us feels that urge very strongly, so why mess with what works?



BeIgnited -> RE: Are you interested in watching your dom with another sub? (10/2/2012 3:44:47 AM)

We've discussed this sort of thing as a fantasy before and actually developed the "naked rule*" so we could explore it as a fantasy. I'm wary of actually trying it in real life because I couldn't tell you if I would freak out (or he would, I suppose)-- there are no take-backs with that sort of thing and if one of us were to lose our shit in the middle of it, it would be a terrible position to put another person in.

We have gone to a strip club and gotten a lap dance together before which I found much hotter than I thought I would. It might have been the goofy look he got when she rubbed her nipples across his face, though [:D].




*Anything said while naked should be assumed be fantasy and shouldn't be taken seriously without further, clothed discussion.



myotherself -> RE: Are you interested in watching your dom with another sub? (10/2/2012 3:53:31 AM)

We're both monogamous, so him having another woman sexually isn't on the cards. In fact, it would one of the few things that could destroy our relationship.

He is a sadist, and I have no problem if he wants to cane, whip or do other unspeakably painful things to another when we're at a play party, but he's just not interested. For some reason he prefers to play with me [:)]



kalikshama -> RE: Are you interested in watching your dom with another sub? (10/2/2012 5:22:45 AM)

quote:

But how many of you ladies, submissives and slaves, have gone from strict managomy and found watching your Dom with another sub/slave is intoxicatingly arousing??


I've never been "strictly monogamous."

Perhaps since I've been having threesomes for decades, it's not that big a deal to see him with another woman.



OsideGirl -> RE: Are you interested in watching your dom with another sub? (10/2/2012 7:51:39 AM)

Master has played with many women while I watch.

He and I have this massive energy that I never get to see when we play together. When he's playing with someone else, I can see that and it still flows between us.

I'm not jealous. He makes it clear everyday that I'm the love of his life. He is open and honest with me and does not do things behind my back.

The request to play in most cases has come from a submissive that wishes to play with him. Then he approaches me to see if I'm okay with the person that has requested the scene.



peppermint -> RE: Are you interested in watching your dom with another sub? (10/2/2012 9:40:10 AM)

He's often played with other submissives when we're at a dungeon however he has occasionally had a newbie who wants to experience something come to the house. This might be needles or flogging or electro play. (1) I don't find it arousing at all. I don't think watching him beat or poke holes in someone is sexual in the least bit. (2) Since he has done this with males and females, no, it does not matter who the lady is. (3) There might be some jealousy if we run out of time and he's tired and can't play with me for as long as I'd like. (4) Since we meet with people as a couple, it's usually a mutual thing. Someone will talk about wanting to know what needles feel like and we'll talk about our experience with them and before you know it the needles are out and the person we were chatting with now knows what a needle feels like.

By the way, we are still strictly monogamous sexually.



OsideGirl -> RE: Are you interested in watching your dom with another sub? (10/2/2012 9:53:04 AM)


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ORIGINAL: peppermint
here might be some jealousy if we run out of time and he's tired and can't play with me for as long as I'd like.


Master has always made sure that I'm first. He has even cancelled some scene dates because our scene ended up going huge and he wanted to make sure I was able to function.



littlewonder -> RE: Are you interested in watching your dom with another sub? (10/2/2012 10:01:58 AM)

It wouldn't work for me. I'd be in tears and probably having an anxiety attack.



RemoteUser -> RE: Are you interested in watching your dom with another sub? (10/2/2012 10:08:31 AM)

My girl wouldn't want to see me with someone else, just like I don't want to see her with someone else.

I'm quite fulfilled with her. [:)]

That said, I'm glad you enjoy the dynamic you have with your Dom and I hope it works out for you.



peppermint -> RE: Are you interested in watching your dom with another sub? (10/2/2012 11:47:50 AM)


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


Master has always made sure that I'm first. He has even cancelled some scene dates because our scene ended up going huge and he wanted to make sure I was able to function.


