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Hi there - 10/2/2012 10:22:42 PM

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Hi there people. I am new to this world. I am a bi-sexual woman (new) with a Daddydom that I adore. I would welcome any and all advice at how to start connecting with other women. I have spent over 40 years living as a straight woman and would love to finally let out the wild me that I am when I am alone. I love having my ass spanked. I enjoy cockworship. I am the mothering type but I am still submissive even to those that I feel the need to mother.

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RE: Hi there - 10/3/2012 3:34:01 AM

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Most women like to date, so if you mean connecting with women who might become your gf or fwb, do that. Find women to go on vanilla dates with. Hang out in lesbian bars. Meet women interested in other women online. Avoid doing to them anything that would turn you off in anyone approaching you.

If you just mean connecting with the female gender in general, find a popular activity for the kind of women you're hoping to get to know (yoga, book club, crafts, art, cooking, women's entrepreneur club, helping hands, etc) and join a class or club.

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RE: Hi there - 10/3/2012 6:14:18 AM

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Thank you but I haven't a clue on how the whole dating thing really works. See I spent 20 years married to hs sweetheart and current bf was introduced through my daughter. I have a hard time going out and making friends let alone figuring out where to go to meet bisexual women that really are into women. We are both very fun loving however we are also both finding ourselves becoming introverts. in part due to his ptsd and my depression over having to start my life over with nothing (still not quite there).

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RE: Hi there - 10/3/2012 6:29:56 AM

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Are you looking for a playmate for both of you or a girlfriend just for you? If it's just for you, then the suggestion of going to bars is as good as any.

If you're looking for both of you, I'm not so sure what to suggest other than both of you looking together. You might want to read the bisexual women thread in off topic, there is quite a lot of discussion in there about the frustrations of some women who are looking.

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RE: Hi there - 10/3/2012 6:51:36 AM

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Here's the thread: http://www.collarchat.com/m_4254146/tm.htm

During my seven years in South Florida, I never had a hard time hooking up with bi women and also had two relationships. The vast majority I didn't meet online, but at the beach, through friends, and at swinger and kink events.

While I've been enjoying sex with women since I was a teenager, I don't seek it. I never look at profiles. With women, I seem to only develop that spark in person.

Maybe lots of other bi women are the same and that is why we are so hard to find online?

The Big Lies People Tell In Online Dating

"I'm bisexual."

REALITY: 80% of self-identified bisexuals are only interested in one gender.

OkCupid is a gay- and bi-friendly place and it's not our intention here to call into question anyone's sexual identity. But when we looked into messaging trends by sexuality, we were very surprised at what we found. People who describe themselves as bisexual overwhelmingly message either one sex or the other, not both as you might expect. Site-wide, here's how it breaks out:

This suggests that bisexuality is often either a hedge for gay people or a label adopted by straights to appear more sexually adventurous to their (straight) matches. You can actually see these trends in action in the chart below.

Again, this is just the data we've collected. We'd be very interested in our bisexual users' thoughts on this single-sex-messaging phenomenon, so if you'd like to weigh-in please use the comments section. Please note, everybody, that we don’t assume that bis should be “into both genders equally.” We only assume that they should be into both genders at all. The swaths of red and blue that you see in these sexuality charts represent people who message only one gender. The purple areas are people who send any messages, in whatever proportion, to both men and women.

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RE: Hi there - 10/3/2012 6:56:52 AM

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Wow that was an interesting snippet!

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RE: Hi there - 10/3/2012 7:23:55 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: kalikshama

REALITY: 80% of self-identified bisexuals are only interested in one gender.

No offense to OkCupid but I dont see what bloody difference that makes... My personal definition of bisexual is someone that has had in the past or is open to sex with the same sex, how often they email or view profiles of their gender doesnt fit my definition.. To say a bi person must email the same sex more than the opposite sex to qualify as OkCupid's definition of bi is ridiculous to me.. 30% bi is still bi imo.. and imo most bis will fall on one side or the other.. few are equally attracted to both sexes..

