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seekingreality -> RE: Seriously? Are all the profiles fake? (11/18/2012 12:30:03 AM)
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ORIGINAL: MAINEiacMISTRESS
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ORIGINAL: seekingreality
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ORIGINAL: AlexC4U2003
I personally take offense to this sites automatic spam if u send the same message to a bunch of profiles. most people u contact on here have not been on in months or years so most will not respond for whatever reason. Plus, Why should I compose a completely new message for every profile when some of them don't even bother to write anything in their profiles and when it may not even get read in the first place? I will send a short simple message on first contact, and if the person replies, then I will go into more detail and more specifics.
Does anyone else feel this way or am I alone on my own island on this one?
If that works for you, that's fine. Plenty of people here write form letters on first contact. Ultimately, all that matters if it your approach is getting the result you want. Sure, most people prefer to get a personalized letter. But if your experience shows that a form letter and a personalized letter gets you the same overall response, I can see why you wouldn't want to spend a lot time writing a personal letter on first contact. And really, if you are writing to blank profile, you're just spamming to see who will respond, so there really isn't a reason to pretend you are writing a personal letter, because how can you write anything personal to a blank profile?
I am not a mass mailer myself, and write to very few people here, so when I do it's personal. But the personal part might only be the opening, telling them why I am writing. It's not like the rest of my message is continually referencing their profile or something.
A thoughtfully written personal letter (and showing up on My "who's viewing me" list to prove you've actually taken time to learn My requirements) almost always gets My attention. If it's an obvious form letter-->BLOCKED.
Frankly, that probably depends on your skill as a writer. If you know what you're doing, it doesn't take much work to make a form letter not seem like a form letter. Just add a couple of sentences related to the profile.
And let's be honest: You could write the greatest letter ever, and if the recipient doesn't take to your photo it won't happen. So I understand why people don't want to waste a lot of time writing customized letters.
And I'll be really honest: Because I write for a living, I write a damn good letter. There really isn't a reason for me to spend a lot of time individualizing my initial letter. Basicallty, I am saying, "Here is who i am -- you interested?" And if they are interested, the personal exchange starts there. If they aren"t interested, I haven't wasted time writing a personal letter.
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