Years ago when we first got together there was another sub as part of our relationship. Since I live with Gary and the other submissive did not I felt it only fair that the other submissive got the majority of play time when we were at a dungeon. He and I could have fun at home whenever we wanted. He also has a very expensive electric toy that does absolutely nothing for me, but some others love it. Rather than have it sit around collecting dust and taking up space, it's good that he can use it on others.

Yes, I have gotten a little jealous. I deal with it and laugh at myself for being so silly.



OsideGirl -> RE: Are you interested in watching your dom with another sub? (10/2/2012 11:51:26 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: peppermint


quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


Master has always made sure that I'm first. He has even cancelled some scene dates because our scene ended up going huge and he wanted to make sure I was able to function.


Years ago when we first got together there was another sub as part of our relationship. Since I live with Gary and the other submissive did not I felt it only fair that the other submissive got the majority of play time when we were at a dungeon. He and I could have fun at home whenever we wanted. He also has a very expensive electric toy that does absolutely nothing for me, but some others love it. Rather than have it sit around collecting dust and taking up space, it's good that he can use it on others.

Yes, I have gotten a little jealous. I deal with it and laugh at myself for being so silly.


That's probably the difference. We generally played at the Lair with others, rather than at home.



searching4mysir -> RE: Are you interested in watching your dom with another sub? (10/2/2012 2:41:17 PM)

I'm monogamous. He can look but he can't touch.



RaspberryLemon -> RE: Are you interested in watching your dom with another sub? (10/2/2012 2:55:18 PM)

My Master and I are 100% monogamous. I need and thrive on exclusive fulfillment--in both directions.

To watch him with another would utterly destroy me inside. Complete despair. It wouldn't be arousing at all. I'd feel jealous, angry, sad, and worthless. Not good. He wouldn't want to see me with another either.

So it just wouldn't work either way and neither of us is interested. I can't claim I understand those who DO enjoy that/find it arousing, but whatever floats their boat is ok in my book as long as everybody's happy.



kitkat105 -> RE: Are you interested in watching your dom with another sub? (10/2/2012 8:30:35 PM)

I can't say I'd find it arousing but I don't have a problem with it. At the end of the day, I know he's coming home and sleeping with me.



littleone35 -> RE: Are you interested in watching your dom with another sub? (10/5/2012 2:35:26 PM)

We have a monogamous relationship. Him pkaying with another would be a deal breaker. I love him but if he did that whan we agreed to be monogamous i wouls have to walk away cause i could not trust him anymore. For me love and mistrust cannot live in the same house. I know he would never do that though.

Matt's littleone



DarkSteven -> RE: Are you interested in watching your dom with another sub? (10/5/2012 5:01:22 PM)

Define "play".

I do not play sexually with others. Should we bring in a third to our relationship, that would change but I doubt it will happen any time soon.

That said, I have spanked, flogged, and put nipple clamps on other women, with her knowledge. Other men have done the same to her, with my knowledge.



Greta75 -> RE: Are you interested in watching your dom with another sub? (10/6/2012 12:40:38 PM)


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To watch him with another would utterly destroy me inside. Complete despair. It wouldn't be arousing at all. I'd feel jealous, angry, sad, and worthless.


This describes it perfectly.



DaddySatyr -> RE: Are you interested in watching your dom with another sub? (10/6/2012 12:50:04 PM)

My girl is all any man could ever need. She's everything to me and I have no other desire for contact with any other human being [/sarcasm]

There. That's better. I take great joy and pride in watching my lady(/ies) play with others. Just as I expect them to be okay with my lifestyle. I put very few limits on other partners (unless that relationship is impacting upon ours).

I know that there is no way in hell I can be everything for any one person. I wouldn't try. It would drive me nuts. Likewise, no lady is ever going to be everything for me and I tell them that, immediately.

The whole "play" word bothers me, a bit. I have to admit that I get on my moral high horse when someone says: "It's just sex". That irks me. I build and maintain relationships with ladies and my lady(/ies) do the same. I think that the more love we can give and receive, the happier we are as people.



Peace and comfort,



Michael



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