I am straight, totally, and no interest in sex with women but geeze,.. I do look at womens profiles (just curiousity or nice pics) and women do email me (platonically only tho but OMG it has never occured to me that they might have other motives

).. that doesnt make me bisexual any more than emailing the opposite sex makes a bisexual a liar.. I do think some women lie & use "bi" as a marketing tool but imo they are kidding themselves and gonna attract the wrong kinda guy.. but people lie about a lotta things on their profiles.. so that should be no surprise..

But really.. a for-profit corp coming to the conclusion that many bis arent twue bis and that i should believe their (likely biased) conclusions is to me a WTF moment..

And,.. imnsho,.. the fact that they are monitoring people/profiles in that manner is just as offensive as what FB does.. now ya got me wondering what CM does in that violation-of-privacy respect..

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RE: Hi there - 10/3/2012 7:29:31 AM

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Where does it say that their definition of Bi means emailing the same sex more than the opposite sex? I missed that totally. I only saw where it said nearly 80% only ever emailed one gender, never the other at all. I know that still doesn't prove they are bi or not, but it's still a curious statistic.

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RE: Hi there - 10/3/2012 7:40:30 AM

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ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders

Where does it say that their definition of Bi means emailing the same sex more than the opposite sex? I missed that totally. I only saw where it said nearly 80% only ever emailed one gender, never the other at all. I know that still doesn't prove they are bi or not, but it's still a curious statistic.

They are coming to a judgement based on how often someone emails the same/opposite sex.. I sorta find that offensive.. How often someone emails their sex doesnt fit my personal definition.. I am straight but I rarely email men, that doesnt make me any less straight.. it just means I dont find many men in my target age all that attractive..

I find it curious that they monitor peoples profiles like that..

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RE: Hi there - 10/3/2012 10:35:08 AM

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And,.. imnsho,.. the fact that they are monitoring people/profiles in that manner is just as offensive as what FB does

You can relax - All data is anonymized and aggregated; no member of our blog staff sees an individual user's personal information.

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a for-profit corp coming to the conclusion that many bis arent twue bis and that i should believe their (likely biased) conclusions is to me a WTF moment..

Did you miss this part:

Please note, everybody, that we don't assume that bis should be "into both genders equally." We only assume that they should be into both genders at all.

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RE: Hi there - 10/3/2012 10:39:12 AM

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We really should take this over to the Bi sub women thread, so as not to hijack the OP's intro - sorry DonnysStar!

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RE: Hi there - 10/3/2012 4:27:29 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: kalikshama

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And,.. imnsho,.. the fact that they are monitoring people/profiles in that manner is just as offensive as what FB does

You can relax - All data is anonymized and aggregated; no member of our blog staff sees an individual user's personal information.

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a for-profit corp coming to the conclusion that many bis arent twue bis and that i should believe their (likely biased) conclusions is to me a WTF moment..

Did you miss this part:

Please note, everybody, that we don't assume that bis should be "into both genders equally." We only assume that they should be into both genders at all.

I dont really care if the say info is anonymized (for now, no guarantee they wont find a way to make a profit at some point down the road) and all that.. that someone is watching what you are doing online I find offensive, to me its a privacy issue.. like someone looking at or analyzing your mail in your mailbox and coming to conclusions about you based on that.. Now today there is talk of Facebook wanting to track people offline too.. imo its bad enough that when i do a google search for something and check out a product, all of a sudden all the ads on any other pages i view are for those recent products whose pages i viewed.. I have had enough of that shite.. so let say they determine that bi's buy more anal lube than hetros do, so all of a sudden profiles that state they are bi get pop-up ads with wiggly butts selling anal lube.. You dont think they are anaylizing all that data out of the goodness of their corporate hearts, do ya?? So, I simply do not trust any of them.. any info they get (anonymized or not) is done to get into your brain so they can friggin sell you something (or sell that info to some other company that wants to sell you something)..

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