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Fin Dommes- how do you deal with constantly being accus... - 10/2/2012 9:03:49 PM   
ThePrincessKali


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Status: offline 		Hello ladies,

I am asking for the advice of my fellow financial domme's. I have been told by a couple subs that I was being posted on some "list of fakes" after accusing them of being fake for a number of reasons (wanting fetish talk w/o tribute, promising to pay tribute and then failing to do so). How do you deal with this? I know it's retaliation but I am 100% real and I don't want to be branded as a fake. I also receive messages from people on the site whom I have not had any dialogue with informing me that I'm being reported as a scammer and that I'm probably a man. Since there is no way to get cam verified here I'm not sure what to do. Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you!

Princess Kali
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RE: Fin Dommes- how do you deal with constantly being a... - 10/2/2012 9:16:37 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		There are only a few fin doms on the boards here, but lots of women get that line about being reported as a fake. It's just sour grapes. Ignore it, your real audience knows what to look for.

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RE: Fin Dommes- how do you deal with constantly being a... - 10/2/2012 9:33:32 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		There are some fin dommes that I have quite a bit of respect for. Of course, that's because they have intelligence, whit, and lack gullibility.


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RE: Fin Dommes- how do you deal with constantly being a... - 10/2/2012 9:37:59 PM   
Alecta


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Status: offline 		I get that "you're a guy!" thing a lot and I'm not even a FinDomme, so relax Kali, it's not you or your orientation.
Sadly this sort of shenanigans comes with the territory. Just keep yourself above it and sally on.

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RE: Fin Dommes- how do you deal with constantly being a... - 10/2/2012 9:55:19 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Block them and move on.

Especially the "you're a man" fucktards.

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RE: Fin Dommes- how do you deal with constantly being a... - 10/2/2012 11:04:27 PM   
AthenaSurrenders


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Status: offline 		I wouldn't worry about it. The 'you're a man' line is usually a ploy to get you to go on cam. Collarme has no list of fakes and there are so many people on here that you're not likely to build up a reputation. Also, lots of people will call you 'fake' when they mean 'not what I want you to be'. Being a FinDomme will always get you accused of being a fake because there's lots of guys out there who don't like that you won't get them off for nothing.

Edit because I just read your profile: you are also naming people as fake. Don't do that. It's against the rules and do you really want to stoop to their level?

< Message edited by AthenaSurrenders -- 10/2/2012 11:09:54 PM >

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RE: Fin Dommes- how do you deal with constantly being a... - 10/2/2012 11:30:11 PM   
ThePrincessKali


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Status: offline 		Athena I took it off just now after seeing your comment. It wasn't so much as a call out as a warning because that individual was predatory and had threatened me and I didn't want someone else to get caught up.

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RE: Fin Dommes- how do you deal with constantly being a... - 10/2/2012 11:34:34 PM   
ThePrincessKali


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Status: offline 		And I appreciate everyone else's feedback now I know there's no "list" I feel better I was searching the forums for one and came up empty handed so I wasn't sure if I was looking in the wrong place or something lol. It's a shame that there are so many fake domme's and subs that it's come down to everyone accusing everyone else. And I didn't think of the cam thing but makes sense. Thanks all!

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RE: Fin Dommes- how do you deal with constantly being a... - 10/3/2012 4:00:04 AM   
DarkSteven


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ThePrincessKali

Thanks all!


To properly express your thanks, you oughta give us a free cam session.

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RE: Fin Dommes- how do you deal with constantly being a... - 10/3/2012 4:08:02 AM   
DeviantlyD


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ThePrincessKali
... now I know there's no "list" I feel better



Sorry to burst your bubble, but there is a collarme "list". It just isn't on this site.

Cam verification could, in theory, be done on collarme videochat.


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RE: Fin Dommes- how do you deal with constantly being a... - 10/3/2012 4:09:58 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		And the lists are only as good as the people making them. Therefor they are worthless.

I hope I am on each and every 'faker' list! I think that might just make my day.

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RE: Fin Dommes- how do you deal with constantly being a... - 10/3/2012 4:27:37 AM   
DeviantlyD


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Status: offline 		I didn't say the lists were good or bad. I merely stated they existed.

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RE: Fin Dommes- how do you deal with constantly being a... - 10/3/2012 9:35:01 AM   
RumpusParable


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ThePrincessKali

Hello ladies,

I am asking for the advice of my fellow financial domme's. I have been told by a couple subs that I was being posted on some "list of fakes" after accusing them of being fake for a number of reasons (wanting fetish talk w/o tribute, promising to pay tribute and then failing to do so). How do you deal with this? I know it's retaliation but I am 100% real and I don't want to be branded as a fake. I also receive messages from people on the site whom I have not had any dialogue with informing me that I'm being reported as a scammer and that I'm probably a man. Since there is no way to get cam verified here I'm not sure what to do. Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you!

Princess Kali


The simple fact is that, as a female Dom of any type - financial or not, you are going to be screamed about (and at you) as a fake if you don't do what a male sub/bottom wants you to. A LOT.

I get this from potential financial subs.(if I expect them to send things they've said they would)
I get this from potential toilet slaves (something I'm totally not down for).
I get this from potential domestic slaves (if I actually want them to clean)
I get this from potential humiliation subs (if I don't do the exact sort of humiliation they want).
I get this from potential "no limits" slaves (if I am not into floggers, for one example).

And so the list goes on.

Shrug off the ones that yell about you and just focus on the good of when you find someone compatible.

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RE: Fin Dommes- how do you deal with constantly being a... - 10/4/2012 2:39:58 PM   
patrick15sub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RumpusParable


The simple fact is that, as a female Dom of any type - financial or not, you are going to be screamed about (and at you) as a fake if you don't do what a male sub/bottom wants you to. A LOT.

I get this from potential financial subs.(if I expect them to send things they've said they would)
I get this from potential toilet slaves (something I'm totally not down for).
I get this from potential domestic slaves (if I actually want them to clean)
I get this from potential humiliation subs (if I don't do the exact sort of humiliation they want).
I get this from potential "no limits" slaves (if I am not into floggers, for one example).



This seems very counter intuitive, are they trying to top from the bottom? I do not understand a sub's rationale demanding something from his/her Dom/Domme... It seems very illogical.

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RE: Fin Dommes- how do you deal with constantly being a... - 10/4/2012 2:50:22 PM   
Alecta


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Status: offline 		It helps once you realise that some people think "sub" is a sexual position.

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RE: Fin Dommes- how do you deal with constantly being a... - 10/5/2012 1:21:24 AM   
TNDommeK


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Status: offline 		LP- I thought your comment was witty lol.
Poor Dave,lol.

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RE: Fin Dommes- how do you deal with constantly being a... - 10/5/2012 1:56:53 PM   
VideoAdminChi


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Status: offline 		FR,

I have removed a post and a few replies.

Per our Forum Guidelines: This isn't a place to insult the kinks, preferences, lifestyles, etc. of others. If you don't like what another person enjoys, rest assured that there are plenty of others out there that probably don't like your activities either.

If you need help discussing a kink without being insulting, please PM me for suggestions.

Thank you.

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RE: Fin Dommes- how do you deal with constantly being a... - 9/18/2013 10:14:00 AM   
DevilMissMaria


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Status: offline 		I get that A LOT too. I'm cursed at, degraded, called a fake; pretty much everything in the book. But what do I do? I laugh, delete them, block them and count my money :) I'm going to spend my NOT earned money on a Brazilian wax for the vagina they say I don't have ;)


-Haters are gonna hate and players are gonna play...

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RE: Fin Dommes- how do you deal with constantly being a... - 9/18/2013 10:31:27 AM   
VideoAdminRho


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Status: offline 		Please do not resurrect threads that are more than three months old. Since there are already at least two current active threads on this subject, you may post a link in that thread and make a comment.

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